Baby names- does dxp deserve a say

[Sweetpeach3]

Bit of background-
Got 2DC together and one en route , recently broke up as he was an abusive, controlling twat to say the least. I'm now back in my own house with both DC and waiting to be charged.

So DXP likes Harrison. I personally don't like this as it was what we wanted to call our first son and he used to write it in cards etc before he was born and also our 2 DC don't have the average names (DS"s changed the moment he came out to something totally different)
I love Harlow and reggie (Reginald) But he doesn't agree and tbh iv never heard of a Harlow so he's making me think twice even though iv always loved it!

Completely at a stand still as I was set on a Harlow before we even got pregnant and if I'm honest does he even have a right to give his opinion ?

We was great when I conceived had been working really well no abuse or anything then soon as I got pregnant an started getting my bump he told me to get an abortion as he didn't want it (I was to late at this point and I don't know where it came from) then it just went down hill back to square one. He says I get to hormonal when I'm pregnant an he doesn't like that I can get moody (basically telling him to clean the windows his ducking self as I ain't Spider-Man with a huge belly and to make his own brews- just not taking his shit) who can blame me? Im tryin to be civil with him were my other 2DC are concerned as they didn't ask for this and for them to not see the conflict etc
So all this aside he's saying iv trapped him as iv kept my little pudding, but honestly iv got everything for my new baby alone an I don't involve him in anything to do with the pregnancy an he doesn't ask even if he has the DC why I go to an appointment he doesn't ask what for or how did it go
He hasn't contributed a single penny or anything what so ever iv done it alone an got everything we need plus iv got everything for Christmas- pretty proud of myself as I don't have much money spare 😂 But I don't think that's called trapping lol?🤷🏼‍♀️
iv told him he doesn't need to be involved but yet he wants a say on the name and to be st the birth like he was for all the others. This doesn't bother me cos soon as iv had them he goes home. First time he went out for tea with his mates. Second time he just went home and asks me ring when I was been discharged 🤔 looking back i think wtf why did I have more kids with this self centred arsehole but hay hard when you have blinkers on in an abusive relationship so don't judge!

I was registering the baby alone in my own name anyway so WIBU for just doing what I want and not considering what he wants and just doing it alone. Not as if he's going to know when I'm in labour as I live on my own with DC anyway.
My best friend lives 10 doors up from me and one lives at the other side of the street so I have support quickly at hand and my mum is about 15mins drive so I will be fine in that respect
Just don't know what to do ?? His family don't bother with our DC anyway they see them every Christmas and they live down the road from both of us

What can I do for the best mums ?

Please everyone note ---
I do want him involved I am trying to co parent the best I can with an arsehole !
He's the one sayin he needs weekends to go out with his mates an stuff not me but at the same time they need a routine an set days an he isn't managing. When he has then he is great I can't fault him he's just not normal atm if you ask me
I'm asking him to get into a routine having my 2 DC. He is aware when appointments are etc he just doesn't ask and doesn't want to know.
He has made it clear he doesn't want this baby but wants my other 2 I really don't know what to do ? I can't make him but at the same time it isn't fair on any of the kids.
I don't know how someone can be so spiteful to an innocent child if I'm honest
But now he's trying to say to the kids mummy's having s baby and it's your baby brother an seems to be getting exited when it was only the other week he said what he did ? Don't know if it's because iv done everything on my own and not relied on him to help me he's seen his arse as I'd usually be up his for him to help me out .
I'm just SUPER DUPER confused right now. He says he doesn't wana no an this week he does an he wants to pick a name ?

@Mushypeasandchipstogo you've never been to the Melbourne estate then....

Harlow is a town in Essex. Interesting heritage if you’re a town planner, but if you’re not it’s a crap 1950s town with a crumbling town centre. It’s like calling your child Basildon.

No one who has been to Harlow workday call their child Harlow.

I'm not keen at all on Harlow, it's like calling a child Ipswich or Billericay.

You don't have to let him choose the name or be at the birth.

Reginald is a great name!

“Lionelrichiestolemynotebook” can’t say I have. My ex was from Broomfield.

There's a story about the actress Jean Harlow mispronouncing Margot Asquith's first name as Margott. Asquith replied "No, no, the t is silent, as in Harlow".