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AIBU to think she shouldn't of taken my old toys?

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 21:38

So my mums sorting out her attic as she's moving house. 19 years worth of stuff.
So my aunt (her sister came round to help). When we was younger my aunt gave me and my sister all of my cousins old hand me down Disney toys which we loved and played with constantly for years. My cousins (her children) are around 5-6 years older than me and my sister so there was a little bit of an age gap but not huge.
Anyway enough drip feeding, I had asked my mum to put them toys aside because I now have a 20 month old son who loves Disney and would love the toys and appreciate them e.t.c. My aunt has taken ALL of the toys home with her saying they're were her kids' toys once. 1. My cousin is gay and married but I know for a fact they don't want children in the future or ever. 2.my other cousin does not want children either and 3. They're all like nearly 30 years old? They are just going to be sitting in an attic again waiting to be played with? Aibu to think realistically they should of gone to my son and we should of got to keep them as they was handed down to us in the first place? Sorry this post sounds so petty but I would of loved to see my little one play with the same toys I had so much fun with as a kid!

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twig1234 · 26/10/2019 22:18

Good god, what a bunch of twats on here.
OP hopefully you are ignoring them

Butchyrestingface · 26/10/2019 22:19

Just here to see how long it is until a pedant turns up...

Another one reporting for duty. OP is lucky I’ve recently had general anaesthesia.

Anywayz, I think you have a valid point OP but perhaps your mum felt she could hardly refuse? After all, if your aunt has a rather dominant personality that scares you, what’s to say your mother feels any different?

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 22:19

I'm sorry for the people who are pulling me up on the way I write.
It's just how I speak and I type/text how I talk. no ones pulled me up on it before so I didn't see the problem

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angieloumc · 26/10/2019 22:21

So you're happy to take things when the loft is cleared out but not to help doing so? If you wanted them that badly your should've gone and got them.
Besides, the toys are very old, as pp said possibly not safe anymore. And they were your cousins in the first place.

missmouse101 · 26/10/2019 22:21

@themustressmhor, I'm menopausal and filled with permanent rage unfortunately! It bursts forth regularly....

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 22:22

Cause my mum and my sister (more my sister) are mirror images of my aunt. I think they didn't want to get into a massive row with her over toys which is completely understandable. I don't want to row with her it's the last thing I want to do but I just wanted to see what people's views where if I was right or not. But after reading people's comments I get where my aunts coming from

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PixieDustt · 26/10/2019 22:22

I get your point but I suppose she saw them as hers.
When my parents moved house my dad chucked all our old toys (wasn't many but a few she kept) and took them to the tip! 😬😩

NoSquirrels · 26/10/2019 22:23

It's just how I speak and I type/text how I talk

What you’re saying when you speak is “I would’ve” not “I would of”. Sounds the same-ish, meaning is different. But completely irrelevant to your dilemma with your aunt!

Fuzzywig · 26/10/2019 22:23

Is there some value in these toys?

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 22:23

I can't get to her house!! I can't drive and no one could look after my baby! She's moving in a week so she couldn't leave it any later than today

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AGirlCalledJohnny · 26/10/2019 22:25

The OP is lucky you can’t muster up the energy to rip apart her vocabulary Butchrestingface?? You sound charming.

Don’t worry about it Unicorn, I’m sorry about the toys, and yes, I’d bet they’re going straight on eBay or similar

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 22:25

@Fuzzywig
I guess so.
I mean they're all Disney toys from Disney in America. All from early 2000 not available to buy anymore so they're probs worth a lot

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ElizaDee · 26/10/2019 22:26

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Nicolamarlow1 · 26/10/2019 22:26

Sitting on hands and biting lower lip....

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 22:26

Im carefully reading my comment before I post incase I get ripped into I feel kind of embarrassed lol 😬

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Butchyrestingface · 26/10/2019 22:26

The OP is lucky you can’t muster up the energy to rip apart her vocabulary Butchrestingface?? You sound charming

Oh, can it. There are others actually giving grammar lessons on the thread so no need for me to join in.

Pinkyyy · 26/10/2019 22:27

Used toys from years ago are not worth a lot.

Nighttimefreedom · 26/10/2019 22:27

It's so unwelcoming to take the piss out of someone's grammar or spelling which I'd what those posters were doing. Hope you're all perfect.

Pinkyyy · 26/10/2019 22:27

Actually that's untrue, some are. I highly doubt these are though.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 26/10/2019 22:28

We have given some of our kids outgrown toys to nieces and nephews. However we will definitely be taking them back at some stage - Brio trainsets, Sylvanian families, hotwheel car sets and Lego.

@Wildorchidz, if you want the Sylvanian Family stuff back in decent condition I'd ask for them back now. I say this after spending an hour today glueing what was salvageable after my not so 'D' sis, helped herself to my old toys my mam was storing for me whilst I moved house. They're not robust toys and definitely not in the hands of a kid nephew who enjoys trashing stuff. Hmm

NoSquirrels · 26/10/2019 22:28

I do know how you feel - I’m sentimental about stuff like that - but also how your aunt feels, I guess.

My DH had a couple of childhood things that his parents kept. When they divorced, his dad took a few of them and when he moved in with his new wife, suddenly those things became available for her grandchildren to play with and weren’t given to us for our children. He’s dead now and those bits of my DH’s childhood are never coming back to us - they’ve become the possessions of another family entirely. On the one hand, it’s just stuff; on the other it’s memories and family history.

Butchyrestingface · 26/10/2019 22:30

I would just try to think of it as you and your sister having enjoyed the benefit of those toys for many years and now it’s time to make a fresh start with your own child.

Annoying that they’re probably going to sit getting dusty but one to just let wash over your head. Smile

WorraLiberty · 26/10/2019 22:31

Why are so many people acting like utter cunts on this thread?

If the OP's grammar is so annoying, there are plenty of other threads to read Hmm

OP I can see why you're upset because the toys are filled with sentiment but I guess your aunt feels the same way, so I don't think you'd win that battle.

LL83 · 26/10/2019 22:32

@Elizadee thank you. I can now understand this post. It is so kind of you to educate OP what a lovely person you are. Hmm

Butchyrestingface · 26/10/2019 22:32

I do know how you feel - I’m sentimental about stuff like that - but also how your aunt feels, I guess

Yeah. Maybe auntie feels that as OP hasn’t claimed the toys for her now 20 month old baby by now, they wouldn’t be wanted, hence perfectly okay to reclaim what has sentimental value for her? Smile