To hate the phrase 'RIP' ?

[ChongADong]

It just seems so insincere, so brief and without warmth. I also kind of equate it to horror movies/graves/skeletons. I'm sure it may just be me!
AIBU?

It's just an expression of acknowledgement of loss, better than passing on!

Ps this is something I deal with a lot because I work for a church. I personally use direct words, dead, died etc but use other words to be gentle - particularly for young kids this is what professionals advise. It's something you get used to

I hate "passed". She passed what? Her driving test? Wind?

I think you have to take it in the spirit it’s intended. People are thinking of you and do hope your loved ones RIP. Better than saying I hope the rest in eternal torment!

I think perhaps in the moment you’re angry that they’ve died, not what people are saying or doing around you.

When grieving nothing seems right. I personally say passed away because died seems too cold and final.
When people tell me they are sorry for my loss, it in no way bothers me. I'm thankful for their thoughts. I don't particularly like RIP however I can see the spirit in which it is said.

Do not like RIP . I would write it in full

In full it's "requiescat in pace" (may he/she rest in peace). Its a plea to God, not an instruction to the deceased. Is this what you write?

When my Nan & FIL died I was just grateful that people bothered enough to send a message to show they thought of us/me. I didn’t analyse the language used.

I hate it , I would rather someone actually bothered to type it out properly rather than some lazy acronym

In Ireland we have a website specifically for funeral announcements. It's called Rip.ie!
I agree with the coyness about death which I feel is more common in the UK than in Ireland. I remember years ago when I lived in London my friend died in an accident.
Some friends from work called around to me and we were chatting and making small talk. I asked "Was work busy today?" and my friend replied " no, actually it was really de... yeah, really quiet". I thought it was hilarious that even in that context she couldn't say 'dead'.

I know it's down to personal preference but I also dislike "passed" and "passed away". I don't think it's helpful to pretend that dying is anything less than dying and I think the more we all say "dead", "died" etc the less it sticks in your throat and the less taboo it feels.

My grandad didn't "pass away" as if he just slipped into another realm, he keeled over and died from a heart attack outside in his back garden. Calling something more gentle doesn't help come to terms with it.

And yes RIP is a bit of a pants condolence.

My dad died recently, I say passed away out loud because I can't say died and not cry. Don't really care if that offends people to be honest.

Rot in Pieces of its someone you hate

What I can’t stand is the exclamation marks people use. RIP! Sorry for your loss! Sorry to hear your sad news! etc. It comes over so insincere.

@DiscoDown

My dad died recently, I say passed away out loud because I can't say died and not cry. Don't really care if that offends people to be honest.

I'm so sorry....... 😘❤️

Do people really snap at others who are offering them sympathy just because they used different terminology and then think that it was an acceptable way to behave?

DH talks about having lost his parents, or of when they passed away. That is the phraseology he is most comfortable using. I am glad nobody has yelled at him about it. I think I would have had something to say to them if they had, that's for sure.

In writing fine, but in speech I think something more should be said.