To wonder why boys

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Are so unbelievably noisy? I'm at a soft play, and it's loud, as you'd expect, it's half term and it's pissing rain, so busy.

There are four or five boys aged I'd guess between 7 and 12, and they are so so so loud, I can hear each of them individually, and distinctly, over the general racket. I have nicknames for them: Rapper Jeans, Nearly-At-Bumfluff-Stage, Stripy Top, Sweaty in that Football Strip, and the possible fifth although he may just be a hanger on, Future Marine (buzz cut, looks mean). Stripy Top isn't inspiring me to a better name.

I have my headphones in and music at max volume, and I can hear every howl.

I'm the first to jump on 'don't pigeonhole kids' behaviour by sex or gender' but this is so noticeable. It's a kind of mid-register howl or rage-scream. Is it hormones? It makes me jump every time it happens. The girls shrieks (which are plentiful and loud), are drowned by these boys.

I've noticed it a lot this half term - at a party, at the park, at a different soft play, but this is the most pronounced it's been. I'm forever telling DD to keep her volume appropriate to the situation, and I've not seen any of the boys making this weird primal noise/shout told to keep it down. Is it just the old 'girls must be quiet while boys take over the world'? Should I encourage DD to howl along like an adolescent gorilla?

DH is noisy in a way I can't fathom - like he has no idea how to moderate his volume, he stamps and makes noise without meaning to, but this is something different.

To be clear, it's not the volume exactly, or I'd be happy to be called a pearl clutchy idiot for being here. It's the noise itself. Like an intimidation tactic or something, like a predator would use to scare prey. It's so weird. And it's giving me a fucking headache.

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Back to my question again: WHY DO BOYS MAKE THAT SIMIAN GRUNTING ROAR?
(Not: I want to whinge about boys in general).'

But you do! Otherwise you wouldn't have written 'Why do boys...' on the basis of your experience of an unrepresentative group of five of them (where possibly one of them had started the noise and the others, given children's propensity to copy others, joined in). You'd have said 'Why did these boys...'.

And that's what I mean. Your daughter's a 'tomboy' and loud, but nice loud, civilised loud. Unlike those male half-primates.

OP any post where people wrongly think the OP is having a go at their kid never goes well.
I know what you mean. There are boys who are quiet and ordinarily noisy. What you are talking about is dominance behaviour. And I would bet they have mums who still see them as if they were tiny boys and don't even notice the dominance behaviour.

Back to my question again: WHY DO BOYS MAKE THAT SIMIAN GRUNTING ROAR?

I think what you mean to ask is 'Why do some boys make that simian grunting roar?'

I wouldn't have a clue, tbh. Probably the same reason why some girls do that ear splitting, high pitched scream every two minutes.

Sorry didn't rift so have made the same point as hundreds of others

Boys are often allowed to be noisy more than girls. That's socialisation and not biology. Some boys are noisy, some are quiet.

I actually dislike the sound of some girls who squeal and shriek. It goes right through you. I have lived close to a couple of primary schools and it's always those squeals you hear above anything else.

In my experience parents allow their boys to demonstrate behavior that they wouldn't in a million years allow their girls to get away with

It sucks

Pretty nasty way to talk about kids you know nothing about other than your own prejudiced first impression.
Could have additional needs, or a million other reasons to behave like that.
If you don't like the sound of other kids having fun, maybe don't go?

I'd rather listen to boys any day than high pitched screaming girls - to me that noise is far louder and much more painful!

But the bottom line is kids are noisy get over it! Oh and don't go to soft play if you truly don't like kids making a racket.

My DD didn't shreak and my DS didn't grunt, neither did their numerous friends we had around. Saying that there was no soft play when they were of the age you describe. My children at age 12 wouldn't have been at sift play, they would have been hanging with friends at home or maybe walking around the shops, at the cinema or out for lunch.
I take my GS to the hell thatis soft play and I've never seen any child of that age

But OP is not complaining about kids making a racket.

Of my nephews and nieces, the girls are the loud ones. Of my NCT friends, the girls are the loud ones!

I have sons and nieces. IME boys are loud and shouty and girls are loud too but more high pitched and shrieky. I also find that boys are quite physical with each other when they fight but girls are more spiteful and mean.

Sometimes I get the bus that the local secondary school go home on. In my experience the girls make the most noise.

I've a 12 year old and there is only one softplay in the area he can still get in to, as it's a massive one with really high frames. He would only go to accompany his sibling. Boys of that age (ime) want to go skating or trampolining or hanging out at McDonald's. So I suspect they were a bit younger than the OP thinks.
I think as well as boys being conditioned to think it's fine to be louder, to take up more space, that as girls we are conditioned to dislike loud noises and fear more physical behaviour. Sexism sucks. I think women can view the kind of behaviour the OP describes through the lens of their own conditioning. So the boys are loud, but is that actually aggressive? And should we let ourselves find noise intimidating?

My son is as quiet as a mouse but my daughter is unbelievably loud. That seems that same for most people I know too.

They're showing off to each other. Probably some alpha-Male shit that they're trying in their peers as they approach adolescence