That dh shouldn’t go on about smells

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Dh is a bit of a smell police, particularly as regards food.

Anything that ‘smells’ is commented on. I gave the kids a salmon sandwich at the weekend and he said ‘ugh, what have they eaten, fish? I can smell it on them.’

God forbid if there’s curry, garlic, onion or anything.

It makes me paranoid and I think the kids will be too (they are 3 and 1 so a bit young to notice yet.)

Or AIBU?

Give him a lavender sprinkled hanky to hold to his nose He sounds like a Victorian gel with tight corsets who's about to keel over.

My ex was like this - extremely sensitive to smells. I have no doubt he was genuinely super sensitive (his Dad has it too) but it’s not fair to comment, especially in a derogatory way. They have to accept its their issue.

I have this a bit with sound - i can’t deal at all with competing noises. Funnily enough exh would never take that into account and had to have the radio on all the time.

Give him a lavender sprinkled hanky to hold to his nose

To give a serious reply to a light hearted point, if he’s genuinely hyper sensitive he won’t like this as they don’t want to mask the smell with another smell they want smells eliminated.

My OH does this, it makes me really anxious about cooking certain things. Our toddler is super fussy but there is a cheesy pasta thing he will demolish so I make it a couple of days a week so I know he's getting a decent meal in him. Without fail I get the 'what have you been cooking' 'it stinks' 'its revolting' etc etc (literally just a mac and cheese). The other thing is 'rotten'. If something is at it's use by date or not all singing, all dancing, it's rotten. Drives me mad

Sounds like it's time for your OH to take over meal planning, shopping and cooking Worlds

WorldsOkayestmum I hate to bring Mumsnet Bingo into it, but is your OH ASD? My XP is and he would do exactly this, with the language of 'stinks' 'minging' 'rotten' and the obsession with use by dates and throwing things away if they were even close.

He was truly astonished to find that milk doesn't instantly 'turn' when it reaches the use by date. He really believed that it became impossible to drink at midnight on that date.

He also didn't understand how hurtful it was to have someone pulling baby faces at food or the idea of some foods, even when it was explained to him.

I have misophonia and the sensitivity to smell seems to go with it. It's a curse more than a blessing. I'm also veggie and can't deal with eggs so anything meaty, fishy or eggy revolts me. It's such a strong reaction and my face is very telling about things even if I'm not aware of my expression and am not saying anything. I'm on the spectrum and had an ED for 20 years that still lingers to be honest and it's all linked. Is he sensitive to other things too?