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To think friend is charging too much?

332 replies

sadaboutlife · 07/11/2019 20:36

For of us sharing a car.
3 hour journey there
3 hour back
She says it will cost £120 petrol
So charging £30 each
Do you think that's correct ?

OP posts:
starfishmummy · 08/11/2019 18:07

6 hours driving - that could be up to 420 at motorway speeds. Op says under 400 so lets say 350. Approved mileage rate (hmrc) is 45p a mile so that would be £157. So £30 each is about right if thats how she is calculating it. Personally Id just fill the tank and ask everyone to chip in a quarter.

Suzypoo10 · 08/11/2019 18:07

Today I have driven for seven hours, a journey of around 200 miles (a mixture of motorways, A roads, B roads and tiny country lanes) - I used around half a tank of petrol, around £25, in a Renault Clio.

happycamper11 · 08/11/2019 18:07

My car costs £40 to fill up and a journey of that length would easily be done on one tank. Even with wear and tear she’s definitely trying it on

rainbowbear10 · 08/11/2019 18:12

How much would it cost using public transport or a taxi, to get there and back ? Is it a one off journey.?

lastqueenofscotland · 08/11/2019 18:14

I’ve got a golf R and that would cost me about £60!!!
But I suspect it’ll be way cheaper than public transport so I’d suck it up

paws17 · 08/11/2019 18:16

If I was using my own car for such a trip, and having to be the designated, non-drinking driver the whole way whilst everyone else was having a jolly old time, the least I'd expect would be for the passengers to cover all my costs (inc. parking) between them and NOT expect me to make any contribution towards the actual cost of petrol, etc...

Straycatstrut · 08/11/2019 18:16

400 miles = a full tank of diesel in my dads jag = £75

niugboo · 08/11/2019 18:23

If she’s driving she can decide the price. You can pay it or decline and find your own way.

ToftyAC · 08/11/2019 18:23

It would have cost that when I had a Mitsubishi Shogun 3.2L but nowhere near that for a C1. She’s taking the piss.

Inwiththenew · 08/11/2019 18:24

To be fair, if she’s doing all the driving and using her car the passengers should all pay for the petrol not her.

Justsocross · 08/11/2019 18:26

I drive to my dads regularly it’s a 3 hour drive In a vw Sharon (7sests) costs me about £70 return !!!!

Vynalbob · 08/11/2019 18:27

When you say 3hrs it seems ott but if its nearly 400miles that will end up longer my guess 7hrs (suppose you might have meant each way) and her charge is fair. More weight, wear and tear (aggravation - driving on your own in a little car is more comfortable and time flies I think)
How much would an alternative cost?! 3

SandAndSeals · 08/11/2019 18:29

Same car and same journey length with a friend a few weeks ago. It was under £60 for the return journey.

NewName73 · 08/11/2019 18:31

I'm doing a 3 hour round trip on Monday.
It's about 300 miles in total, mostly motorway.
I'll be claiming £135 in expenses (standard rate of 45p a mile).
Your friend is not being unreasonable. After all, she also has the stress of driving.

0nTheEdge · 08/11/2019 18:34

I think it's too much too. Even if the 3 of you who aren't driving split the petrol between you, it's around £20 each. Is it worth asking her how she works it out as you've always just split the fuel costs and if she's doing something different then maybe you all should so you're on the same page?

SoupDragon · 08/11/2019 18:37

Your friend is not being unreasonable. After all, she also has the stress of driving.

They all take it in turns to be the driver on these trips. She's taking the piss.

lily2403 · 08/11/2019 18:38

I’m £50-£60 for 400 miles and I drive Hyundai i30. No way it would this much for a Citroen c1 my daughter has one of these and it’s much more fuel efficient than mine

INeedNewShoes · 08/11/2019 18:41

My mind is boggling at all the people who think the overcharge is fair in view of how very taxing driving is. It really isn’t. I regularly make a 300 mile (one way) trip in the car and it’s really not that big a deal.

I find it more troublesome having to leave luggage space for passengers though as DD and I can easily fill our small car as it is. I’d still never dream of charging for the inconvenience though!

The very most I’d ever charge a friend for a lift is the petrol cost divided by the number of people in the car and even that I often won’t charge for if I’d be doing the journey anyway.

NewName73 · 08/11/2019 18:42

People who are working it out based on petrol costs only - what about depreciation on the car? A 400-mile trip is not insignificant on wear & tear.

xaphan77 · 08/11/2019 18:47

I live in Leeds and have driven to my family in Essex regularly in a toyota aygo which is the same engine as a c1.

It is is 200 miles each way. Mainly on motorways and sticking to speed limit never cost me more than £40 in petrol for the trip.

NoSquirrels · 08/11/2019 18:51

People who are working it out based on petrol costs only - what about depreciation on the car? A 400-mile trip is not insignificant on wear & tear.

But the other people being charged also drive similar, and don’t charge for wear & tear on top of petrol. So the friend is breaking the ‘rules’, because the precedent has already been set that it doesn’t happen like this in their car-sharing group.

pollymere · 08/11/2019 18:51

Hmm. Assuming maximum of seventy mph... 6 x 70 = 420. My car does around 10 miles to the litre average, on motorways even better. So a tank is about £50 and I can do about 350-375 miles for that. So a tank and a half? £75 with four of you sharing is probably less than £20 each. I suspect lots of rounding up in the calculations!

FaveNumberIs2 · 08/11/2019 18:51

You obviously didn't charge enough.

Friends or not, you can't dictate what she wants to charge for using her car. You decided what you wanted to charge when it was your turn, now give her the same opportunity.

wibs77 · 08/11/2019 18:55

We always do it that the person driving fills up the car to the max and when we get back we do the same and split that bill between us. We don't charge each other wear and tear!

Maybe83 · 08/11/2019 18:57

Did all the well get public transport poor friend doing all the driving miss the part this is regular thing that they do as a group of friends?

So the OP friend benefited with a trip to Edinburgh for the grand contribution of £10. If wear and tear and payment for the hassle of driving was such a concern why didnt she offer the OP more?

She is a CF and I would respond to say that is quite steep and how exactly is she calculating it.

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