How old were your babies when they first stayed over with grandparents?

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Due to do a KIT day next Friday. Have already done 2 where baby stayed with dad. This time my parents are having her but live a 30 mile drive away. It will be easier all round for the baby who will be 5 months to stay over the night before with them as I am training in another city. AIBU to consider it so young? She's used to being left with them just not overnight. The big kids will be here but at school. So baby will be in her own.

My little girl is two and a half and has never stayed overnight away from us. I've never wanted her to but then shes also never needed to - however I'd fully trust her to stay with either my parents or my in-laws.

She's more than likely going to have to stay with one of them soon though, due to the fact that I'll be giving birth to her baby sister in nine weeks!

with ds1 it was only a few weeks. I woke up with tits like boulders and had to go express anyway in great pain. So much for my nights sleep

I had my dgs overnight at 8 weeks. I LOVED it!

3yo & 2yo
And my parents stayed over at our house with them while DH and I went for a belated (3 years late) honeymoon weekend away.

DS was 14 years old, DD never has and she's 15. GPs never offered or showed any sign that they wanted to have them. DS only started going when he got old enough to ask them directly, and they didn't have a compelling reason to refuse him.

DS is 3 and hasn’t yet- this is mainly because I hate the thought of it (I know that this is my issue). However, DM did ask him if he’d like to sleep at her house recently- he looked at her like she was mental and said “no... I sleep at my house...” 😂

I think that it’s not the age that’s important. It’s if you’re comfortable with it.

First child... 10 days old when I was admitted to hospital as emergency (mum knew I didn't really want too & b feeding so literally 10pm-8am). Right decision but felt terrible.

Second child probably 11 months.

Only few times in total while baby or toddler. But they were fine. I was less so! So question is more about if it'll be OK for you!

DS1 - just over 3 years old when I was in hospital having his brother. This was the only occasion. He's now 5.
DS2 is 2 and has never been away from us at night!

DD was 4 months when she stayed with MIL for 5 days. We went abroad 😱. She stayed with her lots after that as I had to travel a lot with work. MIL is brill with kids. She was a nurse so I never worried.

All of mine were around 3-4 months old , I knew they were in safe hands.

Dd1 was 2 years, dd2 was 2 weeks although I was admitted to hospital so it wasn’t intentional. I carried on as if the world was ending with dd2- she didn’t give a toss and had the utter cheek to only wake once in the night for them whereas for me it was every 2 hours. With dd1 she asked to stay over at nanny’s house.

DS stayed with my mother at 5mths old so we could have a night in a hotel for my Birthday. He stayed at MIL’s at 10mths for DHs Birthday trip, and since I went back to work when DS was 1, he’s stayed at DMILs once a week for childcare reasons. He stayed with my Mother when we got married too. I trust both of DS’s sets of Grandparents implicitly.

Inn envious of all these people who have willing and able grandparents for them to stay with.
My mum takes extra strength sleeping tablets and couldn’t be relied on to wake if they needed her. PIL’s live abroad. My dad just wouldn’t have a clue. None ever offered to have mine overnight.

My eldest only stay over at my mum's for the first time when she was 6 (neither of our parents are able to help out much and certainly not with a very young child). But she did stay with her at our house (while we were away from about 2).

I think if it works better for you, why not? Though 30 miles isn't far, unless your parents are quite old/unwell and unable to drive. I would probably just have them come to me - either in the morning, or invite them to stay the night before. But I guess it depends on how able they are to care for a young baby at night. My mum definitely couldn't have managed and I would have been worried about her falling asleep on them if she had a particularly difficult night. If there are no safety concerns though and they are young enough and well, that sounds fine.

Mine was about 3 months, just woke up once for a bottle then back to sleep.

She probably sleeps over at my mums once a month ish now, she's 18 months

@mindutopia my mum is only 53, she was 17 when she had me so a very young mum. It's more the get up early and drive through 2 cities in rush hour.
Mum cannot come to me as my youngest brother has a disability and Mum needs to be there for him being picked up and dropped off from college. 30 hours is far in traffic.

I had my granddaughter stay overnight when she was 10 days old. My poor DIL had barely slept since the birth and she couldn’t sleep if DGD made a noise even if my DS had it covered. It was as if she was hyper aware. I then had her the next night too, DIL came and spent the day but left to go home and sleep.
She had a really tough birth and her and my DS were new parents. It was very overwhelming for her. I remember looking at her and thinking she looked almost transparent.
I think if it is practical and the GPS are capable, then go ahead. That’s what families are there for, to help and support each other when we need a bit of help.

She's stayed over once without me or my partner there at about 6 weeks old. I'd just stopped breastfeeding and decided I needed a night out.
Then a couple weeks ago she stayed with her dad at his parents house without me, that's four months.
I don't trust our parents to be solely in charge of her normally anymore, but I need to work so my mil has her three days a week. She'll never have her overnight without my partner or myself there as she takes very strong tablets that would mean she wouldn't wake up and it's not a safe house either. My mother has proven she can't be trusted or depended on as she's unreliable, doesn't listen to what I want to happen (within reason, I'm not going to be a dictator when I've got free childcare but I do expect her to use reusable nappies instead of her expecting me to buy disposables!) and takes her to meet family members for the first time knowing it's the first time and I wanted to take her.

my dd was 6 months when she stayed with my mum for 2 nights, my partner had hooked a surprise trip to venicefor my 30th. my pils dont have her over to stay which is a shame tbh, as they are the one who live local so we sont ever really get a break as no one will look after her for us to go out. But we will be going on our honeymoon in July next year and my mum has kindly offered to have her for the whole week, I'm nervous already just thinking about it

DD probably some time between 3-6 months, as she slept through quite early, DS must have been a bit older as he still fed once a night until 10 months, but it was probably not long after he did sleep through.

Never worried about the babies, more whether anything would happen that would create work at night/very early morning for my parents.

Thereafter they overnighted quite regularly (mostly with my parents, very occasionally DH's), as both our sets of parents live nearby.

DC1 - about a month old. We had tickets to a show and I was still meant to be pregnant but he had other ideas so my mum babysat.

DC2 - also a month old but this time it was for a friend's 30th.

Both have regular sleepovers with both sets of grandparents and love it.

5 weeks and 3 weeks. Regularly slept over at nanas house .

Weeks old for both of mine, with both my parents and my sister. I also had my sister’s baby overnight for the first time at about 3 months. We all live in the same village and we were a close knit family so it just worked.

As this thread shows, everyone is very different and there is no right or wrong answer. As long as the baby is content and the adults comfortable, that’s what matters

The first one it was 6 months old. The second child was 18 months as he was a bottle refuser. My parents refused to have him again until he was weaned as he cried literally all night for me.

I think 5 months is fine if your baby will have a bottle and you trust the person having them.

Thanks for all your comments. I thought I'd get roasted for leaving her but you have all made me feel so much more relaxed about it all.