To hope for a little compassion

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Long story short I was violently assaulted yesterday at work, resulting in A+E, I work in the special education arena so getting injured is par for the course really, what's really boiling my blood is my mother, I checked in at A+E on Facebook and put a general status as atleast half dozen colleagues who either witnessed the assault or heard about it messaged me to ask if I was ok etc, my mother comments "what now?", I responded saying I was assaulted, has she subsequently even murmered in my direction, has she buggery, she drops everything for my sister, they are best pals and she regularly goes running for the smallest issue in my sister's life, I know to an extent AIBU because this is how its always been, I guess I'm in pain and vulnerable and just hoped for a smidge of love. Rant over and just a hold hold wanted really

Have a hug and a and from me. So sorry this has happened. Hope you feel better soon.

That's horrible for you on all levels. Your mum should always have some support for you, really sorry you're having such a shit time x

Is it possible she didn’t take you seriously and thought you were just attention seeking?

I know you explained why you posted to FB, but generally speaking, people who check into hospitals and post status updates on their condition are often thought of as attention seekers. My late mother would have been apoplectic with me if she’d found out I’d been assaulted and gone to hospital on Facebook.

Sorry about your experience. 💐

I get routinely ignored but the world revolves around my feckless sibling so I sympathize with that. How horrible to have been injured like that! She really should have checked up on how you're doing, that's just basic concern. Have all the & and get better soon.

To be honest I think most people are bored of folks "checking in" at A&E on Facebook for attention. She's your mum. I would've phoned/texted my mum to tell her i was in hospital, she wouldn't find out on facebook.
From the way you describe her relationship with your sister I'm guessing there's jealousy and some intent to gain attention from the status

Have to second Butchy's post.

I'm sorry this happened to you but there is definitely a school of thought that people that have the time and energy to post on social media when they're being hospitalised can't be that ill.

Maybe your mother thinks that way and may have been more sympathetic via a private text or call?

Why wouldn't you call your mother to let her know?

Facebook is not the way to communicate with close family.

Checking into hospital on facebook is just attention seeking. I never take anyone who does this seriously!

I checked in at A+E on Facebook and put a general status

Very sorry about your assault and hope you get better soon OP.

Unfortunately I would also probably ignore a general status about checking in at A+E as this has a reputation for being used by attention seekers.

Why not say what happened? Or would that also have got a dismissive response from your ‘D’M?

I'm really sorry you got assualted hope you are feeling better.

Contact your mother direct , not put it on Facebook, is this how people live life's now?

Your mother had to ask so the status was cryptic as well which people hate, maybe she hasn't seen it.

I'm another one that ignores attention seeking hospital check ins. Your mum's comment implies you do this a lot.

Yeah if you wanted some compassion maybe you should have called her and explained what happened and asked her to come sit with you.

Then again my mom would go to the ends of the earth for my sisters but would probably text you see if I was ok after a heart bypass so maybe your moms like her.

I'm really sorry to say I agree with PP, anyone who checks into a hospital on Facebook gets a bit of an eye roll from me whether your intent was genuine or not.

Unless you have a team of 15+ I would have just messaged them separately as they messaged me and also sent my mum a message first. Her reply implies (rightly or wrongly) that you've perhaps done a similar check in.

It depends really are you a generally dramatic kind of person?
My daughter would say something like I’m dying when she has a bit of a stomach upset. I don’t actually say what now, but I do think it inside.
If you want your mum with you message her and say mum I’m really upset by this attack can you come and be with me.

I'm very sorry you were assaulted. However, I've been in your mother's situation when a close family member has put the A and E tag on Facebook, its annoying and hurtful. Obviously you're not hurt enough not to be able to use Facebook and it's not a nice way for family to find out you're possibly hurt. Hopefully there wont be a next time, but if you want a better response from family then perhaps call or text them before updating social media. Feel better soon.

Sorry to hear that you got assaulted, hope you’re soon on the mend

However, I do agree with PP’s, I totally ignore FB check ins at hospital/A&E/Drs and eye roll. I certainly wouldn’t expect my DM to find out I’d been assaulted and was in hospital via FB either.

Sorry about what happened to you, but I would expect either of my adult sons to call / text / message me directly if they needed to let me know something had happened. My youngest recently had to go to A and E for a mild accident, he let me know by phone but being a grown up and all didn’t need his mum there, he has a partner for that.
I’m afraid I don’t sit on Facebook all day, because I am at work and would definitely think it wasn’t serious if I heard about it from a Facebook alert.
If either of them called/texted and needed me I would drop everything to be there with them, and have done so in the past.

I’m sorry that happened op, but it’s strange you post on Facebook as others have said. But also my parents would be really upset and hurt they found out they from social media rather than a phone call or text. Could she just be upset and feel like you would think she was bothering you or interfering? You obviously have a strained relationship.

Why didn't you call your mum and tell her you were in A&E instead of posting on Facebook? I'm really sorry about the assault, but I agree with pp, a facebook status checking into a hospital shrieks of attention-seeking.

I hope you are ok and it's being dealt with.

YABU for this though 'I checked in at A+E on Facebook'
Checking in at A & E on fakebook is ridiculous and drama seeking.

Why didn't you just send her a message? Checking in on. FB has lots of negative connotations.

Checking in on FB is just attention seeking.
I’m sorry you were assaulted though.

Better to post a status to say what happened than a hospital check in

I'm sorry OP. Nobody should have to accept being assaulted as par for the course at work, whatever their role and that must have been horrible for you.

I won't repeat the point that's been made many times about checking into hospital on FB as I'm sure you've gotten the message by now. It sounds as though calling or texting your DM probably wouldn't have resulted in a sympathetic response either to be fair. I expect you were in pain, shaken up and feeling vulnerable and just wanted some sympathy. That's understandable in the circumstances.

I hope you're feeling better

Sorry have to agree with everyone else, it's just attention seeking. You should of sent her a txt or called. I found out family members had died on Facebook it's fucking disrespectful.
Hope your doing ok now though