How old were your babies when they first stayed over with grandparents?

[Greggers2017]

Due to do a KIT day next Friday. Have already done 2 where baby stayed with dad. This time my parents are having her but live a 30 mile drive away. It will be easier all round for the baby who will be 5 months to stay over the night before with them as I am training in another city. AIBU to consider it so young? She's used to being left with them just not overnight. The big kids will be here but at school. So baby will be in her own.

Thank you for the replies so far. I think her staying over will be better than getting up early and driving in rush hour traffic. Plus the drive to my parents is completely the other direction to where I need to be for training.

My ds is very nearly 10 and has never stayed overnight at grandparents.

My parents and husbands parents have both of the children once a month for a night so two nights away each month and have done since they were 1 month old! My husband and I love our nights away and sleep!

DS was about 2.5, he’s probably stayed over with GP’s about 3 or 4 times in total (he’s 9 now!). DD has only recently had her first sleepovers at 4.5 .

I would have happily allowed them to sleep out much sooner but both were crap sleepers as babies, and prior to the kids starting school both sets of GP’s helped out with childcare while I worked so we’ve never felt able to ask them to do weekends as well. Plus they’ve never asked or offered!

Well my eldest is 21 and it hasn't happened yet. I don't think it is ever going to.

Soon as I could persuade them !! Six weeks with the first and a month with the other 2 .. who wants to go longer than that without a whole nights sleep ??

Although be warned even if you express like a maniac you will still wake up in the middle of the night with boobs like stones..

Never. They’re 18 and 15.

DS1 was about a month old and Ds2 was about 3 months.

We went to a gig on both occasions

Both of mine started staying overnight with grandparents at 6 weeks old.

DS started staying with PIL at around 11 months when I went back to work as it's a 40minute drive in the wrong direction to drop him off on the morning. We take him on Sunday evening and they bring him back on Monday when me and DH get home. I'm not super keen on some things like the amount of sugar he gets fed there but they have a lovely relationship so I pick my battles.

DD was about 3 months and stayed with PIL the evening of my brothers wedding (she came to the day)

She’s not long back from a 4 night stay with my parents whilst we went away for our 30th birthdays (18 months old)

Two years old & only for one night, and only with the grandparents she sees regularly and are used to looking after her. She's never stayed with the other grandparents and is now 5yo.

I think method of feeding plays a huge part, i breastfed (and still do at night) which is the only thing that stops him sleeping over there. If yours sleeps through or will take a bottle I'm sure it'll be fine

Never and she's 5

I can't remember their exact ages but both of my children have slept over at gps house at a few months old. If they know the child well and you trust them then I see no harm. My children would happily move in with gps I'm sure and it's very useful.

She doesn't yet sleep through, she has one feed and is bottle fed.
Mum said she is fine doing night feeds. She had 7 of us after all.

6 weeks old, I had sadly stopped breastfeeding so that wasn’t an issue, and my parents see my son all the time, since birth so they have a very close relationship. Missed him like absolute crazy though 😩

About 18 months, but I breastfed til 15 months or so.

When they slept through the night. MIL would gladly have had them before but I felt a bit guilty imposing that on them.

Almost 3 months. We went to a wedding and left Ds with grandparents. If your parents are happy to have the baby overnight then I see no problem with it.

My elder niece stayed over with us regularly from 2 weeks old, but the first time my sister left her with us for 2-3 hours and then she came back and stayed with us too. Younger niece was 18 months and only stayed then because her mother was ill and there was no alternative. Unlike her sister she didn't like me very much until she was older😁

Little. It was years ago so not 100% but definitely before she was 6 weeks

None. DC is 20 months. Mil has 'jokingly' offered, but knows I'd not say yes just yet. More just the fact it's not been necessary.
Your situation sounds very sensible though.

My oldest dd from 10 weeks when we moved out from my mum's, I breast feed for ages but I would do an 10 or 11 o'clock feed then go clubbing as I was young. I'd come back to mums around 8am after getting home to my own place at 3 or 4 am.

Mum would give her a night bottle but she quite often slept through and she would see me in the morning for a morning feed.

She would also go to my sisters from around 6 months old but only once or twice and I had my sisters 3 kids from birth, she had 3 under 4 so it was baby sleepovers.

Dd2 went from age 3 for one night as it was our anniversary. She was my Teflon baby.

DS was 19 months, we needed to go house hunting and it would have been much harder with him. Then again at 22 months when I had DD. Then when he was 3 and DD was 16 months they had 2 nights when we went to a wedding.

Couldn't have done it before 10 months because of bf.