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disabled parking-ishy question

68 replies

veryshop · 15/11/2019 08:47

would you park outside your neighbours house if they were disabled, but didn't have a disabled bay marked out? I have a blue badge but haven't applied for the bay on the road outside my house. neighbour house 3 vehicles. we live in town in a terrace so parking is difficult. they have 1 vehicle outside their house all the time. then park the vehicle they use more, outside mine. I know I have no claim to the spot outside my house, but it makes things just that bit harder. I just wouldn't do this if situation was reversed, so interested to know what consensus is

so the question is, would you do this?

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FriedasCarLoad · 15/11/2019 08:56

Definitely not if this was suburbia with plenty of spaces.

Honestly, I’m not sure about in town. I think I’d assume that someone else would fill the spot immediately if I didn’t take it, so the disabled neighbour still wouldn’t get it.

Can you have a chat with them?

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 08:57

no, we don't talk. I forgot to ask that part of the question; would it make a difference if you liked them or not?

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SoupDragon · 15/11/2019 08:59

If they'd explained how it makes things difficult and asked me not to I wouldn't unless it was absolutely necessary.

If you want to "reserve" the spot you really need to apply for a disabled bay though.

Stressedout10 · 15/11/2019 09:01

Ask the council for a disabled bay but expect the neighbour's to get prissy about it mine did

BeanBag7 · 15/11/2019 09:01

Apply for a disabled bay. Even if they dont park there, someone else probably will!

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:02

stressedout10, did they?? what did they say?!

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Akire · 15/11/2019 09:02

How obvious is your disability? Is it something they definitely know about?

Nothing lost my asking them to be aware that it’s harder for you to walk further away. You know you don’t have blue badge space at the moment but may have to if things progress.

Ticklemeelmo · 15/11/2019 09:03

If they park outside your house and you're both disabled then I'd say the space outside theirs is also fair game- I don't see a problem

ItsGoingTibiaK · 15/11/2019 09:03

It’s hard to say. Have you spoken to them about it? Sounds like there’s a backstory of you not getting on. And if your road is as busy as you imply, it’d be pretty annoying for your neighbours to leave the space free just to see other people who don’t know about your disability use it. Also, you probably know this, but if you successfully apply for a disabled bay, this can them be used by anyone with a blue badge - it isn’t reserved just for you.

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:04

I think it's a good point about if they didn't park there, someone else would. I hadn't really thought about that

I'm pissed off really that they have 3 big vans (2 adults). i think it's just inconsiderate from the start

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Ffsnosexallowed · 15/11/2019 09:05

Apply for a disabled bay. Surely if it's busy then other people will park there too?

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:05

@akire yes they know about my disability, it is obvious

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lynzpynz · 15/11/2019 09:06

If I knew you were disabled I personally wouldn't no but tbh if they don't someone else likely will anyway if its not marked and parking is in high demand.

My neighbours and visitors regularly park in front of our drive (part dipped kerb, part not so they block the non-dipped part entirely so we can't do owt...). Instead of the visitor / overflow parking directly across the road less than 10 ft away. Its always free they're just lazy and they know it annoys us as when visitors come to visit they can't get turning circle or space to get into our drive so we have to do the car shuffle every time 😑. Its a pain but main gripe is they come and go all hours and door slamming / loud voices wake the baby / us as distance from house to road is small. Only house on the street who parks on road as they converted their garage / driveway so can't fit anything others than a smart car on their drive anymore 🙄.

Get applying for your parking bay OP, takes ages so sooner you do it the better!

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:06

@Ticklemeelmo THEY aren't disabled Confused

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PollyShelby · 15/11/2019 09:07

Unless you get a bay you can't moan really.

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:07

I need to apply for the bay, don't I!

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TheFairyCaravan · 15/11/2019 09:08

I think if you need the space then you need to apply for it. I have a Blue Badge and when didn't have a drive we applied for the space straight away. I personally wouldn't park outside your house, I didn't used to park in my sister's neighbour's space because I felt it would be unfair, but not everyone is considerate or realises why parking outside your house is a necessity when you're disabled.

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:09

@Ticklemeelmo also, the space outside their house isn't 'fairgame' as they have one of their vans parked there, that they never use.

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 15/11/2019 09:11

To answer your question, it wouldn't matter if i liked the neighbour or not because I'm not that unkind. But if you didn't have a disabled bay, I would assume that parking elsewhere was OK for you, unless you specifically told me otherwise.

PP's point that other people would park there is a good one. Get yourself a bay! Let neighbours know when you get a date.

AJPTaylor · 15/11/2019 09:12

Apply for the bay!

lynzpynz · 15/11/2019 09:12

3 big vans OP? Like business vans? Check your deeds, lot of housing estates specify no work vans (personally think unreasonable!) allowed or any work vans must be parked on personal driveways and not on street spaces (more reasonable designed to prevent all resident spaces being used by business vehicles - prime example in my old street one family ran a wedding car business, took up 8 resident spaces for 2 people and resident association used similar clause to get them to move them or said would take it further, they moved them...)

SoupDragon · 15/11/2019 09:13

they have one of their vans parked there, that they never use.

Is it taxed?

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:15

@lynzpynz 1 is a work van, transit sized. the one that sits outside their house and isn't used is transit sized. then they have a big motorhome parked permanently across the street

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stucknoue · 15/11/2019 09:15

Unless there's a bay they are doing nothing wrong. And not all disabilities are visible either. Apply to the council for a bay but be aware any blue badge user can use it

CactusAndCacti · 15/11/2019 09:16

A bay wouldn't be solely for your use though, anyone with a blue badge can use it. It is always a possibility that another neighbour will use it.

Most councils won't do them though as they then need to 'police' them.

They sound very inconsiderate, but as others have said even if they stop parking there, someone else will.