House guest jumping whenever I'm in a room

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It's just weird!

This is my house, she knows it's my house, so why, every morning, does she feel the need to do this over exaggerated jump when I'm downstairs in the kitchen. Surely it's expected that someone will be in their own kitchen having breakfast in the morning?!

It can be an autistic thing, too. I frequently give a little shriek whenever one of the DC comes up behind me unexpectedly. Something like a glass falling off a shelf can cause full on screaming and inability to speak for a few minutes.

My house is carpeted and nobody wears shoes. When I’m making breakfast for my son and he comes into the kitchen I always nearly jump out of my skin as if I’ve just had the shock of my life even though I know he will obviously be coming into the kitchen for his breakfast!

I'm confused

They walk into a room knowing you are there and jump?

Not really weird. There are plenty of people who have PTSD, sensory disorders, vision, hearing issues, who startle easily.

Try making some more noise so that your general location is a bit less surprising for them. My assumption would be that they easily startle and not that it's something put on for attention etc. If you're making a reasonable amount of noise so they can hear you moving about the house and you're not arriving silently and being a surprise-in-the-moment even though they know you're in your own house, you might get a better idea what's going on.

Are they someone you know well enough to ask?

I startle really easily. Even if I know someone will be ringing the doorbell in a couple of minutes I jump.

Admit it, you are Hyacinth Bucket and she is your poor wreck of a neighbour.

I did his earlier when my stealth like 1 year old waddled in the bathroom behind me...washed my hands and turned around to see him stood there staring directly at me. Scared the shit out of me and I shrieked....poor boy literally eye rolled and toddled away totally unfazed.

Well I guess you know how to get them to leave if they overstay...

I had a flatmate like this, annoyed the fck out of me. She was the type to treat the flat like her own, not like a share.
So I'd come in and she'd do heart on her chest, panting, going "God! You scared the life out of me!!!!" Like, why? Its 7.30am and I'm making coffee in the kitchen, as I do every morning.
Then I'd be like Haha, howd you sleep?
Shed be like Yeah good, jesus that scared me!
I'd be like Oh sorry about that! Busy day?
Shed be like Yeah kind of. Damn that really made me jump!

I think if you're a jumpy person or with PTSD you tend to be on lookout/hear out so I dont really buy that youd be surprised in that case

independentfriend Like a collar with a bell on it?

What sort of guest is this? You have guests for a long time!

I startle really easily. It's horrible. I'm glad my friends are more understanding than you

This is why I couldn't watch Ally MacBeal. She gasped every time some spoke to her so I couldn't take her seriously.

I see people who startle easily as being selfish. How self absorbed do you have to be to forget someone else lives in the house?

I had a flatmate who did this. It got very tiresome after a while.

How self absorbed do you have to be to forget someone else lives in the house?

How lazy do you have to be to not even read a one page thread which has got a number of people pointing out that some people have suffered trauma - muggings, PTSD etc to give a pretty good reason as to why some people are jumpy.

@ShirleyPhallus I have RTFT thank you shirley. I think if anything muggings etc would make you gave your ears pricked more.

Its disrespectful to constantly be jumping when people come into a room. It conveys the idea that the other person has less right to be there in a way - like the other person is an unexpected fixture in their own home.

You realise that jumping like that is totally involuntary right. How on earth can that be disrespectful?!

I’m very glad my partner and friends and family have been far more sympathetic to what was a pretty shit experience than you.

@gwackywacky I startle very easily. There is nothing I can do about it. I have no control over it. It's ridiculous to say it's disrespectful. Several people have explained that it can't be controlled.

Do you always find it so difficult to understand things that people explain?

I see people who startle easily as being selfish.

And I see people that write comments like this as ridiculously stupid. Then again you seem to be a GF on a lot of threads today.

Its disrespectful to constantly be jumping when people come into a room. It conveys the idea that the other person has less right to be there in a way - like the other person is an unexpected fixture in their own home

What a lot of crap.

I have a lot on my mind. I’m often miles away thinking about stuff. If I turn around and someone is stood there like a bloody tree it startles me. BFD. or when I’m busy and someone speaks to me it startles me if I haven’t heard or seen them approaching me.

Fortunately no one in my life takes it as a personal affront.

& luckily the kids are noisy so I hear them coming a mile off...