NeedAGoodUsernameThatIsntTaken ·
01/11/2019 21:02
This is a long one and I need to rant as I'm at the end of my tether. I have complained about my Mil before. Summary of my mil:
She gives reminders about every birthday and tells dh when to send people things like flowers or thank you cards. Sometimes even picking gifts for other family members. Because we didn't send thank you cards to people for the baby gifts the first week after we had our dc she sent us a pack of thank you cards to send people. She questions what we spend our money on (even something I bought that I needed for work). She told my DH the maximum amount he should spend on an engagement ring. Said I need to make an effort and wear makeup (even bought me makeup for my birthday). If dh puts on a little weight, she tells him he needs to walk to work (5 miles away) and to only have 1 meal a day. And asks what is he eating and points at his stomach.
She uses emotional blackmail alot like saying it could be DH's grans last Christmas when we suggested alternating Christmas with my parents. She wanted Christmas eve, day and boxing day. She didn’t want us to have a baby telling my DH "I hope your not trying for a baby". She wasn't happy we were having a baby and was almost in tears saying "how will you cope" when dh told her I was pregnant. She asks about my personal medical details even asking what exams I was having after giving birth. She was obsessed with me not breastfeeding. Asking dh every day if I had stopped. Coming into my bedroom when I was bf and telling me their is no shame in giving up. Telling me it was a bad idea to breastfeed when i was pregnant. Then saying she would buy dh a prep machine if I stopped bf. Screaming at dh over the phone because we said she could not visit one weekend when I had a bad mastitis infection. Then being passive aggressive, saying we were keeping her from her grandchild for months. At my dc's christening she was demanding to know how much we intended to donate, getting in our way as we were trying to take photos. Saying I should put DC in nursery because I should work full time and then offered to pay for part of nursery fees.
Now everytime we see her she says I should put DC in nursery because otherwise he won't get into a good school. Saying we need to move house and sell our house and rent if needs be so dc can get onto a better school. And attend church also for same reason. Sending jobs for dh to look at saying he should change career. And she got her husband (DH's step father) to tell him he should be earning more to support his family (DH's job requires a PhD, the jobs she is sending him don't and pay less).
Now she is sending houses for dh to look at and asking how much he can afford. And to check out the schools in the area. We have not asked her to do this! Ffs she thinks she has a say and the right to control every aspect of our lives. How can anyone be this bonkers? How is any of this her business. She is so manipulative and passive aggressive. Ffs I Hate this women. The biggest issue in my marriage. After the latest I feel like phoning her up and giving her a peace of my mind. Though probably a bad idea. Because dh won't, according to dh "looking at houses for us isn't interfering". Surely it is isn't it?