Can we have a thread about little moments that made you understand the 'why does he do that '? moment.

[OhioOhioOhio]

I'm having a difficult weekend. My abusive and controlling stbxh is working hard to get under my skin. I'm less affected than in years before. But I am still not able to shake the confusion. Why years after our separation he still feels entitled to put me down and speak to me like I'm a piece of shit.

What does he get out of it?

And when will it end?

And I've posted on aibu on purpose. I'm hoping there are some survivors out there who can shed some light on my head space. And in hoping they don't use the relationships board anymore.

*Yes. He has some very serious mental illness.

But he is so incredibly plausible as a decent human being.*

This really resonates with me too! They're fully functioning Mr. nice guy and people who haven't been through it, don't really understand how much of a controlling mind fuck they really are behind close doors. And it's all so subtle and devious that you almost think you're crazy.

The whys could kill you though, my ex left me for a 22 year old friend student while I was pregnant with our second: I ended up giving birth on my own in a foreign country and he's still the victim.