I hate sweet potatoes. AIBU

[CheeryB]

I don't like sweet potatoes. There was a time that I could tolerate them, but that was before they got everywhere. Before sweet potato fries and sweet potato mash and all the rest. I could swallow the odd sweet potato. Occasionally.

My husband likes them to a ridiculous degree and cooks them with everything. Roasts them with roasts. Mashes them with mash. Includes them in his turn to cook (4 nights a week). And that's not a problem because they are separate and I obviously don't have to have any, which I don't. He KNOWS I fucking hate them! He KNOWS I never eat them! Because I don't bloody like them.

So. For the the past 3 Fridays he has made a lovely stew for supper.
Chicken, then lamb, then beef. But each time he has included some sweet potato in the mix. Not so lovely for me. Every mouthful includes some sweet potato, which ruins it. I like savoury stews .Sweet potatoes no doubt have their place in certain recipes, but you can't, for example, just drop them into a shepherd's pie or a lasagne or a spag bol (not bowl) without it tasting completely different to what you are expecting.
He has form for messing up traditional dishes.
Boxing day bubble and squeak. He put GARLIC in it!!
I like garlic. I LOVE garlic! But only in its place!
I was just so looking forward to having my (own families) traditional mash and sprout and carrot and cabbage fry up. And the bastard fucked it up with garlic!!

His reasoning is that he only put a very little bit of sweet potato in because he knows I don't like it much. And that he only put a very little bit of garlic in the bubble and squeak because he knows I think it spoils the taste.

So he thinks he is being really very reasonable by putting in only a small amount of the stuff I don't like, be it sweet potato or garlic.

Me: This bubble and squeak tastes of GARLIC!

He: Well I only put a little bit in because I know you don't like it in Bubble and Squeak

So why the fuck do you feel the need to put it in at all? You are either very stupid, or you want to antagonise me!!

We've been married 35 years. I like garlic, but only in its place,
I've almost always not really liked sweet potato. I'm amazed and gutted that he still goes out and buys them every Saturday, I absolutely love every other vegetable, sprouts are my favourite.

I'm going to print off all replies.
He needs to know that if you cook a stew, you should take into account the preferences of your wife/partner of 35 years plus.

l've only had them once. Well. l say 'had them'. l put them to bake in the slow cooker. The smell was making me heave so much l had to bin them. l couldn't have eaten them if you'd paid me.

YANBU. I love sweet potatoes, but sadly can no longer eat them. However if OH's making a meal for both of you, he really shouldn't be putting them in - especially if it's a stew type thing!

YANBU - your DH shouldn't put things you don't like in your portion! He has to cook the sweet potatoes separately and exclude garlic when you don't like it in a dish. My DH is very fussy and doesn't like a ton of stuff eg pasta, cream, broccoli, sweet potatoes (!), tomatoes and many other vegetables. I have to work around it. What's the fun in cooking something the other person doesn't like??

Well I've shown him and he's being a bit dismissive and arrogant about it. However, I know he's going to think twice now before bunging them in anything else. Thanks for the majority sweet potater haters

But unless you are going to eat separate meals it's not fair that your DH never gets to eat the things he likes. I love sweet potatoes. I cook them for myself - the others get frozen chips.

I also don't cook meat meals from scratch as I don't eat it. If they want meat they have a ready meal or something that cooks itself in the oven. They are quite capable of cooking but they are too lazy.

I'm going to print off all replies.

YANBU. Things have their place. I adore garlic, really love it. But sometimes my mother puts it into mashed potato and it ruins it. I don't have the heart to tell her. If it was my husband who knew I didn't like it and still insisted on ruining my meal I'd be furious. It's selfish.

Sweet potatoes are horrible.

Boast alert: DH cooks in our house, and he includes ingredients that I like (chunky onions, mushrooms) even though he hates them, because he knows I like them. He then picks them out of his serving!

Garlic in mash is amazing!

But you just can't have garlic in bubble and squeak. It is a thing of beauteous taste all in its own. It is a shock to the system to find it sullied.

You definitely can. It makes it so much nicer. It's bland without.

Some things need a bland accompaniment. Like bacon, or. . . .or bacon.

Or spicy sausage.

YANBU-but, I’m so envious of you having a lovely DH that cooks 4xa week.

Mine is of a can’t cook, won’t cook mentality. Amazed if he’s cooked for us more than 4x in the 8 years we’ve been together.
He will ‘help’ when I’m cooking, happy to peel veg/chop/follow instruction-albeit slowly. But never will take the lead 🙄 bless him.

I am completely over sweet potatoes. Everyone else in the family likes them but I only do them very occasionally as a side on their own.

This is about cooking family meals. All the cooking in this house is done by me or DS2. DH never cooks (he is clearer upper).

Dear MrCheeryB
I would never knowingly serve something that I know someone dislikes. Never. Why would you do that?
Don't you want all the family to enjoy their meal?
What happens when children turn their nose up at a particular food - do you make them eat it?
Do you include it in all their meals so that they never enjoy a meal?
Is there some reason to spoil MrsCheeryB's enjoyment of the food you have cooked?
How would you feel if you hated onions and she put them in a meal knowing it would make it unpleasant fr you?

Sweetooth92 Having a none cooking DH isn't all bad. Mine has cooked once in 40+ years. However, I have never so much as washed up a teaspoon. Division of labour.

Maybe he’s sick of eating things the way you THINK they should be cooked so is cooking how you would cook (ie thinking of yourself)? Maybe for once he wanted garlicy bubble and squeak and made it because he likes it? Maybe he’s sick of bland your way of cooking?

I love the things - the sweetness is brilliantly contrasted with something sharp and salty, like goats' cheese.

But he's a knob for putting them into everything and messing with meals that work as they are.

Try cooking him a fruit pie and adding garlic to it 'because I know you like garlic so much'. Make a cup of tea with chocolate on top 'because you like chocolate'. Do chips with sugar strands 'because you like them'. Obviously do your own without those things - and I bet he'll stop 'Improving' things pretty sharpish.

I use masses of garlic, love it. But garlic in bubble and squeak? What the hell? Why would he do that?

And sweet potatoes are vile: the taste, the texture. Just horrible.

How have you stayed married to this man for so long OP?

@VirginiaCreeper that’s fair!
He doesn’t do washing up, will load the dishwasher though. Just need to teach him to turn the bloody thing on-not leave it full for me to find the next morning!

We do have two dogs that he walks several times a day, every day come rain or shine so it’s not like he does nothing. I’d just love for someone else to have to sort the answer to “what’s for dinner?” Every now and then