TikTok

[Rachelwilson1]

Dear mums! Is anyone else letting their child use this new application called TikTok? Apparently, children (and adults) post 15 second videos of anything which can be viewed by anyone. However, usually it involves some kind of dancing or lip singing or Meme. Then people can like your videos and follow your account. What age do you think is appropriate to allow your child to download this and do you think it is safe?

It is hugely popular but I hate it. Within seconds you can watch videos with swearing in. Removed it quickly.

Nope, my friend referred to it as the paedos playground, friend works with vulnerable children.

I don't think its good for under 16's. Checked on my Dc mobile and didn't like it, so uninstalled the app straight away!

My dc want it badly but after looking at it for myself the answer was a definite no.

You can make your account private.

It’s totally not fine for younger kids imo. Sweary, sexual references etc.
My 17yo dd uses it but no way would I let my nearly 12 year old.

I love it.

@mummythedoctor they won't give you access? Erm, you're the parent.

not that I could really do anything - they won't give me access to their phones!

How do they pay for their own phones at that age?!

I did ask my eldest to keep an eye on what my youngest is doing on there as she is less mature

Delegating parenting of your younger DC to their older sibling is really not okay. Way too much responsibility for a 14yo.

@mummydoctor eh? If a sex offender contacts and grooms them, or they access inappropriate content that upsets them or creates an example they follow- you think that that is their fault and their problem? What on earth. They're minors, you're responsible for them legally and you'd like to hope morally but clearly not in this instance .

You do have access to their phones, you presumably pay for them, and allow them to have them. Cancel the contract if they 'won't' hand them over and let them have a phone when they actually are old enough to use one maturely and safely.

@mummythedoctor is that a joke?

@mummythedoctor .................. eh?

@mummythedoctor

At the end of the day, at that age they should really be responsible enough to protect themselves so if anything happens on there it's their problem, not mine

Not at ages 12 and 14.

Children of that age need parental supervision.

But maybe you were being tongue-in-cheek?

www.bbc.com/news/blogs-trending-47813350

Video-sharing app TikTok is failing to suspend the accounts of people sending sexual messages to teenagers and children, a BBC investigation has found.

No child should be on this app at all.

Mine asked for it and I said no. Glad I did now seeing the comments above!

I let my 9 year old have it after much persuasion. Account is private and i check it daily. Not entirely happy but she knows anything untoward and it will be deleted.

I said no to my 10 year old but some of her friends have it. And snapchat. Ive already seen some heavily filtered sexualised poses (not worryingly so, just copying the way they sè others pose) they've shared with my duaghter :( . Im well wware of the dangers and surprised people are going there.

The thing is you cant unsee something. So when a child has seen soemthing disturbing they can possibly tell you, but they cant unsee it.

At the end of the day, at that age they should really be responsible enough to protect themselves so if anything happens on there it's their problem

.......what?

My eldest has been using it for 4 years...

It's only been publicly available since September 2017!

(Not even within China itself until September 2016).

Hmm.

Hive for bullying within our school at the moment, so it's hard no from me.

@mummythedoctor My eldest has been using it for 4 years and has never had a problem (not that I could really do anything - they won't give me access to their phones!).

if my kids pulled that shit in my house, they'd lose their phones. Asking a child to monitor another child's access to the internet is passive parenting.

At the end of the day, at that age they should really be responsible enough to protect themselves so if anything happens on there it's their problem, not mine. Are you lovely absolving yourself of your responsibilities!! Ever heard of Kayleigh Haywood?

I thought mummydoctor was being ironic.

It's only been publicly available since September 2017!

I believe it was previously called musically and has been around for quite some time?

I am quite frankly stunned with the sheer amount of naive being emitted from your daft comment. If you a constantly checking your childs phone etc... how are you supposed to teach them the importance of individualism and privacy, moreover you build a lack of trust. You should be more worried about your children consciously and potentially taking SSRI's at a rave as opposed to using a music app. To weaken the trust between you and your children, you might aswell put a tracker on their phone as opposed to just staying in communication and hand of consequences if they don't.

Your overly protective parenting will only lead to your children getting older and realising that for them to do what teenagers do with their friends, they will have to lie to you. Not only this but they will take any chance to do something and will no balance.