Do you and your DP/DH/DW tell each other everything??

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Maybe I'm just a gossipy, nosey Parker and being totally unreasonable here but am I unreasonable to think it's normal for your significant other to share any gossip or goings on.. For example say if one of my friends told me some gossip or something going on in their life such as maybe they've had some major falling out with their mate Kathy for whatever reason, I would tell my DP if he knows the person.. (that's just an example)
I assumed it was normal to have a little gossip about what's occurring in other people's lives that you know of!?? However, tonight my DP was having a phone call with his close friend, whom we're both friends with and his DP (we go on double dates etc.. however more DPs friends than mine..) from the convo it sounded like they've maybe split or something.. anyway he gets off the phone and I was like oooo what's happened?? I'm then told that I'm just a nosey gossip and that he's not telling me.. right so I'm not actually bothered that he hasn't told me even though I am but my point is that surely it's normal for you to share gossip or goings on that you know of to your partners?!? Even if it is personal.. This is not the first time DP hasn't told me things that are none of my business it's becoming apparent that he tells me nothing going on with other people.. Can I also clarify that I only ever gossip to my DP and no-one else, he's the only person I ever tell anyone anything to if someone's told me something.. so there's no reason he would think I'm gonna go blab to anyone else. I am actually really good at keeping a secret just not from my DP..
so anyway back to the point of this thread.. Do you and your partners tell each other everything? Or is it just me being a nosey gossip..

Oh yeah I totally tell him all my gossip!

If you’ve been told by friends not to repeat their confidences you’re unreasonable to share them with anybody.

Yes. Everything.

Spousal privilege

Depends. If it's harmless I would. If it's relationship troubles etc I wouldn't.

No, some things my friends talk to me about in confidence and I'd feel disloyal if I 'gossiped' with my DH.

Yes I tell DH everything, and if I told a friend something ‘in confidence’ I would assume they would tell their Dp.

If it’s news I would, but if it’s personal or relationship stuff then I keep my friend’s confidence.

Right so I need to tell you all another example of my DP not telling me 'gossip' so once me and DP were in the car with his mate after picking him up from somewhere when his mate starts talking about becoming a dad.. Complete news to me so I was like omg congratulations I had no idea.. He was then confused as to why my DP hadn't mentioned that him and his DP (who we're both friends with) were expecting.. my DPs response was "I didn't think it was my place to say" 🤨

Depends on whether I've been asked to keep it to myself (or I've asked if they'd like me to). Some things are not for sharing.

I think YABU because you are treating your friends' lives as gossip. That seems nosy and uncaring - like you're watching a soap or something. People's lives aren't there for your entertainment.

A genuine, concerned or well meaning interest is another story but that's not how you portrayed it.

Depends. Personal stuff, no.
Tittle tattle yes.

No. I have confidences friends have asked me not to share and I’ve not told DH.

However juicy gossip is fair game and we tell each other no question.

With him being on the phone to his mate that happened today I said why can't you tell me though has he asked you to keep it a secret and my DP said no but I don't have to tell you anything..
might go find myself a DP who I can have a gossip with..

DH tells me everything. Absolutely everything. He has no control switch. I know a his friends' gossip, exactly who he fancies. Everything.

I tell him nothing, and he knows it.

No. Dh works in the primary school that is a feeder for my secondary school. Basically, he knows the kids I teach because he taught them at primary. Im a HOY. Sometimes it frustrating if I have a bad day and I can't tell him why. But, if there is an issue regarding a kid he knows I can't tell him. If he didn't know them, I could sound off to my hearts content, but he does. Sometimes he might know the family of the child or teach a younger sibling. I can't risk talking through things that need to be kept confidential. He is the same. Often parents will say 'im sure Mr Whatername has told you all about the issues' and I have to say no, we do not talk shop at home for confidentiality reasons. Last year I was HOY of yr 11 and some of the pastoral issues broke my heart and it was tricky to have no one to talk to.

I don't tell mine everything. He's knows what's going on with my friends and is often here if I'm on the phone to them but there are some things that I would never share.

I'm very loyal to my friends, particularly as most of them have been in my life longer than him.

Okay all very mixed views on this subject.. that's interesting.
So I'm the nosey gossip in the relationship and my DP is the caring, private one..
isn't it normal to be a bit nosey from time to time though? especially when you know something's going on in someone's life.. 🙈

I don’t gossip as I feel like gossiping is sharing stuff just for the sake of it but if I feel I want to talk about something that’s happening for my friends then I’ll do it with DH rather than anyone else.
He probably tells me less as I don’t think he necessarily feels the need to talk about it. There are things I don’t think he’d tell me about his friends as he knows I’d find it hard to get on with them in the future such as if someone has cheated.

No. I don't share everything. One, because people trust me with certain things...two - husband isn't at all interested in any of my gossip

Yeah my DP loves gossip, I tell him everything, I even read threads to him from MN, he makes check on posts to see what happens to the OP, he loves a happy ending! He always forgets to tell me gossip that he heats or only gets half the story, frustrates the hell out of me

I tell my DP although I'm almost certain he's not interested! But it allows me to get it out and gossip without the chance of it causing any drama!

I doubt very much if he tells me all the gossip he knows, as again he probably isn't that interested. Or just doesn't think to tell me like most men!

Does it come across to him as if you're prying and just interested in the gossip? Rather than in the people?

Why would you be interested if something is going on in someone's life unless you were involved or they chose to tell you? That's a genuine question because my parents get frustrated with me for not having "details" from conversations. I really don't want to pry into other people's lives and shut people down fairly fast if they pry into mine! I have close friends I tell most things to - not everything - and I'd be really disappointed if my life was used as gossip fodder at home

Let's me honest though all of us at some point in our lives are going to be someone else's gossip..

But why? These are your friends, not a story in a magazine

Sometimes I'm just interested in the gossip and sometimes I want to know because I have a genuine concern and want to know that things are okay with whoever it's about (which is why I asked DP earlier what happened after his phone call) I'm not that heartless..