OH strop because I advised he's going to be late for work..

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OH has a new job. In his previous job he developed a habit of being late to the point it was addressed by his superiors. There was no real reason for lateness other than simply taking the mick because it was a generally relaxed environment.

He has been in his new job a little over a month, working the late shift from 10pm.

9.45 comes and he's still relaxing in the house, he's had 10 hours sleep so isn't tired. I tell him he's going to be late and does he not think it's a good idea to make a point of being punctual with this job as they're not going to stand for more of the same.

Visibly annoyed, he says "for god sake I might aswell just stay at work"

I ask what he's talking about and he said "well, you're making me feel bad for being a few minutes late" and left in a huff.

Was I being unreasonable here?

To add, it takes him 30 minutes to get to work in good traffic.

It sounds like your OH is a teenager. I wouldn't bet on him keeping this job.

You can't control another adult. Do you rely on his income?

Have you posted about his employment issues before? Sounds familiar.

Of course YANBU.

He is absolutely taking the piss. I'm baffled that anyone can think that is ok, he should be leaving the house at 9.15pm to give himself enough time.
If he worked for me I'd be giving him a stern word straight away.

He needs another grown adult to make him feel bad for being late?
I hope you don’t rely on his income to pay any bills.

If you hadn't commented when would he have left? Before or after the time his shift started?!

He has no respect does he.

I can’t abide people that are late , does he think he’s special and the start time doesn’t apply to him?

I haven't posted about this before no, and I don't rely on him but his income is equally as important especially being so close to Christmas.

I'm not generally a nag, but it annoyed me seeing old habits creeping back in so in the moment didn't feel unreasonable saying something but clearly he disagrees.

30 minutes in good traffic isn't always the case either, it's possible it could take even longer thus him being more than just "a few minutes late"

If leave him... I couldn’t be with someone so disrespectful.

My partner is late to things a lot and I nag him about it as well, as he makes us late when we're together.

He doesn't let himself be late for work, which is something, but I would absolutely be annoyed if he did, as I feel it would be risking his job, which we obviously need the income from.

Do you live together and share finances? Would it effect you directly if he lost his job? If so then YANBU as him being late impacts on the household which you are a part of.

YABU for reminding him. Leave him to bollocks up, he'll learn!

He's an idiot.

How long until he gets sacked?

It's more of an attitude thing, I'm always at least 15mins early or I feel I'm sending work the message that I don't care about my job, instead of turning up right before shift start.

Yanbu, this would annoy me too, especially if he's already had a warning. As one of my previous lovely managers was fond of saying, there are plenty of people looking for work😳

I would discuss with him how it will look to his employer, is he unhappy at work at all op?

I should think this isn't the only self-centred behaviour he shows. YANBU

He's huffing because he knows you are right. Ignore.

We live together and share finances yes, so if he were to lose his job it would negatively impact the whole household.

I can't fathom how he thinks it's acceptable behaviour or why he does it, it's almost as though he deliberately wants to push boundaries.

He's had plenty of sleep and then down time to relax and eat, he prioritised sitting about watching the tv knowing full well he was becoming late for work. Why?

I assume it's shift work, so there's probably a team waiting for him and his colleagues to come in so that they can go home.
Being late on purpose is selfish, rude and will make his colleagues annoyed.

He says that he enjoys the new job, without being too outing it's something that doesn't require him to move about too much. It's fairly easy work for the pay.

I agree he's huffy because he knew I had a point and doesn't like being shown to be in the wrong.

Is he late for everything op? Or just work?

Sounds like an idiot, I'm afraid.

It's just work, strangely enough he's never late for activities with friends or other appealing arrangements

Maybe find a few extra things to do to help out around the house, since he's not doing much