... to think that putting a stemmed glass on a coaster is idiotic

[Jizelle]

I took in a package for the neighbour today and when I took it over she offered me a glass of wine... yes please. She then rushed at me with a coaster when she noticed I was about to put it down on the side table.

Coasters are to prevent condensation from marring the table. The foot of a stemmed glass will not have condensation. All a coaster does when a stemmed glass is involved is to make an unstable target for putting down something that is already top-heavy. It really is alarmingly stupid.

YANBU. Try telling DH though

Er, I put all drinks on coasters regardless of the shape. My table stains easily

Er ...

I drink my gin in a stemmed glass, and I can promise you that there's lots of condensation that runs down on to the table! (Mind you, I have a lot of ice in my drink)

Unless you dribble down the glass and leave a ring I guess? Are you unusually clumsy?

Maybe she’s worried that you’ll dribble some down the side of the glass...

Or to protect a table from a dribble of liquid going down the outside of the glass...I use a coaster with a wine glass, I'm clearly stupid🙄

Haha never thought of that. Must inform the inlaws!

Coasters are used for all drinks, not just hot ones - condensation on cold drinks, heat rings from hot drinks - coasters are the way to go.

It really is alarmingly stupid.

might be the biggest overreaction on MN today which is saying something!

Surely alarmingly stupid is leaving knives at toddler height, or driving after taking sleeping tablets? Isn’t this just...none of your beeswax?

Yep, YABU and a bit mean. Drinks can easily slosh or dribble. She offered a drink, just accept it graciously.

Thank God you and your knowledge of glassware etiquette are here to save us from any embarrassing faux pas.

Condensation does dribble down the side of my gin glasses. I don't use a coaster because the table is buggered anyway but I would if I had a nice table.

Bit of an odd thing to be bothered by.

I always use a coaster. My coasters are also to protect against scratches and clanking noises.

Who puts wine glasses down .....

So true, OP. It's both alarming and outrageous.

My coasters have stopped many a red wine dribble from reaching the table. Easier to wipe a coaster than try to get a wine stain off the table.

hang on, your neighbour gave you wine for taking in a parcel and you're complaining? :D

YABU. Condensation can form on the upper part of the glass, then run down the stem. Alternatively, as PP said, you might dribble some on the outside of the glass

I find it hard to believe that someone gets a free glass of wine and then is this snarky about it because of something so minor. If it's real, I hope she sees this post and never invites you in again.

Yep, coasters for everything here. As someone said there’s a chance of condensation or a dribble running down the outside of the glass. And as for an unstable target, I’m pretty clumsy/badly coordinated and can usually manage to put a glass down on a coaster. How many glasses of wine are you expecting to have to not be able to get the glass safely on the coaster?!!

she is clearly being vu and non-u. heaven forfend it was a poor vintage op?

There's so more to it than the condensation. In fact I wouldn't even think condensation, I'd think drips. Don't understand the wobbly coaster problem, either. Only have stable coasters chez moi. Were they crochet?

Condensation runs down the stem for me too. Also think the coaster protects the table from the glass which can scratch

"I find it hard to believe that someone gets a free glass of wine and then is this snarky about it because of something so minor. If it's real, I hope she sees this post and never invites you in again."

This.

She was extremely nice to you and your response and thread is extremely shitty. I feel sorry for you if you're this mean and snotty.