Out with child in a pram and you need the loo...

[Blackbear19]

If your on your own what do you do?
The obvious answer is to use the 'family loo' if there is one but few places seem to have them. Do you?

1. Use a standard cubical in the ladies. Keeping the door open so you can keep an eye on child?

1. Ask a stranger to keep an eye?

1. Leave pram unattended and hope for the best?

1. Use a shewee?

1. Quickly nip into the accessible loo?

List all that apply or you'd consider.

Accessible/baby change toilet and I don't care who gets shitty. It wouldn't occur to me to leave my baby with a stranger.

It’s even worse when you have twins, most loos you can’t even get the buggy into the room let alone the cubicle. And you can’t take out and hold two babies and pee. Good luck peeing with a twin baby carrier too!

My friend had her buggy stolen in the 30 seconds it took her to pee so I’d be very reluctant to leave one outside a cubicle.

I always use the disabled toilet, like hell I'm leaving my child unattended or in the care of a stranger.

I can’t believe that some people on this thread would ask strangers to look after their babies, even if they are little old ladies!

In my area the baby change is almost always in the disabled loo so I use that and kill two birds with one stone. We are also fortunate enough to have family bathrooms in our local shopping centre and the normal loos are just about big enough to fit the buggy in and shut the door, it's a squeeze but it can be done.

Accessible/baby change toilet and I don't care who gets shitty

You realise that can literally be the case?

Door open bring pram in a bit. No one can see around the pram

Disabled loo or changing loo/room preferable. If not have him in my lap.

I got caught sort and had baby in a sling, went in cubicle but was wearing a bloody play suit so had to take the whole sling off!

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You do not use the accessible for people with a disability toilet and you do not buy a radar key online.

The baby isn't actually part of the pram. You take them out and into the cubicle with you (one handed juggle or take a changing mat to put them down o for the few seconds while you sort clothing.

Disabled loo 100%. Quick as I can, but not leaving my child with a stranger and totally gobsmacked that anyone would

I wonder whether those suggesting they would leave their kids with a stranger have grown up in the city?

I used to have that mentality when I grew up in a small town. But I quickly changed when I moved to London and realised that people are so unpredictable and there isnt a sense of community like there is in smaller towns and so on.

If I was going out on my own with a buggy, I’d make sure I was going somewhere with a family toilet, like Debenhams or John Lewis.

I do remember this not being possible at least once, but I had twins so it literally wasn’t possible to bring the babies in with me or prop open the door. I asked someone to keep an eye out for me and was quick!

I grew up in a city and live in a city I have no idea why that would make a difference? A stranger is a stranger.

End cubicle with the door open or disabled / baby change.

When DD was in a pram, I picked the end cubicle and left the door open. If I’m only going to be a few seconds there’s no problem.

am so pleased that disabled loos are now often being called accessible loos, so that people who need more space for whatever legitimate reason can use them without feeling guilty.

See, you have just co-opted the term to mean parents who have a pram to absolve your guilt, and that was never the intention of the change in name.

I count at least ten people so far “quickly” using the disabled loo.

That’s it tied up for half an hour.

I hope you all take some time to consider the people who fought hard for these spaces and will support them in their campaign for changing places toilets. www.change.org/p/change-building-planning-regulations-to-make-changing-places-toilets-compulsory

Better still, get all your mum friends to start a campaign in your local area for better parent friendly facilities so these hard fought for places are left free for those who have no alternative at all.

At the end of the day you need to use the toilet and if the normal ladies or mother and baby room are genuinely unsuitable because of the amount of children you have, or the buggy being in the way, etc., just use the disabled toilet.

...but make it quick.

I used to childmind 3 under 16 months old (one non walker) and had a triple buggy - I somehow just managed never to use public toilets except to change nappies (when obviously I took them all with me). Having previously been a teacher including during pregnancy presumably gave me a steel blader... We never went on full days out though, usually mornings and then home in the afternoon.

I was lucky enough to never have to make this decision when mine were little, as I was either with friends/family who could look after them or I found family loos.
However, if I had to choose from the OP’s choices I would either do the «end cubicle with buggy in front of the ajar door» or use the accessible loo.
Mine were twins so no way I could have carried them with me.
And I know by using the disabled loo there is a very small chance I will cause someone to have an accident, but leaving them to a stranger carries a small chance of them being abducted, and I really believe that between these two risks all parents would choose their babies safety.

Leave the door open and pull the pram half in every time. No bloody wonder so many disabled people don't want to go out!

I can’t believe someone is shrinking at the idea of leaving a door cubicle open but will leave their baby out of their sight in public. Modesty before the safety of your baby? Nnnnnnice

Hooray. Another thread about misuse of accessible facilities. I wish I could say I'm surprised.

I am so pleased that disabled loos are now often being called accessible loos, so that people who need more space for whatever legitimate reason can use them without feeling guilty.

The accessible toilet means accessible to people with disabilities, not accessible to all. Where I live BB spaces are gradually being renamed as accessible parking spaces, are you going to start using them too?

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Sometimes there is a "Family toilet" which has a changing table and a loo in it. Then I use that and would specifically plan my trip around it.