To want to burst out crying?

[HouseCoatAndPopSocks]

But I can’t as I’m devoid of emotion.
I’m sick of myself. I drink heavily 4 nights out of 7 meaning I have a hangover every Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday morning. These means I feel like shit all weekend. I’m fat (probably because of the drinking) my skin is awful and my hair is just unspeakable. I’m constantly scruffy as my clothes are shit. I have the money to buy new clothes but 1) I can’t be bothered and 2) I think what’s the point because I’m an absolute state anyway.

I’ve given up my hobbies meaning all I do now is go to work and then play on the Sims. I have no friends.

Last night i only ate a few chips and a bite out of my burger and DH threw it away as he didn’t think I wanted it. So yesterday I ate half a tub of vegetable soup and the rest of my calories came from alcohol.

AIBU to wish I could stick myself in boot camp for 6 months? I feel like I need someone else to sort me out yet I know that is unreasonable. I’m on the autistic spectrum too so I feel like nobody understands me.

Who are you drinking with?

By myself.

Wow - ok then. Why do you think you drink - habit, bored, ‘need’?

You have a DH, where is he while you are drinking?

You need to seek proper professional help to stop drinking. Someone else can’t stop you drinking though. Only you can do that.

You sound sad. Have you been to see your Gp? Also, have you any overlapping conditions? My dc have autism and adhd. I think you need to look at the core issue around why you’re drinking. I eat too much. I’m fat and an overeater. Have you looked at AA?

I think it’s habit. It coincides with me playing on the sims. As soon as I come off that game I stop drinking but I’ll be on it for 2/3 hours and in that time will drink 5/6 cans of lager.

Thursday night is when I start this for the weekend and a Thursday night is also when I’m meant to be at my hobby but I choose the game and drink every week as it’s easier. Socialising makes me anxious but once I’m there I actually enjoy it and I miss it.

Did you leave the food on the side?

Was it reasonable dh would think you didnt want it

Yanbu to want someone to sort all you life problems. Yabu to rely on that happening.

You are unhappy, only you cant change the things you are doing. You need to see your doctor about your drinking.

Coping mechanisms aren't helping long term. You may need more support for your autisim.

Suspected ADHD but not diagnosed. If I don’t start drinking, I’m fine. But once I start I go over the top and drink until I can barely see properly.

DH is in the other room drinking but he doesn’t drink as much as me. I can drink 3 cans before he’s finished his first one. Last night I realised I’d downed a full can in 15 minutes.

Stop playing games and start making plans to stop drinking?

You sound depressed and like you need professional help.

Hiya. I went from 13 stone to under 10 done in LESS THAN 4 months a few years ago by exercising at least twice aerobically for at least 30 mins and going on a 800 cal a day diet.

I had one advantage then I wasn't working so easier to have time for the exercise regime. I feel you OP it's shit being in a tut but I was SO determined back then I just had to do it.

If I go to GP and tell them I have an issue with alcohol, what should I expect to happen? I know I need to sort it but I’m not sure I can do it alone. I think 99% of my problems are alcohol related.

I find that writing out an action plan helps. Also you will need your husband on board to help you keep motivated an on target. Is he supportive?

If you don’t think you can do this on your own speak to your doctor.

What’s your target - stop drinking completely or cut down? Get a new hobby (out of the house preferably) and focus on what is good for you.

Exercise
Eating well
Brain stuff - reading, crosswords, visit galleries, do a course?
Relaxation
Skills - learn something new
What else?

When were you happy? What makes you happy?

By the way walking doesn't help me lose weight I need something that lifts my metabolism more

Remove the games console so you can break the habit. Or if it’s an app on your phone / tablet, delete it.

Did you start playing sims because you didnt want to go out?

Or did you start playing sims then stopped wanting to go out?

Did the drinkining coincide with the game?

Do you work?

OP, I am so sorry you are going through this, but you already made your first step: admitted you have a problem.

Please seek help. Go to the GP and see how the alcohol problem can be tackled effectively & perhaps ask if you can get some counselling (it will help, I promise)

Ask your DH for help, he should be there for you.

Also, reward yourself with a haircut/clothes/skincare for not drinking.

Fingers crossed for you! You can do this!

You will be able to get out of this rut OP. One step at a time.

Can you plan a couple of activities so you don't have time to play Sims for a couple of days in a row? Or go a weekend somewhere to reset yourself.

I believe you will be able to get through this. Think about the end goal. Beautiful clothes and hair and a strong body.

Could you join a gym. Baby steps. You will be OK!

What hobbies did you have?

You're not a state I am sure! No such thing as a state - you're a person who deserves to be loved by yourself. And your DH loves you too - is he nice to you?

DH will often get me a can out of the fridge at 4pm ... yet I won’t open it until I can go on my game, sometimes the can will be sat there until 7pm unopened so it’s not as if I’m itching to open it. It’s become an association habit.

My appetite is poor, I actually don’t eat much at all so the weight must be due to the alcohol

Go to the GP for help. Follow the excellent advice you've already had here. Turn to your DP for help. Throw the bloody console away. Your life is worth more than this- wake up and make it what YOU want.

Of the new wasn’t in the house would it really bother you all that much? You need to speak to your DH and tell him that you want to give it up and he needs to help you out on that. That’s just for starters.

New you - what does that look and feel like?

I'd stop or at the very least severely limit time spent playing the sims and reduce the drinking that way. For starters.

It's possible you may feel better just by drinking less, it's known to be a depressive.

I don't think the GP is going to be able to help you hugely, AA may be more helpful for you.

Think of the money saved by not drinking that every week. That’s got to be a fair amount that could be spent on things that are good for you.