Why can't people fucking read?!

[Bummerz]

I have name changed as I've posted this on Facebook and it's obviously very outing!!

Okay so, today I went to the local private hospital for a pre op because I'm having an urgent colonoscopy tomorrow and both hospitals I've been seeing my consultant at are full so I can't have it there as last time my bowel perforated and i needed surgery to fix it and stay in so I need to potentially have a bed. As there are no beds I got sent to the private one! I was happy as I wasn't likely to see any of my colleagues as I work in an operating theatre and quite a lot of my colleagues work over different hospitals but as it's just a scope I thought I'd be safe! However no! I walk in and it's my colleague who is covering the private hospital this week, so tomorrow my colleague I work with on a daily basis will be looking at my bum

So I posted about my experience on Facebook as

Why can't they read things properly?!

No comment on the procedure or your colleague’s imminent intimate exposure to your anus. However, if you’ve been posting on here any length of time, you’ll be aware of the sheer scale of posters who CBA to RTFT and will cheerily admit to such, even when the thread is only 2 pages long.

A particular thread the other day revealed a shit tonne of posters who failed to even read the OP to the end, which contained an edit from MNHQ. 🤷‍♀️

If it’s bad on here, I imagine Facebook is the pits. Good luck with your procedure! 💐

I was just going to say the same Butchyrestingface.

OP good luck tomorrow. I expect your colleague feels the same. Maybe it will change ( or is that just what happens on the NHS?). Fingers crossed.

To your colleague you're a real person, a colleague and a patient they will treat professionally.

To a Fb respondent you are just words. (Whereas to them, they are a real person. One they really like talking about).

@Ohtheroses, if you seriously believe that people in professional occupations don't swear, you are seriously deluded.

OP, you're absolutely right. Some threads on MN make me worry very seriously about basic literacy and comprehension standards, and it's people who are keenest to attack the OP who seem to spend least time actually reading what the OP has written.

People just don't read long posts on social media properly, so don't write an essay and don't take it personally.

Why do you think memes are so dominant nowadays?

I get why you’d feel like this. I have UC and find these procedures super embarrassing. I ask for all the drugs. I think I must have a really low pain threshold for that sort of pain- or just that when we have these procedures that area is already really fucking painful.

TAKE ALL THE GOOD DRUGS AND THEN ASK FOR MORE!

Good luck love 💐

'Ye you paying you gonna get treated better,me personally 4 year down the line can't fault the care I have have from NHS on the ball all the time

This clearly screams jealousy. Even if it’s an NHS referral. Show me a person who would chose being treated on an NHS rather than in a private hospital.

I’ve got Crohn’s so have had numerous medical procedures done both private and NHS (most of them involving my arse 😂). And whilst I’m grateful for the NHS and we are lucky to have it, if I could chose, I would always chose private for certain things. Only had good experience with private so far but on so much on the NHS.

Sometimes I think people see a keyword or so in a post and take it upon themselves to unleash whatever personal baggage they have about an issue even if it is not remotely relevant to the actual post.

I agree it's really irritating.

Heres another spin on it. I worked in theatre for a short while (NHS) a man came in for a similar procedure one day when I was working. I didn't recognise him or his name (friends Ex). He recognised me. I was switched out with another nurse right away as they didn't want either of us to be uncomfortable. Ask if this can happen for you too.

OP, I'm a nurse too.
And I work in endoscopy.
You absolutely can ask for a different nurse. In fact, in our area we would always ask the patient ourselves or get another member of staff to ask if they wanted a change if we knew someone. I actually thought that was a policy or part of our guidelines??
Please don't feel you 'have' to go along with this. Many people would not be happy with this.
Good luck.

Best of luck

Some phrases seem to trigger a Pavlovian response. Put the word private with school or hospital and some people immediately go into a knee jerk response. DH got treated at a private hospital on the NHS because due to a shortage of theatre slots. It is a clinical and procurement decision for the NHS how they provide your service.

Don't forget to draw a smiley face on your bum with a Sharpie ! Good luck today !

666 I would love that!

It is the same on MN. If someone posts that they have a serious issue but also happen to mention that they earn more than a certain amount of money then all the small-minded, envious types will start laying in to them. "Cos obvs you can't ever have a life crisis if you have money.

It is the same with your post - people see a few trigger words and it sets them off. They cannot see the post properly because they are filled with jealousy, rage and envy.

Personally I think this is a very serious form of discrimination and a hate crime. It needs calling out every single time. It is not OK. No-one would dare to do this over any other type of social or racial discrimination.

I do sympathise.

I knew a nurse socially, who also worked at our local GP surgery, who had a particularly forceful personality, and who I fell out with. Whenever the smear test letter arrived, I hoped that I wouldn't get her on the day. Fortunately I never did, but the awkwardness factor stalked me for days beforehand.

Nothing useful to add to PPs' comments, but just to wish you all the best tomorrow, OP.

Sounds like you've been through a horrendous experience.
You deserve a far easier time of it. Jeez.

This will probably sound awful, I have Crohn's but avoid all of the forums/chat sites because it's always a competition to see who is worse off, and no, none of them read threads properly!

I hope the procedure goes well for you. The environment probably wont' make a whole heap of difference, private or NHS. As you say it's a referral so you won't get all of the bells and whistles of people who pay, but it won't be vastly different.

Take the sedation. 100% take everything you are offered. It is insanely uncomfortable without and if you are out of it you won't remember a thing.

Also, when you arrive ask if it would be possible to have another assistant attend, as you work with the one in question. I am in the same position and always do this. No one is ever offended - I've even had the consultant changed once. I think they appreciate it too. They don't want to look at your backside anymore than you want them to (though to be fair, they don't see anything - you'll have lovely big knickers on and a gown, they won't expose you, they have done it so many times they just kind of go in without thinking about it. Guided by the camera. But it's the 'release of air' at the end I'd hate to think of them dealing with!).

Good luck OP, you'll be fine

I read your post on C&C op. That Facebook group is a total shit show with people fighting over who is the most ill or posting attention seeking selfies!

Good luck with the colonoscopy

You just dont need to be going through this with someone you know and you should have been told this, its a violation of your dignity and privacy and is a humiliating procedure without it being someone you know.

I just don't understand why this person hasn't backednoff as the should have done, or why you haven't gone somewhere else.

You seem to believe you have no choice here when you absolutely do.

Don't do it!

I had my mole removed at a private clinic as an NHS patient the only difference was the waiting room was far nicer. If you don't want your colleague at the procedure ask if it's possible to swap.

Well I had it done and they were so lovely. He was apologetic before the procedure that was no one else to do it but tbh I was in too much pain to give a shit (pun intended) sorry for using foul language he was lovely about it all and said he had asked around for someone else but no one could do it today and I really did need it. I got all the drugs and some gas and air.

I apologised a lot for him seeing my arse he told me to shut up as it's his job. And I won't be seeing him
On Friday as I need a bowel resection as part of it has got a ridiculously big stricture and that's why it hurts to eat constantly.

I'm having the resection and stoma formation tomorrow as I didn't consent to it today.. and I genuinely don't care who does it tbh!

Hi Bummerz, glad you got through the colonoscopy ok but sorry to hear you have to have surgery.

I had a temporary stoma after suffering bowel damage during a routine gynae procedure ( a whole other thread!) and it really wasn't so bad. Recovered pretty quickly and found managing the stoma fine with the help of the lovely stoma nurses. Couldn't see the bag under clothes and even felt fine to go swimming with it regularly, chose a costume with a pattern and ruched front which cleverly disguised any sign of the bag. Reversal operation after 4 months was straightforward and one year on I am merrily shitting with the best of them!

All the best, it will be fine

Oh mate! I really really feel for you.

I hope it is sorted ASAP and you’re out of pain soon.

Really sorry to hear what a shit time you're having OP. Best of luck with tomorrow.

I avoid the crohns forums, they seem to be full of people wanting to compete for who is more miserable/ill etc, I may have found the wrong ones but I feel positivity and sympathy far more helpful than what I have seen!

So glad its behind you now.

What a shit carry on, and to not let you know you had choices beforehand!

He asked around? It all sounds very unprofessional. Whether you are in too much pain to care doesn't come into it in that sense but certainly comes into it in terms of protecting your dignity at a more vulnerable time when you would literally accept anything due to pain. Thats not choice, no matter how lovely he was.

He's not followed procedure.

I hope you don't get familiar personnel at your op amd I really hope it goes weeli for you.