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Bloody wanky neighbours

72 replies

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:09

So here goes whether you believe or not believe me it’s all true.

My family were subjected to hate crime, being called spastics like our severely Autistic son, threats of violence, malicious communications, chants of we are all peados, sending people round to cause violence.

We reported all to police and didn’t want to get involved, saying it’s tit for tat, not providing any proof of this, police warned my husband when he wasn’t even present, he found this out at a later date when he reported something else.

We was physically attacked by other neighbours who were also calling us peodos, and came smashing on door.

Dh in garage on phone to 999, I thought he was outside so opened door, I got dragged out and dh saw this he came out on the phone, Shen tried snatching his phone, but didn’t get it, she spat in my face, and I pushed her back, whilst I wiped her spit from my face she dragged me down by my hair, dh put his arm around me and wasn’t getting me up when she bit him, and spat in his face.

Dh was wiping spit from his face when her partner put his hands up to my dh, my dh does martial arts, so he instantly went into combat stance, her partner then backed off, and as my dh turned to help me again he was hit from behind with a weapon causing injuries to his eye, and puncture wounds to his nose.

Police never attended in all that time, ambulance staff even stated that police should be here, and ambulance staff were verbally abused by the perpetrators.

So anyhow to apparent investigation, police say there is a witness who states I hit her first, which I believe to be biased, and is untrue as she has no marks and never reported to police either, and there is a video apparently which I would say is half way through, they state it shows my ds kicking the lady( he did this once) to help me it
Shows my dh being hit with no retaliation from him.

They then go on to say that, if we pursue the arrests of the perpetrators, we will be arrested for affray, because it shows my ds kicking he has special needs, he was just trying to help me but we was not the aggressors, nor was we fighting as they would have injuries which they don’t.

All children were present as we were moving out, all of them say the same, she spat at me, and dh was hit with a metal pointy object.

I don’t get any of it, I am missing my hair at the back because she pulled it out, my eye injury, and dh injuries.

Any help would be great, as police are crap.

Should we take our chances and be arrested, or let them get away with assaulting us?

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pollyglot · 04/11/2019 01:29

Sorry, just what is your AIBU? To have them arrested? To get the bros on them? If I were in your situation, I'd be moving out. Why continue to live in that sort of environment, specially with more than one neighbour involved in harassment. With no help from the cops, there will only be resolution with some sort of crisis situation and someone getting severely injured. I'm sorry that you have to endure this, but I can't help wondering why you have been branded pedos by more than one family. Is there a backstory you have not told us about?

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:33

No backstory, we were proving anti social behaviour by all their kids, chucking missiles at our house, kicking balls at our house, swearing at us, that’s it we provided this to council, and then because one neighbour got into trouble by it, he started saying we were peados, taking pictures of kids etc etc, all of this crap was caught on audio cctv.

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blaaake · 04/11/2019 01:37

Jesus Christ where on earth do you live? Move away ASAP!

pollyglot · 04/11/2019 01:38

In that case, I'd be collecting all the evidence I can and getting to buggery out of that place. I'm not in the UK, but I assume you are in social housing, since you mentioned the council? Surely they will act and rehouse you if you can produce evidence of unprovoked harassment?

Theresnobslikeshowbs · 04/11/2019 01:39

I agree, there had to be way more to this story. Something like this doesn’t happen for no reason.

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:40

We did get moved but not because of that because of our severely Autistic son.

Council didn’t care we provided them evidence by email, and never got one response back.

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Theresnobslikeshowbs · 04/11/2019 01:41

If this was caught on audio CCTV then surely the entire fight is on there too??

Walnutwhipster · 04/11/2019 01:43

Can you move? I wouldn't want my children exposed to that for one moment, let alone be involved. It won't improve, especially now they know the police aren't willing to help. You might be right but if they have "witnesses" there isn't anything that will be done.

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:43

There is nothing behind it, neighbour told other neighbour we grassed her up for anti social behaviour, when it was them, just to get back in with her crowd.

We have all the evidence, on audio recordings and cctv with audio, all the threats, and all the chants, and malicious communications for which I git screenshots of,.

One of her mates t liking her to go to police and state we are pedos.

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Theresnobslikeshowbs · 04/11/2019 01:44

I’m confused. If this was me I wouldn’t send just one email and just say I had no response. I would be down, I’d have pressed charges, I’d have a solicitor in place, and I would be on the councils case every day until I had a satisfactory response.
You seem quite 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t get it? Especially with a disabled child. How old is your child?

Walnutwhipster · 04/11/2019 01:45

Sorry I'm confused, have you moved from there already?

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:49

We was on their case 24/7.

We activated community trigger, what a waste of time.

Reported to council, they would never respond.

Actual fight wasn’t caught on cctv as dh had just taken it down and they saw that.

Believe me from mp to councillors no responses, apart from mp to give me misleading information.

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Theresnobslikeshowbs · 04/11/2019 01:49

Surely if they’ve accused you of being involved in child abuse, the police have investigated and informed them they have found nothing, and they are incorrect.

So what malicious communications are there that you have screen shot? How did they get hold of your phone number and/or email?

If you have this much evidence against them, and you have done nothing wrong, then why are the police saying you will be arrested? Or do you perceive you have done nothing wrong, when in fact the evidence shows you have? (I’m not being nasty asking that, it’s just that sometimes someone looking at something from the outside, sees something different to someone that was involved).

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:49

And yes we moved out.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 04/11/2019 01:49

Go for it

They (the police) dont want you to push it as they will have to go through the evidence, its a case that will take time and not net them much.

You might be arrested but in all honesty, I very much doubt it.

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:53

Dh was in the phone to 999 ten minutes before anyone got assaulted.

These crappy police don’t say anything.

Police were involved in that and warned them to stop the peado chants, but all continued.

They put a post up on someone’s Facebook page, about me taking pictures of their kids, and started to instigate mob crime from there, how karma is coming revenge, and remarks of peado were on it.

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Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 01:55

But what about ds, I am scared for him as he has special needs, and was just trying to help me, he will be arrested to along with dh.

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1forAll74 · 04/11/2019 01:58

If your neighbours are the nasties and violent, surely the police would get involved. I don't understand all this really,despite all you have said on here.

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 02:02

All the neighbours kept doing was counter allegations, which made our dappy force believe it was tit for tat, they never investigated nothing.

All we get is a stupid letter after all the evidence, to say we don’t have the resources to help you at this time and to take civil action instead.

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Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 02:04

The police kept saying referring you to here or there, or this person is going to make contact.

No contact was ever made, jeez I have it in record all the spastic comments and nothing police say mediation, why the hell would I want to mediate with vile people😡.

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MamaRhona · 04/11/2019 02:16

Take it further with the police, even if you have to go over their heads and speak to a Sargent. Do not let the threat of being arrested prevent you otherwise. Seek some free legal advice from citizens advice before hand. Write everything down that happened, even the threats from the police. Go get the legal advice you need and take it from there. It is assault what they have done and the paramedics on scene are involved as well as they recieved verbal abuse from them. Do not let them live away with this and fuck moving, what a stupid idea. You dont run from assholes like that you give them what's coming to them. Scruffs deserve a stretch in prison where they'll get beaten and knocked down a peg or two. I feel awful that you've had to go through all this and ashamed that police force are turning a blind eye to it xx

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 02:22

I have tried I have about 10 complaints through professional Standards.

Thank you mamarhona for understanding.

I am at my wits end with it all.

We have all evidence logged on our iPads of what we went through.

I can’t post too much about it, or videos But believe me I would love too.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 04/11/2019 02:27

The police are probably frightened of your neighbours.

Agree the police don’t want to get involved.

Hereforinfo · 04/11/2019 02:30

I take it you talk from personal experience? Oliversmumsarmy

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AmIThough · 04/11/2019 02:31

How old is your son?

If he's a minor he won't get arrested anyway.

Personally I'd pursue it - especially if you have records of all the reports you've made.