To feel differently about R.Kelly after finding out he was sexually abused?

[TwistedBirkenstockBlister]

I am not defending him AT ALL. However I saw the first documentary and thought 'what an absolute creep' but when I saw the second Netflix documentary I felt disgusted at his actions but after hearing that he was molested from 7 until 12, I saw more of a full picture. Sexual abuse destroys people, and there are a lot of different outcomes. With men, I think you see a lot of that cycle of abuse repeating itself. Women self harm, men harm others.

If you've been abused as a child you are more aware of the predator-prey dynamic, he was aware of the dynamic and he used it to do evil and to glory in that evil.
I don't think it is mitigating in the slightest, quite the opposite in fact

its a bullshit coincidence because if it was the case then all abused would be abusers,including a hell of a lot more woman!so what makes it diffrent for them?

I agree with other posters that there is very little evidence that victims go onto abuse, but your argument makes no sense. I was abused, I self harmed because of it, that doesn't mean all people who were abused self harm.

@RhinoskinhaveI
How dare you. I was abused. I am not damaged. I have a great DH and DC, have had a good adult life thank you very much. I am not 'damaged goods'

You seem to have interpreted my post in a way that I didn't intend it Plum, allow me to rephrase...abuse can cause trauma and this trauma can manifest itself in various different ways.