I hate sweet potatoes. AIBU

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I don't like sweet potatoes. There was a time that I could tolerate them, but that was before they got everywhere. Before sweet potato fries and sweet potato mash and all the rest. I could swallow the odd sweet potato. Occasionally.

My husband likes them to a ridiculous degree and cooks them with everything. Roasts them with roasts. Mashes them with mash. Includes them in his turn to cook (4 nights a week). And that's not a problem because they are separate and I obviously don't have to have any, which I don't. He KNOWS I fucking hate them! He KNOWS I never eat them! Because I don't bloody like them.

So. For the the past 3 Fridays he has made a lovely stew for supper.
Chicken, then lamb, then beef. But each time he has included some sweet potato in the mix. Not so lovely for me. Every mouthful includes some sweet potato, which ruins it. I like savoury stews .Sweet potatoes no doubt have their place in certain recipes, but you can't, for example, just drop them into a shepherd's pie or a lasagne or a spag bol (not bowl) without it tasting completely different to what you are expecting.
He has form for messing up traditional dishes.
Boxing day bubble and squeak. He put GARLIC in it!!
I like garlic. I LOVE garlic! But only in its place!
I was just so looking forward to having my (own families) traditional mash and sprout and carrot and cabbage fry up. And the bastard fucked it up with garlic!!

His reasoning is that he only put a very little bit of sweet potato in because he knows I don't like it much. And that he only put a very little bit of garlic in the bubble and squeak because he knows I think it spoils the taste.

So he thinks he is being really very reasonable by putting in only a small amount of the stuff I don't like, be it sweet potato or garlic.

Me: This bubble and squeak tastes of GARLIC!

He: Well I only put a little bit in because I know you don't like it in Bubble and Squeak

So why the fuck do you feel the need to put it in at all? You are either very stupid, or you want to antagonise me!!

We've been married 35 years. I like garlic, but only in its place,
I've almost always not really liked sweet potato. I'm amazed and gutted that he still goes out and buys them every Saturday, I absolutely love every other vegetable, sprouts are my favourite.

I'm going to print off all replies.
He needs to know that if you cook a stew, you should take into account the preferences of your wife/partner of 35 years plus.

Garlic in Bubble & Squeak?
Heinous.
LTB!

Yuck not in every meal. Sweet potatoes are ok in some dishes or curry but simply WRONG in things like shepherds pie.
And as for garlic in bubble and squeak.......NO!!!
Just because Sainsburys says it is ok - it isn't.

I like sweet potato fries, but anything else like mash is just sweet and sickly. Certainly no need to have it in everything. And highly selfish of your DH to be squirelling stuff into stews Show him this thread!

My Sainsburys actually ran out of the buggers yesterday, and shoppers were up in arms. I was

I love sweet potato and was going to say YABU but actually I think YANBU, your DH is because he is cooking so much with one vegetable. Sweet potato once a week - heaven, sweet potato 4 times a week - boring!

Sweet potato fries are NOT an upgrade IMO. They always plug them as upgrade and more money

Rank. Would choose normal fries over them any day

YANBU... I want to love sweet potatoes but I can’t, no matter how many different ways I try them. What gets me is restaurants that only offer sweet potato fries as an accompaniment to steak or burgers, WTF? You’d think after 35 years he’d accommodate your tastes a little in his cooking. It’s a LTB from me I’m afraid

YANBU. I don’t like sweet potatoes either. Actually I don’t like anything sweet in a savoury meal.

Your husband hasn’t listened to you and is ignoring your food preferences. Don’t eat his stews or bubble and squeak and re-iterate your dislike of those ingredients every single time. He’ll get very cross at you refusing his culinary masterpieces but if you keep eating them as they are he’ll keep cooking them ‘his way’.

I share your hatred of sweet potatoes!

I like sweet potatoes but I know many people don’t. I would be furious if my DH continuously put something I didn’t like into all our meals if I’d asked him not to.
As for the garlic, my DH does have a habit of adding unnecessary ingredients to perfectly good meals. I like my food to be simple and to taste how it’s supposed to taste.
LTB.

Butter Is Best Inspired LOL!

Why not get yourself the nearest equilivant in the form of an M and S ready meal (nice expensive Ones)! When he serves up say to him ,Oh sorry got this as you know I dont like SP Repeat as necessary !

My OH eats almost everything but he doesn’t like avocado. I love avocado. But when it’s my turn to make dinner I don’t make it. I save it for breakfast and lunch. When it’s his turn and he’s having tuna in our rice salad he gets me an avocado to have instead (I’m veggie so no tuna).

That’s how you do it when you love each other.

It does seem selfish to keep cooking something you dislike, what's with that?

Lots of good suggestions here. Personally I think YANBU. I quite like plain baked sweet potatoes, or done as fries, but they can't have anything on them other than olive oil (or garlic, sorry!). Certainly not in a stew, bolognaise, or mashed, yuck.

You could decline to eat his offerings, & break out the ready meals. You could consistently add something he dislikes, every time you cook (so that he gets how annoying it is). You could buy normal potatoes, & hide all the sweet potatoes in your knicker drawer, or some other place he'll never look.

Yanbu. Sweet potatoes are rank, as are avocados and quinoa.

He is BU by putting them in your food. My DP despises mushrooms fiend so I never add them to stuff I make.

I find it so weird to cook your spouse things they really actively dislike. DH and I both have meals or food that we like that the other really doesn’t. So we wait to have those when the other one is out for the evening or we order them at restaurants. I’d be most upset about the not listening to your preferences.

I absolutely love sweet potato, but I think he's being incredibly selfish. Why does he preference trump yours? It would be much fairer for him to add to his meal only, rather than to the whole dish.

I like them baked or as fries but not in things. And they go straight through me so four times a week I'd never be off the loo.

Don't know the solution though, other than cooking separately.

How do you feel about pineapple on pizza op? 🤔

You totally can put sweet potatoes on top of shepherds pie!

But if you don't like them then he shouldn't add them to your food. My 10yo hates sweet potato so if I were to make a shepherds pie with sweet potato mash on, I'd cook a small separate pie with normal mash on!

YAB totally U about garlic in bible and squeak. It's divine.

Sweet potatoes - meh, I overdid them on paleo so I'm sure is be sick of them 4 nights a week.

OP I have the same dislike of sweet potatoes! My husband also does the majority of the cooking and he loves them. He also puts garlic in pretty much everything! I also hate coriander and he loves it. What he certainly wouldn’t do is put a little bit of things i hate into meals- instead he adds it to his meal but leaves it off mine. Just tell him- Leave it out!

I don't like pineapple on pizza but it's not a deal breaker because you can easily pick it off

To clarify, I love garlic but only in dishes where it's meant to be. It ruins a bubble and squeak. That's my opinion.