To hate the phrase 'RIP' ?

[ChongADong]

It just seems so insincere, so brief and without warmth. I also kind of equate it to horror movies/graves/skeletons. I'm sure it may just be me!
AIBU?

I think it's helpful for people who have watched someone they love suffer before death, that's good for me anyway.

I hate the phrase "passed on" or "passed over" (or just "passed".

What's wrong with saying "died"?

I like it because I love sleep so I tell myself when I die it'll be like a massive sleep, a rest in peace if you will

I think it is fine. I don't mind if it is said/written as RIP or as Rest In Peace.

No issues with any of the other phrases either. Different people are maybe more comfortable saying it in different ways.

What would you rather people said? It’s short hand for sympathy and condolences at a time of pain, loss and grief.

YANBU, it's a lazy platitude.

I found it really surreal when my dad died, that I got all these messages and texts using this really bizarre platitudey language, like they had turned into a bereavement card.

E.g. instead of: I'm so sorry to hear about that, it sounds really awful, let's meet up soon'

I got from some: "thinking of you all at this time" etc. Just seemed false.

It’s been around for hundreds of years ago it’s strange that you find it insincere. Do you think it’s misused or something?

Especially when its written "rip"
And "flying high with the angles".

R.I.P. doesn't seem to cut in in our church congregation lately, it's all 'Requiescat in pace'.

Perfectly accurate, but a bit pretentious. It'll be daily mass and Opus Dei next.

What are you supposed to say than ? A friend of mine mum died a couple of weeks ago it was expected but she's obviously very upset ,I didn't know her mum as she's a fairly new friend and said the usual ,sorry for your loss etc people like to pass on their condolences .

Depends who’s saying it and in what context. I hate it on those local Facebook posts about car accidents etc when a load of randoms start adding “RIP 💔💔💔💔💔” and so on. Seems very insincere then.

Similarly, I hate “Congrats”. If it’s worth the sentiment, it’s worth the whole word. See also “Rgds” as an email sign off from the frighteningly busy and important.

Depend. Written down, RIP is fine. Saying 'RIP' instead of 'rest in peace' is a bit lazy.

I feel the same about the endless "Sorry for your loss ' messages people post in threads on here. Usually before briskly moving on to talk about whatever the point of the thread is.

I can’t stand it when it’s just RIP (and agree with pp above, it’s even worse when it’s ‘rip’) - Could you really not even be bothered to write out the three full words??

But the actual phrase, Rest in Peace, I do like.

Oh I love congrats. It looks fun

It tends to be used by people who aren't that close but want to acknowledge someone else's grief. People sometimes don't know what to say. It's better than saying nothing. I'm personally not keen on references to being with angels but again it is just an acknowledgement.

RIP is awful at least write rest in peace , I remember when my mum died and my grandad called his budgie RIP ☹️

I HATE Xmas. Write Christmas FFS.

Don't really mind R.I.P but also think, write it in full. Much better.

I hate 'kids' and not children too, but I am in the minority on that. Never said it. Never. Yuk.

I think it gives some people genuine comfort.

@BillieEilish

I hate “Yuk” instead of “Yuck.”

*I hate the phrase "passed on" or "passed over" (or just "passed".

What's wrong with saying "died"?*

I always say passed or passed away, if I'm talking to some affected by the death. It sounds less blunt than died

'Yuk' Yuck', either is correct, whereas a 'kid' is a baby goat.

I prefer “passed away” to “lost”.

Do not like RIP . I would write it in full

As for the PP who don't like Passed Over . Who gives a fuck what YOU deem acceptable or not ?
I use it for the death of my DD , because I can .

I don't mind RIP written but I wouldn't ever say it out loud like that. t

I hate the word Xmas & the one word that truly grates on me is Buttie / Butty - it's a SANDWICH!