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disabled parking-ishy question

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 08:47

would you park outside your neighbours house if they were disabled, but didn't have a disabled bay marked out? I have a blue badge but haven't applied for the bay on the road outside my house. neighbour house 3 vehicles. we live in town in a terrace so parking is difficult. they have 1 vehicle outside their house all the time. then park the vehicle they use more, outside mine. I know I have no claim to the spot outside my house, but it makes things just that bit harder. I just wouldn't do this if situation was reversed, so interested to know what consensus is

so the question is, would you do this?

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:16

I realise that any blue badge holder can use disabled bays

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woodhill · 15/11/2019 09:18

I think those vans are a nuisance and flat bed trucks that park on residential roads.

Apply for a bay OP

scoobydoo1971 · 15/11/2019 09:18

I have a Blue badge and a private driveway. The neighbours here are idiots too so they park their caravan outside their house blocking the view one way, and I have a builders van directly outside on the main road belonging to the other neighbour. Its a quiet road, but still hell to get out of as they are loads of cars parked up each side. I would apply for a private bay outside my house if I didn't have a private driveway, and suggest you do the same. You have to pay for this service in some local authority areas, and it doesn't guarantee that someone else with a blue badge won't use it. However, if someone like your neighbour abused the parking bay marked disabled then you could ask the authorities to get it moved.

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:19

@CactusAndCacti the council don't have to 'police' disabled bays as it is not illegal to park in disabled bays. they are advisory only

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UhareFouxisci · 15/11/2019 09:20

I think you need to get the blue badge space sorted. It's true as you know that any bb holder can use it but hopefully if another neighbour with a bb takes to using it, you will be able to encourage them to organise a bb space for themselves separately.

HiJenny35 · 15/11/2019 09:21

Yabu parking on the street is free to anyone. Get yourself a bay or drive. Your disability doesn't come into it. Is it in bad taste and bad manners yes, but you clearly don't get on. I also wouldn't tell them when you apply for a bay as they could park the van there and make it difficult.

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 09:23

the neighbour on the other side of my neighbour has a disabled bay. they said that neighbour wouldn't moved his van to allow council to paint the bay

I THINK that they have parked the van permanently outside their house, so that if council come to mark a bay for me, it leaves enough space for their vans. that can used to be parked permanently round the corner, until I got my blue badge

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Clangus00 · 15/11/2019 09:30

Check online if the vans are taxed.
Then, yes, absolutely apply for a bay.

CripsSandwiches · 15/11/2019 09:32

I hate the argument that "they're legally entitled to park there so they're doing nothing wrong". If your moral code is "if it's legal it's OK" then you're probably a bit of a dick. That said they may just be clueless or think that someone else will park there anyway. Definitely get the parking bay. Even if you weren't disabled it's annoying when people have large numbers of cars and take up the whole street. Really unfair.

CripsSandwiches · 15/11/2019 09:34

Yabu parking on the street is free to anyone. Get yourself a bay or drive. Your disability doesn't come into it. Is it in bad taste and bad manners yes,

This makes no sense. If it's bad manners and in bad taste then obviously OP isn't Being Unreasonable. Of course her disability comes into it. If you knew your neighbour needed the spot due to disability you wouldn't park there if you were a decent person (even if you dislike the neighbour).

ChicCroissant · 15/11/2019 09:36

I agree that anyone could park outside your house, so if it's not your neighbours then it could be someone else on the street.

I agree that it would be nice of them to park elsewhere but - as above - unless you either speak to them or apply for a bay (which would stop someone else pinching the space) it is unlikely to happen.

If it is a row of terraces then someone is likely to use the space. Ask about the bay.

ThatsMeInTheSpotlight · 15/11/2019 09:37

I wouldn't expect a neighbour to be that conscious of my needs tbh. I have a mobility issue caused by an accident. I mutter under my breath when someone is parked in front of my house because it does make it more difficult for me but it's never crossed my mind that they shouldn't park there or that they should consider my needs before they park. I have no idea of their needs.

MsPepperPotts · 15/11/2019 09:40

This may be a long shot but the vehicle permanently parked may not be road legal.
Check on the DVLA website with their vehicle registration numbers to see if any of the vehicles are untaxed, or have MOT. You enter the vehicles registration for the info.
If any of the vehicles have a SORN then they cannot be parked on any public road. You can report any vehicle on the DVLA website with details of the vehicle and of where it is parked. It's free and anonymous.
Definitely apply for a parking bay.

starfishmummy · 15/11/2019 09:46

DS is disabled and we dont have a bay, its street parking here so we just take our chance. If I have to park further away than he can walk then I either stop and drop him off if dh is in or get his wheelchair out.

And a marked disabled bay in my city is not specific to the house or car, anyone with a blue badge can use it so its not necessarily any help. Plus other people park badly right up to the lines or even slightly over them making it impossible to get in it.

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 10:10

@CripsSandwiches, this is my stand point. I know I don't have any 'right' to park outside my house. I think it signals that my neighbours are wankers though, that they park their multiple vehicles as they do

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WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 15/11/2019 10:19

I have neighbours like this, they're pricks. Definitely get a bay, but if they're like mine they'll just park up so close to your boot you won't be able to get your wheelchair out (if you use one of course)

I hate my neighbours.

Damntheman · 15/11/2019 10:37

If I knew about the disability I would never park in front of a disabled neighbour's house. But then my father was born in the early 1930s and I've been raised with an old fashioned idea of morals and polite behaviour that doesn't seem so common anymore.

I'm sorry your neighbours are being wankers, apply for the bay!

GinDaddy · 15/11/2019 10:47

The problem you have in Britain is that if certain people think they can legally do something, they will - even if it's to the detriment of others.

And the best way to "stop" them is to do the legal thing of your own, which is to apply for and get that disabled space.

MrsCasares · 15/11/2019 10:58

Making life difficult for someone who has enough difficulties in their life already is a very selfish move.

Yanbu op. Get a disabled bay. At least you would stand a bigger chance of parking outside your home.

Mishfit0819 · 15/11/2019 11:09

You need to get the bay, agree with others that if they left it someone else would likely take it.

Our neighbour 5 doors down is disabled. He does not outwardly appear disabled (I know not everyone does) but also works full time, doesn't have a blue badge and doesn't have a space painted. When we moved in we were none the wiser of his disability due to the above so just took whichever space was available nearest to our house... 4 months later his wife literally came shouting into the street about how unfair and selfish people we were etc. It had clearly been annoying her for some time about people taking 'their space'.. But how could we have known?!

We no longer get on with said neighbours because of how it was handled, but do leave 'their' space alone even though no blue badge and markings. Even with a blue badge, it's not necessarily easily seen unless you are looking for it.

GinDaddy · 15/11/2019 11:13

@Mishfit0819

Exactly, this is a classic case where people seethe and moan, but they actually in their case just needed to act and get the space marked. No one who is visiting a street would possibly be able to tell from a row of doors, who is disabled and who isn't. Absurd behaviour.

Cohle · 15/11/2019 11:16

Complaining about them being rude isn't actually going to achieve anything though. If you need the space then apply for a disabled bay.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 15/11/2019 11:17

As lots of others have advised, apply for bay. Just a thought - if you are granted this - try to be about , if you can, when the men are marking the bay. Have discreet word - ask them to mark a bit longer if possible (perhaps mention about neighbours). Unsure if there's a regulatory size - one of my neighbours bay could have taken a helicopter!
Also, check all their vehicles for road tax

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 15/11/2019 11:19

I agree that anyone could park outside your house, so if it's not your neighbours then it could be someone else on the street.

This, sadly.

I have a disabled neighbour, he doesn't have a bay as he's been told it would devalue his house when he comes to sell as our council don't take them away, and people would be likely to see it as having "lost" their space even though anyone can park outside their house... I don't park in front of his house, but it doesn't really matter as the space is gone as soon as you drive past it anyway. Sometimes I park there and move my car to the back when he gets home if it's conditions that I know he struggles in and the space is free when I get home.

It could be worth seeing if a chat with them helps? They might be reasonable people and just not have thought... They might not, but it's also likely to be quicker than getting a disabled bay!

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veryshop · 15/11/2019 11:28

they know about my disability because we have discussed it in the past, when we used to talk...at that time he would purposefully leave 'my space' free (I never park outside of their house out of courtesy then or now) we had a conversation about parking in general and how difficult it was for me if I had to park too far away, this was before I had a blue badge

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