To feel like the only person in the world to end a marriage after less than a year?

[costtete]

I got married this year but it was a big mistake. I've been having a tough time recently and he's been completely unsupportive and just not the person I thought he was, he's only happy if I am putting him at the centre of everything and not focussing on other things in my life, he sulks otherwise and it's just become a horrible environment. He now wants to split up too. I feel so embarrassed and upset at this mistake and like the only person who has split up a few months after the wedding. Anyone been through the same?

[welshladywhois40]

Better now then waste more years of your life. My ex husband sent me a text asking for a divorce on our one year anniversary. I should have said yes.

We limped on for four more years in misery.

[SarahBeeney]

My marriage lasted a year. Actually it was him that ended it and I was devestated at the time but about a week later it dawned on me what a controlling man he was. Looking back I’m so relieved we didn’t have kids.
Been with current DP for over 10 years and no desire to marry again.
I felt very bad for my parents and guests who’d put money towards wedding,the day/gifts etc.

[OldEvilOwl]

I've seen two of these recently. It's almost as if the wedding was a 'band aid' to try and fix their already broken relationship. It really doesn't matter what other people think, move on and be happy, it's your life

[PumpkinPie2016]

My brother ended his first marriage after a year (although they lived separately for 3 months prior to that). It really was the best thing he could have done. Once married, she didn't want to support his military career like she had said she would. She wanted him to give it up, knowing that he had few academic qualifications and would really struggle to get anything else. Also knowing how hard he had worked and how well he was doing. There were other things too.

He met his current wife 12 months later and now, almost 14 years on, he couldn't be happier (and he is still in the military!). His current wife and he are so much better suited.

End it now - you have years to find and be with someone else. Good luck!

[Teateaandmoretea]

I think although embarrassment is pretty pointless anyone would feel that, at least fleetingly.

But yabu to think this is uncommon it isn't at all. Much much better to end it now than when there are children involved later on/ your finances are more intwined. I can think of a few people this happened to.

Ultimately any embarrassment will pass quickly and then you will both have the rest of your lives ahead of you.

This actually happened to a work colleague of mine and she's getting married again (a few years later). I had actually forgotten and when someone made a comment about wedding planning nearly responded with 'omg one wedding was enough for me who'd do that twice'. I pulled it back just in time...

[Summercamping]

What a tough time you've been having. You are doing the right thing, and not allowing a bad situation to fester. That takes guts.

The vast majority of people will be kind. Any that aren't, fuck 'em. Not their business. Good luck to you

[NotGreatBob]

This happened to two of the couples in weddings I have been to. And I’ve only been to about 8 friends weddings so far.

[costtete]

It seems like the biggest deal in the world right now but it sounds more common than I thought. I just don't know anyone directly this has happened to. Feels comforting to read so many similar stories and know I'm not alone

[GinNotGym19]

Mine ended in less than a year!
It is irritating but one of those things! Better to have a short marriage than spend years with someone you don’t want to be married to