To be saying no every day

[Thetirednessisreal]

35 weeks pregnant with twins I am huge.

DP is making me feel really bad as we haven’t had sex in three weeks. He wanted To last night but I was too tired and sore so he got another form of relief from me...

I finished work last week this week DS 6 is off school so 630am wake up calls. I’m apparently getting a lie in now as DP is up playing fifa yet DS is in bed with me playing with his cars. I could cry with the pain in my back but DP says he ha gave me too many back massages this pregnancy so no more...he has already started this morning about having sex tonight but I already know I don’t want too he is saying it’ll help move the babies along as he is fed up with this pregnancy!

I am going to say no again but he is making me feel so guilty about it there’s no point talking to him as he just thinks I’m a drama queen. Is no sex from this stage normal?!

"DP is up playing fifa"
"DP says he ha gave me too many back massages this pregnancy so no more"
"he has already started this morning about having sex tonight"
"he is fed up with this pregnancy"
"he is making me feel so guilty about it"
"he just thinks I’m a drama queen"
"DS is not his so I don’t like to ask him to do too much"
"he is usually very good with him" (usually?)
"when anyone looks after DS for me I feel like I ‘owe’ them"

I'm just getting so many red flags from your words.
Does DP work? Are you and DS safe with him? For some reason I'm getting a very bad vibe about your DP. Please stay safe OP.

Hope you are OK OP, we've all said the same thing. There's another lady posting about her husband (who isn't as blatantly nasty as yours) on AIBU 38 weeks pregnant and feeling very unwell, asking how can she cope with his behaviour - I think when you are that close to giving birth you have to protect yourself and your babies. Is there anyone in RL that can help you? Your own family? Can you go and stay with them?

Sorry OP but your 'd'p is just a piece of shit. He's not remotely worthy of of you.

I think that most all men don't understand quite what a woman goes through when expecting.

Quite why this is so?, well they werent they told by their mums, their dads very unlikey perhaps some public info as and when they are trying for a baby?

I think that most all men don't understand quite what a woman goes through when expecting
They don't need to understand pregnancy, they need to understand consent and respe t

Horrifying post OP Are you new to MN?
Every single post warns you that you should raise your expectations around being in a relationship with this man. No man should expect sex,ever, especially if it would cause discomfort or pain. You should never feel grateful that your partner and father of your twins looks after you little boy. for a couple of hours while you get a lie in.
When he pesters you again, if fine to say no....or even no fucking way, until YOU genuinely want to.
Good luck with the birth.

This is so awful. You are the furthest from unreasonable. So many red flags with this man.

Your husband sounds absolutely vile, Thetiredness! I am sorry to say that but, honestly, he really does need to be more sensitive to your feelings. I hope he doesn't start demanding sex soon after you give birth - you could have a c section or stitches (I hope you don't have either but a lot of people have a few stitches, I did).

I realise that some people have a stronger sex drive than others but most men are able to do without (as are women), when necessary. The other thing is why would a person want sex that wasn't freely given?

Your husband sounds immature, more like a youngster of 20 who thinks of nothing else.

Get a rough flannel , put it in the micorwave and rub it on his cock. All night.