Do share Lola as to what mollycoddling parenting and treating the world as a threat is
Live 10 min walk from school but must drive there and jostle for closest space lest DC has to walk 30 seconds
Child not allowed to walk to shop round the corner or the park because the world is crawling with strangers who've going to abduct them
Threats to children in shops that they can't walk round the corner in case the man gets them (Vs a simple no)
Rather than encourage a healthy approach to risk and responsibility, decide that all sorts are off the table
The folk who see their child had a bump when playing and decide to report the nursery / school because their child should never have been playing
The people who think one falling out with friends equals bullying
The people who fuss and tell their child they've been wronged because different children played with someone else today
The parents who complain about school pressure as they sit comparing what colour reading books their children are on within hearing distance of the children (woe betide if Mel's child is on pink already when yours is on orange)
Complaining and fretting about DC having appropriately differentiated work because they're on the bottom table (obviously that's the end of the world and it would be much more preferable for the child to be on the better table doing more difficult work above than they can manage). The child learns that being on bottom table is bad Vs an opportunity to make progress at their own pace, because their parent is more bothered about how things look.
All the school show threads on MN where people are pissed off that their child isn't the golden one, and how their DC's confidence is now shattered because the narrator parts went to the most clear readers and the singing went to the kids in the school choir.
Get to secondary, parents who've spent 11 years focusing on being top in a single form entry and emphasising how important it is to be top and the shining star wonder why their child in an 8 form entry secondary is worrying about not being top all the time (see also, why didn't they get the lead in the play / my child must be in the wrong set because there's no way they're a set 2 student). And the kids take those messages in and we have them in tears worrying about what home will say. It's heart breaking.
When parents select a school because it gets good results,but then decide that they'll write endless notes about how their child can't manage homework, couldn't revise for the test because etc... And then when the child doesn't do as well, the parent wants to know what the TEACHER will be doing to boost their child's confidence (when their child's confidence would probably have been fine had they not allowed them to not prepare).
When parents sit in front of us at parents' evening and make it really clear that their child working hard, being a lovely student, being caring, listening to staff and working where we would expect isn't good enough for them and the poor child sits there looking deflated (and we go home feeling sad for the child because it's so obvious what messages they get at home).
When parents tell their child they must be on 7-9 grades at GCSE otherwise they're failing and we have to point out it's 13 weeks into y10 and their child is just fine.
Not allowing y7-9 students to walk to youth club and back because its oh so risky, but also allowing them to have unrestricted access to the internet 24/7 through their smart phone.
It's very easy to say "blame school, blame social media, blame advertising and so on" and they all contribute to the bigger picture, but conveniently pretending that somehow the adults in a child's life aren't influential is ridiculous and defensive.