SIL baby name

[Springtime3]

AIBU - I have a 6 month old Annabella, we call her Bella for short which I’m sure will get shortened to Belle. My sister in law is pregnant, due 04/2020 she’s just told me her girls names is Belle! I was speechless when she told me I just think It’s too similar ?? Aibu to feel angry over this?!?

I’d think it a bit odd but you don’t own the name so really there’s nothing you can do!

That would really annoy me too. It would sound ridiculous as well to most people. What do your in-laws think?

I wouldn’t be angry more bemused- surely it’s harder for the second child called the similar name.

Imitation is the greatest form of flattery ?!

If she has a dd, they won’t be in the same year at school. Will they have the same surname?
I think you just have to take it calmly for now. She may have a boy. She may change her mind.

But she looks the one with no imagination.....

I’d be a meh about it but again we don’t own names nevermind potential nicknames. April is a while away yet maybe she’ll change her mind.

She’s still got quite a long way to go yet. She might come up with all sorts before then.

Maybe she doesn’t see a connection. Your baby is called Annabella. Not Belle. Bella is quite a popular name really.

I have the same name as my cousin, our mothers were pregnant at the same time and it’s never been an issue for us. My Auntie had said to my mum just after I was born that she had been going to call her baby the same name and my mum said that she absolutely still should if that is what she wanted to call her own baby.

Im not sure id be angry. Id find it a bit odd maybe

I can understand why you aren't thrilled but YABU if you make a huge fuss and expect them to change their name choice

It's ridiculous.
Grandparent will have a Bella and a Belle

You can’t have the monopoly on Belle just because you have an Annabella!

Too similar to your childs name. I wouldn’t be impressed either

People leap in about how you don’t own a name blah di blah but yes, it’s really weird and no one in their right mind would basically replicate the name of a close family member without their being a major reason eg always intending to name the baby after someone.

I would just say to her flat out that you find it really weird that she’s intending to use basically the same name, and ask her if she’s thought about how other people will react to it, doesn’t she want her baby to be original and unique (within the family obviously). If she goes ahead despite that there’s obviously nothing you can do but I would massively distance myself from a SiL who copied my child’s name and continued with it knowing I wasn’t happy with it. It also stops you regretting not saying anything later because once the baby is here and the name announced, it’s too late. Perhaps she told you purposely to sound out your reaction before the baby is here because she knows it’s weird. Don’t be all British and polite, tell her you’re totally baffled as to why she would do that.

Of all the names in the whole world! No you don't own a name but how bloody annoying. Massive eye roll, what can you do?! Really odd.

If you're bothered, start calling your daughter Anna or Annie.

Very annoying and I wouldn't like it, but if I were your SIL and had always wanted that name, I'm not sure what I'd do...! Have you told her you find it weird? If you don't, then your MIL surely will soon?

You’ll have a Bella - you won’t have a Belle if your SIL chooses their name Belle. Unless you feel you have monopoly on all names associated with Annabella?

So she couldnt use Annabella, Bella, Belle, Anna, Annabel, Annie, Anne, Ella, Elle, Ellie or Ana or any other derivative as you own the rights to all those?

You should say something to your SIL or your brother. Maybe she hasn't thought it through. She should pick a new name.

I honestly think you got it first. My SIL had a baby a year before me, and the baby was given a that was v similar to a name I'd always liked, so I went off on a new name avenue. I never told her. What your SIL is doing is rude and against the protocol of things.

Console yourself that family members will probably call her Babybel to differentiate.

Other than that, deep breaths and ignore it.

You called her Annabella but want to call her Belle? Where you getting Belle from if her name has a Bella in it?

Well I suppose if you go by those rules no one close to you is allowed Anne, Annabelle, Belle or Bella. It is a bit unimaginative on her part I suppose and she may change her mind. There are Belle's and Bella's everywhere so she's likely to go to school with a few.

I would probably switch your abbreviation of your Dd's name to Anna or Annie (which I actually think is lovely and not as commonly used)

My cousins have kids with the same first name and similar age. They have different surnames though. Don't need think I'd care tbh. Maybe she's had that name on her mind for years. My dd's name is a name I chose before I was married. If anyone else had called their dd that name I'd have still gone ahead and called mine the same.

I do think the names are very similar. But you called your child Annabella. That’s not Belle. Would you be cross if it was Anne or Annie or Arabella or Isabella or Isabel?

Is it a family name? Or a derivative of one?

People won't care. My grandparents had three grandsons with the same name and two granddaughters as they were named after family members. When families followed traditional naming patters it was extremely common for cousins to have the same name.