Husband awol in Tokyo

[HeyThereDelilah1]

I feel like I’m going slightly insane, my husband is in Tokyo for the rugby - went with a friend I don’t know, but has been completely out of contact for nearly 24 hours - we’ve got two young children and he’s not answering calls and there’s been no communication whatsoever. Am I weird being worried? Potentially too much time on my own but I have a bad feeling...

Is he the sort to get blind drunk?
"but if that was the case I would hope he's smart enough to not draw attention to himself by staying in regular contact."
What does this mean?

I'm sure he's fine. Do you have access to his emails for the hotel reservation?

Remember, No news is good news

I am sure he's just got phone issues as described above. If anything else had happened I think his friend would have got in touch with you through Facebook or somehow. But I realise it will be hard to relax till you hear from him!

No I don’t know where he’s staying - in future I’ll ask for that info.

You shouldn't even have needed to ask him for the information about where he is staying. He should have taken responsibility for giving you all his location details that you need in case of an emergency either at his end or back home with you and your DC.

You shouldn't feel like a stalker. This is about being a responsible caring parent, and he shouldn't bugger off on a jolly, leaving you at home with DC not caring that you don't know where he is. He needs to grow up, please give him the ownership for that rather than thinking it's you doing something wrong.

Phone signal is shit in Tokyo, it that makes you feel at all better

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@HeyThereDelilah1 have you heard from him?

Hope he has been in contact op!

He’s alive! He responded to my text about 4am our time, then called me on WhatsApp. Like everyone had said he’s been drunk then sleeping. He bumped into an old friend from uni weirdly and went out with him as well as work friend - he did say sorry for not being in touch but had lost track of time. I really wasn’t expecting constant contact but a ‘back at hotel see you monday’ would have sufficed. A complete lack of sleep has had me on edge, ironically the night I was up worrying is the only night my youngest child had slept, bloody typical! Thanks for all the replies, love mumsnet.

Glad he's alive. Exactly what I thought but your fears were totally understandable. I hope you can have a chilled sofa day with the kids.

Ahhh glad you've had your mind put at rest. It must have been unsettling for you.

good news op

This is why all the constant messaging and so on is a mixed blessing! The second anyone is too busy or involved in something else, people panic!
It was so much easier when we did not expect to hear from people all the time.
His passport should have emergency contact details in the back, so you would be contacted if he were in a hospital.
Obviously, very glad he is ok.

Yes Tokyo is very safe.

Turns out I was actually treated to a couple of unflattering selfies of him and uni friend (who I know) and work friend as well as a whole bunch of randomns on a jolly, but they’ve all come through now he’s at an airport. I wasn’t thinking he’d been kidnapped or stabbed I was a bit worried the excitement of the match had done something to his heart but still incredibly unlikely - he’s in his late thirties but does have some very unusual heart issues. I shouldn’t have worried he was cheating, think that was dark hours of the night stuff.

My stepmum had the same thing (but not in Tokyo though). Turned out she broke her phone and she had trouble finding a repair shop.

In future if he travels, you need his itinery - flight number and hotel details.

Nearly 24 hours? I was expecting you to say a week at least.

One of my family has just been to a remote part of Africa and I didn't hear from them for nearly two weeks. 24 hours is nothing. He's a man, he's with someone, he has a return flight booked and Japan has a low crime rate.

I imagine if he’s a regular work traveller he’s got relaxed about giving you details of where he’s staying flights etc ... my husband forwards all the email confirmations so I know where he is ... over the years there have been various world events where I’ve been glad I’ve known where he was . Might be something to suggest

So glad all is well and glad that MN managed to put your mind at rest during the radio silence; MNers know men

By the way, I think you're an awesome person for staying at home while he heads off for an amazing experience (I've never been to Japan). It's your turn next time

So glad he's ok. My friends are out there and it's been crazy so I guess he got carried away. Similar happened to me once and i did end up contacting the colleague only to discover that dh and another colleague had been confined to their hotels in different parts of the city with suspected Ebola. Very scary for them, so sometimes things do happen and it's very natural to worry as the one at home. Hope you sleep better tonight.

In future if he travels, you need his itinery - flight number and hotel details.

Like his mum might have done when he was a teenager?

One of my family has just been to a remote part of Africa and I didn't hear from them for nearly two weeks

What's the mobile reception and WiFi like in the remote part of Africa?

Glad he's OK, OP :)