Work issue making me angry

[CareBear50]

For context, I work for a very large multi national company in an office based professional role.

There is a lot of craic n banter that goes on, it can be good fun, although obviously work is always and without fail the main priority. The level of bad language is extremelyy high, which I dislike, but tolerate (for context, i'm in my 50s and most others are in their 20s or 30s).

One fella and I have good craic. But last week he has taken to saying "you're a c**t" repeatedly to me......."I know you hate it, so I'm going to keep saying it". Whilst I know he's only joking I have asked him to stop as I really hate it and find it rude and a bit upsetting.

I walked into work this morning and by way of greeting I got "good morning c**t". I raised my voice and told him in no uncertain terms to stop it....I really hate it and he needs to stop doing it.

He did it once again later in the day, which I ignored.

I am absolutely fed up with it.....feel like banging my head against a wall. If it continues I want to go to my manager and ask him to have a very quiet word....no dramas....no complaints. But just to say to colleague... "I've overheard care Bear asking you not to call her a "c**t"...so can you please stop as it upsets her."

I do not want to rock the boat or cause Ill feeling and I don't want this colleague to find out Ive grassed him up....Am i being unreasonable??

This really sounds like my old workplace and if it is, call him a cunt back, he will blubber and you'll see steam coming out of his ears as he won't know what to do.

I really want to post the company name but I don't want to out either of us!

No absolutely not BU. What a horrible way to greet someone.

I used t work in a men's prison and I would absolutely NOT tolerate this level of rudeness in the prison or anywhere. I'm shocked actually.
He needs dragging up in front of your manager and severely reprimanded, this is about as unprofessional as it gets.
One last stern warning and tell him you're reporting him next time and then if it continues you report him.
He has been warned.
There are limits and this way over steps any limit.

I agree with those who say tell him once more that you have asked him not to call you that, and if he does it again, it will be reported.

Some years ago, the company I worked for ran training on harassment, which covered a whole load of situations where we had to decide whether it was harassment or not, which included situations like yours, and it being "just a bit of banter." It was well organised and useful, because I think a lot of people don't recognise that some behaviours could count as bullying or harassment.

Could you ask your HR if they could run some training like that? It sounds like quite a lot could be done to improve the working culture and create a more respectful workplace, which we all have a right to. I have spent most of my career in male dominated work environments, and this sort of language wouldn't have been acceptable in any of them.

He sounds like a delight
Don’t give him the attention by getting angry etc when he says it, ignore and get on with your work. Using that kind of language at work is disgusting and why do you have time for ‘craic’ with this eejit sounds a bit thick imo move away and move on, speak to your boss if you need to.

I have an extremely high tolerance for swearing thanks to the military and previous jobs in building and shipbuilding but this is another level. And any of the guys I worked with who happily drop the F Word into every sentence would be equally horrified - they'd probably shut him up manually before I had a chance to do anything.

It not acceptable and it is bullying as it makes the work environment uncomfortable for you. I hope that his better behaviour lately means that someone has read him his horoscope.

Update from today......no use of the "c" word whatsoever I'm delighted to say.

So I'm pretty sure the situation has resolved itself.

Thanks everyone for all your advice. As some of you have said, I need to stop being a wuss and stand up for myself more!

Thankyou.

This is why "craic" and "banter" dont work in the office. One person suddenly becomes offended despite usually giving banter back.

@classic fluorescent

I think craic n banter can work as long as certain boundaries are not crossed.

It's when one person doesn't respect another person's point of view that it becomes an issue.