... to want to scream- husband thinks my hobby is “deeply unattractive”

[DimensionalShambler]

It’s cold and rainy and all day I was looking forward to starting a new knitting project. After dinner I settled down with my wool and needles and and my husband started with the sighing. After the usual rigmarole I dragged it out of him… seeing me knit is “deeply unattractive”, it’s for sexless, boring, tedious women and he hates seeing my projects laying around because it’s a “stringy depressing mess” and I should find something more interesting to do with my time.

I’m absolutely furious at the sexism and stupidity but also really sad because I love knitting- it’s cozy and peaceful and meditative. But now it’s ruined.

Or, perhaps point out that a hobbit is something you do to amuse YOU.

A hobby. Not a hobbit. Though if you want to do a hobbit you go right ahead

This is outrageous on so many levels And what business is it of his anyway? You don't need your dh"s permission or approval to practice a hobby you enjoy. What a bellend he is!

I"d stay in the spare room until I'd received a fulsome apology, an enormous bunch of flowers, a meal out etc etc and even then I'd be worried about what this tells me about him as a person... .

The only answer is to yarn bomb his stuff. Start with a flaccid cock. Sew it to his coat. Next up, well just more flaccid cocks sewn onto everything.

I got the idea from Saltburns pier.

Knit him the tiniest penis warmer possible. Or a hat with a massive penis on.

My DH builds models. That’s deeply unattractive to me. He still does it though. Bastard.

His sexism and petty whinging sound fucking unattractive to me.

I do find the noise annoying, dd used to do it. But I'd be really sad if my dh said that to me. It's quite mean of him.

I missed that hobbies were meant to be sexy.

My DH builds plastic models like a 14 year old in games workshop.

He likes it.

@Pieceofpurplesky
@FuriousFlannels

You both made me proper laugh out loud

If you don't start knitting and wearing gstrings, mini dresses with plunge necklines, wooly jumpers with boob holes etc then I will be extremely disappointed

My mother was not allowed to sew or knit because my father found it unattractive.
As a consequence I never learnt.
I think my father was an idiot.

What I find 'deeply unattractive' is a man who thinks it is his place to decide how a woman should use her time. Honestly, if this is a regular conversation I would have moved out years ago.

Husband’s hobbies are watching depressing war documentaries and paying obscene amounts of money for rare vinyl that he never listens to

And he finds YOUR hobby unattractive ? Bloody hell .What a twat.

TakeMeToYourLiar

Actually that hobby can get to fuck. Dp does the little plastic men building and one always ends up escaping. If I step on one one more time in the middle of the night, I actually may kill him

As PPs have said, he’s been awful. So rude and unkind. I’m raging on your behalf!

I love to knit and can’t wait to get stuck back into it one day (second DC is 15 weeks old so my hands will be full for a while yet). Used to love to knit socks for myself and my DH, and you can get amazing self-striping wools. For those worried about DPNs, you’re only ever using two at once and I always put little rubber stoppers on the ends of those not in play. Please give it a go! It’s so satisfying and a neatly Kitchenered toe is a thing of true beauty.

BAME boys/men from a lot of African and Caribbean countries have no such hangups around textiles work.

My exH said similar things about my knitting and crochet. Said it was weird to watch as it's an old lady hobby. I learned at the age of 7 so I wasn't quite ready for the oldies home.

He shut is yap about it when he found out quite a few of his friends both male and female also did needlework.

Tell him you'll see him next Tuesday!

What a particularly nasty attitude. I crochet and do jigsaw puzzles. DH will come and sit with me for a chat and a glass of wine while I’m crocheting. My dear Dad used to drive my Mum mad by occasionally doing a row of knitting for her with no regard whatsoever for the patterns.......... he’d learned to knit in a bomb shelter and he and his brothers and mates used to knit socks and hats for the navy. Many sailors knit.

I have a friend who is a genius (a maths and chemistry phd) who writes knitting patterns in her spare (!) time. She’s in her thirties, gorgeous, kind, witty, and would rip anyone to shreds who suggested her hobby is old ladyish.

Knitting and crochet are actually very popular with young women too - plenty of blogs and Instagram accounts out there with fantastic work.

Enjoy your cosy knitting sanctuary.

So when he puts on a depressing war movie next time, haul out the knitting needles that makes the clickiest noises. I don't know which needles do this but I do remember this as a constant background noise when my mum knitted.

And then knit twice the speed than normal.....

What an arsehole.

I hope the next MN book is the book of arsehole DHs. Yours should get a chapter all to himself.

www.etsy.com/listing/587029822/swear-blanket-pattern

This would make the perfect gift for your dick of a husband.

I crochet and I keep lots of succulents. I crochet hanging baskets for said succulents. DH brings me home surprise balls of yarn and more succulents. He’s happy I’m happy and vice versa.

Are you married to my ex? He felt women to be attractive at all times and had issue with my hobbies too.

Op. Yanbu. What has it go to do with him, he’s a twat. You shouldn’t have to try to be attractive to him, you just should be.

Damn girl you need to get yourself a new husband! Pressumably yours is pooing through a bag now anyways after you put your knitting needles up his pathetic, sexist arsehole.
I knit, it's great fun (when it goes right!) My oh supports me with it, just like I do his (very boring to me) hobbies, because we aren't dicks