To still have our one year old sleeping in our bedroom?

[SpongeCake23]

He sleeps in his cot. It’s in our bedroom. We are fortunate to have a large room so it fits. He sleeps well but does wake for his dummy often.
His room is up in the attic and I’m worried when we move him, I’ll be running up and down the stairs all night to put his dummy in or settle him when he wakes.
We’re in a good routine and I’m worried moving him will change that for the worse.

If everyone is getting some sleep, why would you not want to have him in the same room?

YANBU. Our nearly 3 year old has only just moved into her own bed having co-slept until now. Her little bed is in our room too. Each to their own.

@LittleNightmare

@raspberryk 3 month old babies should not be sleeping in their own room (SIDS)

Yes I'm aware that it wasn't ideal but I didn't have a choice at the time. I looked at the risk factors and it was the preferable option to cosleeping with a father who was a smoker, regular drinker and "recreational drug user".

We only moved DC3 out of our bedroom at 17 months because DC4 was imminent. I was quite sad about it, missed waking up to his happy little face. Like you we have a big bedroom so it wasn't a squeeze.
Do what works for you, sod what judgey bitches other mums at baby groups think.

@whensmynexthol1day.

But I have to say that I didn't realise how much we were unsettling each other at night and we all slept better once he had moved

That’s the point of them sleeping in with you. You lightly disturbing them means they don’t go into such a deep sleep that they ‘forget’ breathe.

It’s also why they’re so bloody cute, so they don’t come to any harm when they keep disturbing you!😆

@raspberryk. I’d have solved that by telling HIM to leave! Are you still with him? I’m glad your baby was ok, I just think it’s not a good idea to make it sound like it’s the norm’ and that room sharing after that isn’t important. I know many I’d us were in our own cots, in our own rooms from day 1, but lots more babies died ‘in the night’ back then 😥

@SpongeCake23. Well if DH is happy too then crack on! People are going to comment on pretty much everything, now you have a child, no matter what you do, so do what suits you! He’s past the worst risk for sids, but I’d keep him in with you if you feel you’re sleeping ok, but as others have said, you might sleep better if he’s in his own room - but only if you’re not up & down the stairs on the dummy run. Personally I’d get rid of it now at his age it should only be a couple of nights of whinging for it.

Ours is still with us at nearly 4. It’s fine. They’ll move when they are ready.

I'd love to know how you get more sleep when the baby sleeps in with you! I would have no problem with mine in with me a lot, if our 9 month old didn't just crawl round the bed and attempt to maim or disfigure us! I had envisaged lovely sleepy snuggles 😂

@LittleNightmare no thankfully we aren't together anymore, hence my second baby not moving out and up to another floor til 12 months. Which I said was fine. In fact I liked having her in with me but once they're out you realise how much easier it is when they sleep seperate from you.
No more sneaking around with the lights off!