...to be this sad about a house :(

[SadAboutTheHouse]

Been looking on rightmove for a year. Saw a house last week that for the first time was in the right location and nice. Went to see it Saturday, and fell in love with it. It was gorgeous and totally totally saw myself and my family living there. We put our house on the market Monday, sold it by Wednesday.

Wednesday we had to blind bid out best offer on the house we love. We bid 15k over asking price and thought we had it.

Told Thursday we were outbid and have lost the house.

I'm devastated.

I knew I'd be a bit sad if this happened, but I'm beside myself. Cannot pull myself together ...

It's all happened so fast and I feel sick.

Tell me it gets better :(

Derbee - I don't think we can. I told the estate agent we could be more but they said the bidding is closed :( it was a 'best and final' bidding process so they have already said yes and accepted someone else.

YANBU OP. It’s very hard to shake the feeling that a particular house is ‘the one’. About eighteen months ago I fell in love with a house online. It was already SSTC. It was a complete wreck but I could see how perfect for us it could be. I kept an eye on it hoping for the sale to fall through but it didn’t. We bought another house and then six months later the one I loved came back on the market, fully renovated. It was a stunner. It made me feel even worse that the person who’d bought it had been a property developer rather than someone who’d bought it to live in.

I know I’m being silly but I make a detour to walk past it every now and then and regularly allow my mind to drift to how lovely it would have been to live there.

Hope you find something you love even more eventually.

I’d call the agent and see if the accepted bidder has sold their house. Or put a note through the door for the vendors with your higher offer. May as well be a bit cheeky if you love the house. We’re just in the process of buying, so I know how stressful it is 😕

If not, I hope you find something else. Sometimes having sold already makes you more open minded about the house you buy, because you feel like you’re under a bit of pressure and are more willing to compromise on things. I’ve found sometimes the compromises end up being my favourite thing about a house I live in

Put a note through the door asking if they want to talk. You've sold and are in a good spot.

The saying I try and live by is "what's meant for you won't go by you". If it's meant to be yours, it will be.

You're having a stinker of a year OP and of course you're going to be upet. The British system of house purchase is fraught and you're emotional about a home, not merely a property.

Mourn it for now, lick your wounds and take heart that sometimes, oftentimes, we have rose tinted specs, especially when we're denied something we want.

You say you love the house you already have, but you need to move, so be pragmatic and keep on looking for the best house you can get and preferably one that won't max out your finances leaving no safety net for any unexpected 'surprises'

We lost our dream house 5 years ago - we’ve been in the right house for us 4.5 years . The dream house just got us out there looking .

You can always ask gazumping is legal and they might want the money

We lost our perfect house, but have now been here nearly 6 years after someone pulled out. Might still happen.

Same situation, mortgage company then valued the house and decided it wasn't worth that and their mortgage fell through and they couldn't proceed. House was then re offered to me. Is actually found something I preferred so didn't go for it but it's very often the case.