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What makes a good wife

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Obviouslyclueless · 27/10/2019 15:11

Dh and I have been married for 9 years, together about 15. 2 small dc. Great relationship until recently, or so I thought

In an arguement last night, DH accused me of a being a bad wife. Apparently I don't pay him enough attention, don't compliment him enough, don't do enough around the house, am boring in the bedroom. He went on for a while about everything I don't do. (Should point out he was drunk and had been out at the football yesterday and sunk about 10 pints during the course of the day followed by a few shots of something)

When pointed out everything that I do - majority of nursery/school runs for DC, majority of housework (despite him working shifts and having far more time off than me) house admin, life admin, etc he accused me of not listening to him or taking his needs seriously.

Today he got up and has gone to play golf, haven'tvheard from him all day, he will probably go to the pub after and I'm sat here wondering where it all went wrong!

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tinselvestsparklepants · 28/10/2019 13:20

Wow- just wow. What a vile man. OP you already know that a good partnership is based on equal care, respect and affection from both partners. He is showing you none of that and he is modelling awful behaviour for your children. Sounds like he has given you an opportunity to say that you've thought about what he has said and as a result you are going to get rid of a terrible husband. You are worth so much more than this.

AngelsSins · 28/10/2019 13:45

He seems to think being married means a woman should dedicate her life to skivvying for a man. How appealing.

I also am sorry to say I think he’s cheating, or looking to.

Summercamping · 29/10/2019 23:00

Sorry op he sounds like a waste of space. Marriage shouldn't be this hard.

TricklBOO · 29/10/2019 23:05

He's a negging twat. What does he do for you?

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