There are 3 friends in my group. Myself, Mary and Jane (not real names obv)
Myself and Mary both have kids. She has 1 aged 4 I have 2, couple of years older. She has met them a couple of times when we have popped in workplace , no longer than 10 minutes each time. My older child is chatty, younger is shy. They both always say hello, please, thank you, you're welcome as necessary. Generally very well behaved when we are out.
She has made sly digs about my kids behaviour. Couple of examples. Myself, Mary and Jane going somewhere in car. I was saying how their Dad is not that interested in spending time with them (we are divorced) and that it's his loss because they are nice kids, or something to that effect. She then responded with - eh, YOUR kids came in to work and knocked a bunch of calendars on the floor for no apparent reason!!!
She was referring to an incident where my older child accidentally knocked over a stack of calenders, said oops, sorry, and proceeded to pick them up.
Second example, I am getting some hassle at work from an office bully (lots of people have had issues with her, no big deal really) but I was telling Mary about it and said that I had found it difficult to bite my tongue and ignore her, and that I had left work feeling angry about her behaviour. Mary then responded with "well I see where your kids get it from" as if we all have major anger issues!
She is generally a little condescending and a bit of a know it all, but I ignore usually.
I don't know if i should send her a message and say that it's upsetting, and how would she feel if i said anything remotely negative about her child?
Or should I leave it until there is another comment?
Jane stays quiet and looks awkward when those comments are made. I don't want to say anything in front of her for fear of dragging her into it.
I realise this is no big deal really, but it's bugging me, especially as my kids are well behaved and mannerly when out (They have their moments at home to be fair, I'm not a delusional mother)