That dh shouldn’t go on about smells

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Dh is a bit of a smell police, particularly as regards food.

Anything that ‘smells’ is commented on. I gave the kids a salmon sandwich at the weekend and he said ‘ugh, what have they eaten, fish? I can smell it on them.’

God forbid if there’s curry, garlic, onion or anything.

It makes me paranoid and I think the kids will be too (they are 3 and 1 so a bit young to notice yet.)

Or AIBU?

A little teaspoonful of menthol crystals dissolved in hot water in a tiny ceramic cup. That overpowers pretty much everything else. She says, from the depths of the latest bloomin' cold/flu bug.

And another thumbs up for a drop or two of peppermint oil on a tissue (or Olbas oil) so he can sniff it like an Elizabethan gentleperson with a pomander when the miasma gets too much. (Peppermint being about the strongest oil out there, scent wise.)

I take it your DH has never visited France, Italy or the Far East then!

Is there anything you don't eat and hate the smell of . I bet you , you eat the things you are giving the children ? Nevertheless, he shouldn't comment out loud, maybe just make himself go to another room , without fuss.

Could he be autistic? Being super sensitive to smells and not sensitive to people's emotions is very typical of people with ASD.

Makes me wonder if the DH thinks he's like the Princess and the Pea or something.

"Ooh, my sense of smell is really sensitive and I can't STAND being near a sandwich! Everyone must know about this immediately! It's because I am a weal twue pwincess!"

I hate that word 'stinks' about normal food smells

I too hate this.

I have this -I’m certain it’s genetic because my maternal grandfather and paternal grandmother also couldn’t bear ‘normal’ smells. There are some things that I absolutely can’t bear the smell of, it sounds weird but I can ‘smell’ the bones in cooked meat.

I tell friends and family that I have a heightened sense of smell and we have learnt to manage it.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperosmia

I would be like your husband if not for years of female gender socialisation. I hate all smells and I can tell what people around me ate on any day, but I suffer in silence and never complain.

Bit of that on this thread too, Top

I hope the pwincesses only consume bland food.

I have issues with food smells but I just silently put up with it because I don’t want to put DH off certain foods.

My mum has this hugely and my sister is very limited to what foods she can cook.

I am very sensitive to smells but only complain about the farts.

The issue I would have is if he is putting your dcs off eating some foods because of that.
I think normal smells are just that and there should never be comments along the lines of 'it stinks' for what are normal smells, even if one is hyper sensitive to it etc....

I would have a word with him along that sort of lines.

I generally have to eat what my husband eats as somehow a curry or any other smelly food is fine if I ate it too ..

Id like to know what he is doing when eh is at work though.
People often eat all sorts, incl of site. So they come back to the office, doe she thnk its OK to comment about they smell of tuna (tuna snadwich for lunch) for example? I bet not. And so it should be the same at home.

If he had been saying how unconfortable he was about x smell (not all smells) and could we try and avoid x in the house, I would be much more supportive.

Give him a lavender sprinkled hanky to hold to his nose
Or complain about how much he smells or the noises he makes or whatever annoying things he does 🙄

It's the fishy smells that make people heave imo.

To be fair, he had a point. Tuna/salmon is pretty grim when you're smelling it on someone else.

He could've been a little more discreet though.

Is he this rude about everything else? It's really bad manners and at the very least you don't want your children picking this up. You also don't want them to be paranoid about food smells. It's not like we're talking about fish in the office microwave! This would irritated the life out of me. (I'm exhausted today so pri9less rational)

He's being childish and rude.

He's rude.

However, the thing about being sensitive to smells is true; I can smell when people are unwell, I can smell what DH has drunk alcohol-wise and I can smell out my DC in a room full of others. I'm not rude about it, though, because I'm not 4 years old.

Remember OP, on MN everyone can smell fabric conditioner from the next room, scented sanitary products from several postcodes away, and someone eating hot food from outer space.

He's rude and childish. Tell him to grow up.
So are you not 'allowed' to cook or eat onions etc?

I'm sensitive to smells, there are some food smells that I find truly repulsive and make me physically sick but I don't bring it up. I just move and depending on what it is open a window. My inability to tolerate smells should not effect anyone else. My sisters are the same but with onion, spices, garlic and herbs and their kids are really picky and have issues trying new food. I just can't tolerate the smell of peas, nuts, beetroot and pesto.

The smell of old fried food or cigarette smoke on someone's clothes or hair makes me gag, but I wouldn't DREAM of saying 'oh, you stink!; to them, why would I? Because I am polite and don't want to give someone a complex about something they likely can't help (if it's not them frying the food or smoking the cigarettes).

Saying something is descending to the level of a toddler who can't manage their thoughts. See also the thread on the DH who complained about his DW's cooking.

My DS is like this he can't stand the smell of mushrooms it makes him gag. I can only eat mushrooms when he is at school. He don't like the smell of onions ether but he can deal with them. So nether is unreasonable.

I am very impressed that your 1 and 3 yo eat salmon sandwiches