In DH's family they enjoy gifting at Christmas. they all get each other presents- extended family included. In my own family it isn't the same.
Every Christmas this results in me writing some cards, maybe sending some small gifts home...pretty easy really, but DH gets in a stress, spending the last week before rushing adding buying gifts for his immediate and extended family. It also costs a lot, he says often about 1K in total.
Over the years I have just kind of let him get on with it but it gets annoying that we could spend family time when the children are off relaxing rather than me staying with the children while he spends literally a week doing all of this.
I think it would be better if we just got things for the children and maybe family's children and there is no need for all this gifting.
AIBU or a Humbug as DH seems to think? And should I help him more as his MIL seems to think?