I probably am but this happened last year too so I wasn't expecting a repeat. I thought he'd seen how it didn't really work.
My bro is older than me, no kids though he did want them, his gf didn't (and is probably now too old). He loves my two loads and is a fab uncle when we see him, though that's not much.
It's his birthday soon. And like last year he has decided to book a pub which has a skittles alley, for a Saturday night.
On the group email to all his friends and me and OH, and my parents, he has obviously pointed out it's no kids. Because it's a pub at night.
Fair enough.
But it's 2 hours' drive from us, and the same from where he lives. It's near our parents where we will all need to stay in order to go.
However
If he and his gf stay my mum can't cope with me and my family there too (she's elderly). She used to be able to but this year decided she can't any more. Which is fine but awkward.
Even if we can stay there (can't afford a hotel if we can't) then dh or me have to stay to "babysit" our children at my parents'. We don't know any babysitters up there and my dad won't allow strangers in the house anyway.
Last year dh and I tag teamed but it was crap to be honest. Dh can't just stay in because he was my brother's friend for years before he and I got together and wants to see his friends. Plus they're more his friends than mine do they'd all rather see him than me. (I was always just bro's little sis and now I'm DH's wife IYSWIM?)
AIBU to be pissed off that we basically can't go? I feel really upset as it's like he's deliberately excluding me/us when if he picked, say, bowling in the day followed by drinks we could go at least for some of it.
I know i can't say anything but this year I think I will decline instead of trying to make it work and then having a crap time.
So AIBU and a crap sister to be pissed off and not go? Dh wants to go but it will end up me stuck "babysitting" and I may as well be at home really.