Best comebacks please

[ChoochooMcGoo]

Let's say someone has behaved really badly and you just cannot let it pass without confronting them. They've caused a lot of hurt to a lot of people and have been manipulative.

When you confront them and they say you have no right to judge them what would your best comeback be?

This person uses this line a lot to deflect from answering a question so need a good response to shut it down.

You're wasting your time, people like this always feel they can justify their horrible behaviour and nothing you say or do will make the slightest difference to them.

Life isn't a scripted drama.

I want to get my point across without being shut down. Its not about having a script.

Kick him/her in the cock/foof.

I'd say: Hmm, yeah, they do say that narcissists find it hard to take responsibility.

You can give your opinion on facts and lay it out to them. As the other poster said they are unlikely to agree. We have a family member like this, they are awful. I have little interaction with them thank heavens!

'That's all well and good but I do have the right to point out that you have hurt xxxx, so let me have my say please!'

Love it! Keep it coming

It depends on you relationship to them (ie, boss?) and what they did.

Personally, I would try not to waste that much thought on them.

I love the word “foof”. Bless you, MN.

As for comebacks, I rarely think there’s a point. Would rather just remove that person from my life and not spend anymore energy on them.

What did your person actually do?

Not boss, not relative. Someone who is actively hurting someone i care about.

they say you have no right to judge them

"On the contrary, I have every right to judge you".

To what end though, OP? What do you think it will achieve? It’s great you want to stand up for your loved one, don’t get me wrong. There really isn’t enough of that about these days. But will saying something make things worse for your friend? Can you not help them take practical steps to remove themselves from the person’s life instead?

YABU.

Say, “The universe has judged you. And the verdict is in. You’re a rancid piece of shit!”

’You have no right to judge me!’
’And yet, I do.’
Walk away.

Jut say they've misunderstood, you're not judging, you're laying out some facts.

you have no right to judge them

'Crikey, I hadn't thought of you as a narcissist before, but that's an almost text book response. You do realise that's not normal don't you" said with cocked head & concerned smile

Ignore the comeback and continue with your sentence with a big smile.

Opinions are like arseholes. Everyone has one

"People do judge you. This is what I'm pointing out to you. Your behaviour was appalling and people have, quite rightly, formed an opinion of you based on this. Saying they have no right to judge you is simply bullshit and fool no one".

Loving this thread!

I can't do any better than @StealthPussy suggestion. Great response there!

Please can you update us and let us know how it goes? When are you planning to confront this person?

"You can't tell stupid," then runaway !

I’d be tempted to say

Only someone with a total
lack of judgment would say that

"nevertheless". Saw it on another thread, am using it liberally. Perfect response to any bullshit imo.

No judgement involved, just outlining the facts.