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Why can't people fucking read?!

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Bummerz · 30/10/2019 03:17

I have name changed as I've posted this on Facebook and it's obviously very outing!!

Okay so, today I went to the local private hospital for a pre op because I'm having an urgent colonoscopy tomorrow and both hospitals I've been seeing my consultant at are full so I can't have it there as last time my bowel perforated and i needed surgery to fix it and stay in so I need to potentially have a bed. As there are no beds I got sent to the private one! I was happy as I wasn't likely to see any of my colleagues as I work in an operating theatre and quite a lot of my colleagues work over different hospitals but as it's just a scope I thought I'd be safe! However no! I walk in and it's my colleague who is covering the private hospital this week, so tomorrow my colleague I work with on a daily basis will be looking at my bum Blush

So I posted about my experience on Facebook as

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Bummerz · 30/10/2019 03:21

Bollocks! Posted too soon!

So I posted on a Facebook group for people with Crohns and the amount of people who were whinging about how they liked the nhs better and that just because I'm paying for the procedure doesn't mean it will be any better than the nhs...

I actually got this comment which makes no sense..

'Ye you paying you gonna get treated better,me personally 4 year down the line can't fault the care I have have from NHS on the ball all the time' my response may have Been a bit rude

Hmm I fucking said it was an nhs referral! I just wanted some sympathy that my arse is going to looked at by one of my colleagues tomorrow and then I'm back in work with him on Friday!!

Why can't they read things properly?!

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AnyMinuteNow · 30/10/2019 03:30

Good luck for tomorrow OP.

It sounds like policitics and resentment overriding any actual compassion for your awkward or embarrassed feelings.

Can you not wait for another? Or request another? Surely you don't have to have this one because of closeness. It might not weird them out at all, as those that peer up bumholes, have seen thoisands of bumholes and, without wanting to insult, I am sire there will be nothing remarkable about yours right?

They must appreciate however that you wouldn't feel this way. I'm really sorry,but nonit doesn't surprose me atall that people don't listen, or care much either they are too busy wih their own agendas.

Happens a lot on MN threads where people plop on and havent even read the OP properly, or the thread developments.

Good luck for tomorrow

3dogs2cats · 30/10/2019 03:43

I think this is displacement worry. Perforated bowel must have been absolutely terrifying. You are a proper 3D person to your colleague. They will take great care. It will be ok. Any way if you’ve done all the dreadful preparation, it would be awful for it not to happen.
But I don’t know why people can’t read and that is very very annoying.

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Bummerz · 30/10/2019 03:44

@AnyMinuteNow yeah I did ask about waiting but they're worried about me having a blockage or necrotic bowel so it has to be done ASAP. I know it's his job though! And I also know he'd never mention anything ever (obviously l) but it is a pretty shitty place to be in! (Pun intended) I might ask for all the drugs!!

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Bummerz · 30/10/2019 03:47

@3dogs2cats yes I think it is displacement anxiety. It was awful! They noticed immediately obviously but they missed the appendicitis that was caused by the rupture so I had 2 operations in a week. Then a diagnosis of Crohns which wasn't cool.
Thanks for being so nice!

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INeedNewShoes · 30/10/2019 04:04

It's just a really rubbish time for you OP.

I have UC so some understanding of this.

Subjectively I can understand your horror at your colleague doing the procedure but you KNOW that they are so accustomed to dealing with backsides that this is just not a big deal. This is their bread & butter and what they do every day.

I'm glad you haven't delayed the investigation. Sooner the better!

As for your moan re people on social media not reading stuff - yep, it's rife and fucking annoying!

AnyMinuteNow · 30/10/2019 04:04

I certainly wouldn't want a male colleague at my arse end!

Remember you can go anywhere for treatment tomorrow. Anywhere. You do not have to go to a local hospital, and you can ask for a female

TheMaddHugger · 30/10/2019 04:04

((((((soft Hugs)))😢🌺🌼🌸

Mummyoflittledragon · 30/10/2019 04:19

Please try and flip this around and see if it will make you feel better. They will personally be wanting the outcome to be good for you because they know you. The may actually be anxious themselves because of this and you may find trying to put each other at ease. Ignore the idiots, who responded a pile of crap to you.

Sunshinelollipops1 · 30/10/2019 04:34

@Bummerz some people just have a serious problem with private healthcare and schools. Literally any mention and they have to take issue. Hope the procedure goes well.

CupoTeap · 30/10/2019 04:45

Would just be my luck too. Bet you thought you'd defo not see anyone you knew after being sent to a private hospital. At least me tell you know he good at his job?

SD1978 · 30/10/2019 04:53

Sometimes people can't help themselves. I probably wouldn't have mentioned it was private, even if an NHS referral, but have stated it was an unrelated hospital. Of course it changes things and is a bit embarrassing- you work together and they've seen you arse up and sedated. I still cringe at the ECG I had to get done. Only way forward is for neither of you to ever acknowledge it again and get on with working together.

shearwater · 30/10/2019 04:55

some people just have a serious problem with private healthcare and schools

Frankly I wonder why some people don't have a problem with money buying better health care or education.

But there is a time and a place for those discussions, which is not when someone is having a medical emergency, worried and asking for support, and when they are only referred to a private hospital because the NHS trust has no capacity, which would apply to anyone in such an emergency.

I hope it all goes well, OP, and wish you all the best. Flowers

mathanxiety · 30/10/2019 04:58

Pardon the horrible pun, but some people really have a pole up their ass when it comes to certain words.

isitpossibleto · 30/10/2019 05:32

It’s not that they can’t read - it that they’re venturing themselves in your story. Basically - they’re myopic and self centred years.

OhTheRoses · 30/10/2019 05:32

Why, as a professional person do you need to use such foul language? I am sorry you have had problems with this procedure previously.

Don't you work with your consultant as well? Can't he tweak you onto somebody else's list and as your case is complex why isn't your consultant doing it?

RolytheRhino · 30/10/2019 05:38

Oh, OP, I'd be horrified at the point of any of my male colleagues doing my colonoscopy! I really feel for you. Very best of luck with it.

I'd probably try to make light of the situation if I were you and keep a conversation going. If you make it clear that you don't see it as awkward it'll probably be better. You know, fake it until you make it and all that!

RolytheRhino · 30/10/2019 05:40

No idea what happened there! I think that was meant to say 'at the thought' rather than 'at the point', but even that doesn't make total sense. Confused I blame the early morning!

Thehagonthehill · 30/10/2019 05:40

I've had this too but have also helped colleges through surgery.I don't remember their intimate anatomy just doing my best for them so I have to assume they feel the same.
Best of luck with your procedure.

Lauren83 · 30/10/2019 05:41

I feel for you! I work in an IVF clinic where I had treatment several times so everyone's seen far too much of me than I would like, but seen one seen them all I guess! Good luck!

shearwater · 30/10/2019 06:00

Why, as a professional person do you need to use such foul language?

Oh give over. Stick to a more censored website if you don't like it. If people can't have a good fucking swear when they are in pain and anxiety, when can they?

Pixxie7 · 30/10/2019 06:14

I do feel for you, reminds of when I had my first daughter. After 24 hrs of labour the dishiest dr I had ever worked with turned up to stitch me up.
However you need to think about the number of butts etc you have seen and try and laugh it off. All the best.

Savingforarainyday · 30/10/2019 06:17

Ltb

Samplesss · 30/10/2019 06:17

Good luck for your OP. And I agree, some people just like talking about themselves and will find any reason. I empathise, even though you know he is a professional and it'll just be another day at the office, I'd be a bit embarrassed too. It will be worth I am though.

Thegracefuloctopus · 30/10/2019 06:22

Your colleague will not enjoy this experience either if that helps at all (which I know it won't) and some people will get their back up about anything.
I also have an NHS reffrral to a private hospital for suspected crohn's next week. But I don't run the risk of a colleague being the one to do it... I mean I work in an office so if I am faced with this situation then there's a lot wrong!!
Good luck op

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