to be outraged by Nativity casting as 'Innkeeper's wife'!!!

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Daughter (6) has been cast as 'someone's wife' in the Nativity play at school. 'Innkeeper's wife' to be precise.

Err...hello!?

This is fucking not OK! In 2019, to be identified as 'someone's wife'.

Normally I am pretty relaxed about all things school, and I certainly feel sorry for he teachers' workloads, but come on people!? This is 2019 - no woman should be identified by her relationship to a man!? SURELY!

Itching to call them out on this. Itching!

Soo Sandra now works as the premier Inn receptionist?

I wonder what you’d call a woman who is married to the innkeeper if you didn’t known either of their names.. at this rate it’ll be fucking Voldemort.

At least she wasn’t cast as camel 2’s back end... yes I was an arse.

I’m with you OP, how about just innkeepers...

But innkeepers did, and still do have wives!

Yes but why is it not innkeeper and innkeepers husband? It's semantics but word choice does matter. Casual sexism shouldn't go unchecked.

And when you're allocating roles like the Christmas fox, the lamppost or whatever brilliantly creative roles teachers come up with to accommodate the number of kids taking part then why stick with tradition? Just because something has always been done one way doesn't necessarily mean it's still the right way?

I wouldn't be raising it with the school just now as roles have been allocated, by why not a wee bit of feedback questioning it for next year?

“I wonder what you’d call a woman who is married to the innkeeper if you didn’t known either of their names..”
Presumably the innkeeper’s wife. What’s your point?

I do remember one nativity where the Innkeeper's wife was clearly in charge and stereotypically bossy (making the Innkeeper do all the sweeping and getting the stable ready)

Is that any better?

Well, I’m another one who would be about this too so ner ner.

Given the nativity is all a made up load of bollocks anyway, it wouldn’t particularly detract from the message to rewrite the cast list and name her Sandra (or the Bethlehem 2000 Years Ago equivalent).

“ I do remember one nativity where the Innkeeper's wife was clearly in charge and stereotypically bossy (making the Innkeeper do all the sweeping and getting the stable ready)

Is that any better?”

No.

I wonder what you’d call a woman who is married to the innkeeper if you didn’t known either of their names..

Innkeeper's wife. But we don't know the innkeepers name either yet he gets to be innkeeper. Why should a woman be defined by her relationship with a man yet he just to just be 'the man'. It's 2019 ffs.

What a pile of Little donkey poo.

Yanbu, the innkeeper is a crap role, I'd imagine the innkeepers wife is even less exciting.

I wouldn't be raising it with the school just now as roles have been allocated, by why not a wee bit of feedback questioning it for next year?

I wouldn’t either, but I might have a quiet word at some point.

Was thinking about a similar post where your son had the part of innkeeper’s husband. Suspect lots would see the sexism then.

This is 2019, Jesus's birth was quite some time ago. We don't have to rewrite history to bring everything up to date.

oh dear, do you not have anything important to think about? Yo cannot relate an ancient legend to today, or are you one of these who wants to rewrite history?

Oh dear did you not realise the whole thing has not been rewritten. Endlessly.

Hence the foxes, elephants, Brussels sprouts, etc etc mentioned on here?

Oh ffs get a grip.

Op (et al) if you're so outraged at, as you perceive it, this further incidence of everyday feminism wouldn't it be better to use it as the opportunity to discuss it with your dd rather than just try to erase centuries of misogyny by air brushing this out?

Why not say is it right that she was only known as the inn keeper's wife and not as a person in her own right and how much things have changed now etc etc rather than pretending that it didn't happen by giving her a name or making her co owner?

She could have been cast as the plug socket like the sainsbury advert last year.
Really op, give your head a wobble and get yourself sorted

Lol. Op you do understand don't you that the play is replicating the time period, it's not been modernised. 🤣🤣🤣

Perhaps the wife in the nativity story wasn't an innkeeper, perhaps she took nothing to do with the innkeeping business, therefore she wouldn't be called an innkeeper.

+Have we all just assumed the innkeeper is heterosexual? wink.*
I think it’s more than an assumption. Had the innkeepers partner been same sex they’d probably have been stoned to death much earlier in the piece. What fun.
Why arent people making more concrete suggestions like the op should check how many female authors or characters are in the reading books? Things you could legitimately comment on to the school! Unless I missed those.

oh dear, do you not have anything important to think about? Yo cannot relate an ancient legend to today

Eh? This is literally all that religions do.

this is hilarious. Has to be a joke surely?

My daughter was Joseph in her playgroup nativity play. That was nearly three decades ago.
The children were told the story, asked which character they'd like to be, and my daughter was adamant that she wanted to be Joseph. So she was.

It wasn't a remotely trendy, right on, or middle class playgroup. But the play leaders just thought 'why not?'.

My dd was a wise man - should I be angry that they assumed that she identified as a man? 😂

My Ds was a shepherd and they drew facial hair on him. Should I be angry?

“ Op you do understand don't you that the play is replicating the time period, it's not been modernised.”

Interesting. Not modernised at all?