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...to be this sad about a house :(

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 10:59

Been looking on rightmove for a year. Saw a house last week that for the first time was in the right location and nice. Went to see it Saturday, and fell in love with it. It was gorgeous and totally totally saw myself and my family living there. We put our house on the market Monday, sold it by Wednesday.

Wednesday we had to blind bid out best offer on the house we love. We bid 15k over asking price and thought we had it.

Told Thursday we were outbid and have lost the house.

I'm devastated.

I knew I'd be a bit sad if this happened, but I'm beside myself. Cannot pull myself together ...

It's all happened so fast and I feel sick.

Tell me it gets better :(

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:04

It's Saturday now, so only been a week since we first saw the house and in that time we've had ours valued by 3 estate agents, put it on the market, sold.it, and been out bid on our dream home. It's all happened so fast, I feel like I've been spun on full speed in a tumble drier and am knackered, exhausted and devasted :( ...

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RolytheRhino · 02/11/2019 11:11

I can imagine that would be upsetting. Are you going to pull out of selling your current one?

orangeteal · 02/11/2019 11:12

Oh that's horrible, I'm sorry. We had a similar situation this year but couldn't sell our house, so we had 3 weeks on the market waiting with bated breath with every viewing and praying no one offered on the house we wanted, but someone beat us to it, we took ours off the market because there just isn't anything else in our area. It's so stressful and out of your control. I hope you find something soon.

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 02/11/2019 11:12

That's tough.

Nothing you can do but wait to see if that sale goes ahead and keep looking. You just never know.

Great news that yours got a prospective sale on it so quickly though.

Thehop · 02/11/2019 11:13

I’m so sorry. Good luck, I hope it becomes a silver lining

OwlinaTree · 02/11/2019 11:15

Keep watching, just because an offer has been accepted it doesn't mean the sale will go through. We saw ours and couldn't sell in time to make an offer before someone else. Then their sale fell through and we got it!

Singlenotsingle · 02/11/2019 11:19

You never know; the sale might fall through. In the, meantime keep on looking.

Ferretyone · 02/11/2019 11:19

Presumably you are not in England? Scotland?

You are very lucky to have "sold" your house so quickly

@SadAboutTheHouse

hidinginthenightgarden · 02/11/2019 11:19

It clearly wasn't meant to be! Sorry OP. I hope you find something better.

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:21

Thanks all

I don't know if we'll pull out. We need to move, but I really love our house, so maybe. We need to think about what to do now. We got an amazing price for our house so 🤷

Thanks Owlina and Enrique, yes we are crossing our fingers the sale doesn't go through on our dream house. We've told the estate agent to please come back to us if that happens. We r prepared to up our bid too if needed (they had 8 offers by sealed 'best and final' but can't tell us what the offers were..) I'm just hoping hoping hoping ......

SadSad

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:23

Ferretyone - we are in England. I didn't know they did sealed 'best and final' bidding here, but it seems they do (Haloween Sad)

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Disfordarkchocolate · 02/11/2019 11:24

I still pine for a house in the perfect area that I never even viewed. The house we have now is bigger, has a garage, a bigger garden and is in a great area, I still think about the other house. House hunting is brutal sometimes and you have to accept compromise and cope with setbacks.

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:26

Yes, we were very lucky, and shocked, to sell our house so quickly (for quite a bit over asking price too). Seems in this region houses are selling like hit cakes ...

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:26

Disfordarkchocolate - do you think it worked out for the best in the end? Do you like your new home?

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ketchupandfries · 02/11/2019 11:29

So sorry OP - I’ve been there several times and lost houses that I really wanted. It’s so painful, I know. The thing is though, I know it’s hard to believe now but something else you love will eventually turn up - the first sentence of my post proves that (and I’m ridiculously picky when it comes to property!)

SpookilyBadOooooooh · 02/11/2019 11:30

Don’t pull out

A) you’ll be making someone else feel more shit than you feel

B) you’ll be able to
Out and immediate offer in in anything you find or this house again if it comes back on the market.

You’ll probably find another house you live even more!🌷

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:30

Thank ketchup :)

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:31

I hope we do find something spookily ... Took a year to see this one on rightmove though, so I just don't know :(

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Powerbunting · 02/11/2019 11:31

Gosh that's a healthy property market down your way.

I lost my dream house last year the week after I completed on the sale of my current, perfectly lovely house. I had moved into a rental house in anticipation of work needed on my dream house, and the people buying mine needed a quick purchase as their rental home had been sold. All very complicated.

Then the people I was buying from had their chain fall through higher up (one of the vendors died). And decided not to carry on selling theirs.

Now I'm in a different house. That suits us far better. I still think "what if" and suspect it will be the one that got away. But logically my current house is far and away the better one.

ChristaMSieland · 02/11/2019 11:31

With the best will in the world, if your life is so problem-free that this ranks as an upsetting event, then you're very lucky, as are most of us on MN. But you know that. Do something nice for Bonfire night to cheer yourself up and then get back in the search.

JassyRadlett · 02/11/2019 11:32

This happened to us twice, and it was gutting. But remember a lot of purchases fall apart - the first house we lost, the perfect one, was lost forever. The second one, the buyers pulled out after a month and it was offered to us without going back on the market. It was slightly less perfect but has been a lot better in the long run than House 1 would have been.

ScreamingCosArgosHaveNoRavens · 02/11/2019 11:32

The sale might not go through.

The house might have hidden problems - you might have dodged a bullet.

The idea of 'best and final' is that you really do bid the maximum you are prepared to pay. You're now saying you would up your bid, but do you really think the house is worth more than 15k over the asking price? If you thought that, wouldn't you have bid more in the first place? In other words, has 'losing' the house given you an exaggerated idea of its value?

Disfordarkchocolate · 02/11/2019 11:33

I like my new house, but just looking inside the other one made me fall in love with it. However, I had to move on and buy something else. Our budget was limited and when we saw the house we have now we put in an offer 30 minutes after viewing at the full asking price. For our price range, there is just very little in our town where we wanted to live. In fact, we have only seen about 3 houses that met our criteria in the last 2.5 years.

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:35

Powerbunting - sorry you lost the house you wanted, but sounds like it worked out for the best and I hope that happens for us :)

ChristaMS .. I know, you're right I'm lucky to have a house at all. I know that. Wish I could pull myself together! Think it's been a culmination of an over all entirely shit year :(

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SadAboutTheHouse · 02/11/2019 11:36

Disfordarkchocolate - sounds exactly the same sitaution as we have here :)

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