To hate the concept of holding the fucking door?

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Obviously if someone is literally right behind you, fair enough, it doesn't cost you anything to hold the door for half a second.

But when someone's about 100 yards ahead, they hold the door, they get split off from their party, you have to walk faster to recieve said door because you don't want to put said person out they have to walk faster to catch up with their party, etc.

I have mobility issues that aren't immediately apparent and the amount of rude comments or bitchy looks I've gotten because I physically can't walk any faster to get to the door, just let the fucking thing close! I can open it again.
Not to mention that you then have to say thank you, not a big deal for most people, but I don't like talking to strangers. I have social communication issues and I know I'll come off as rude or ungrateful when I don't mean to.

Well, yes.

You do sound ungrateful that someone is being courteous.

Yes there is the question of for how long so you hold. When is it exceptable to let it go. I know what you mean.

They’re not being courteous if they make rude comments because OP doesn’t hurry up.

I just shout no thank you ahead.

Worse when they stand in the doorway to hold it and expect you to squeeze past.

I hate it too. You have to rush, and then smile and say thank you, when you wish the man had left you alone. They tend to act as though you should be terribly grateful.

I feel the same. I have just got over mobility issues.

I'll add in when car drivers try to wave you acros, but you are happy to wait.

Yeh, bitchy comments are very courteous.

There's a comedy sketch about this.

you have a lot of issues, most people don't.

Just say ‘ no worries.. I’m a tad slow’
That’s what I do. But do you know what? Most remain holding the door and say ‘ its ok’ back. It’s called ‘politeness ‘ and long may it continue!

I’m always grateful but it can definitely be awkward if they’re a bit far ahead of you and I feel like I’m making them wait etc so I have to rush, or if you end up going the exact same way and they hold a few doors for you (you run out of different ways to say thanks!)

I agree.

Also the concept that since I have XX chromosomes, I m not capable of opening a door for myself and I should be grateful for a man elbowing me out of the way to do it for me.

I hate the awkward half skip/run to the door when I am walking at my own pace and happy to be doing so. Just let it shut, I will open it myself when I reach it. Worse when it's multiple successive door holding-opens and you're like "Thank you", then "Thanks", then "Cheers", then "Ta," and then you can't think of any more

Ffs. Do you feel clever now @HuntingCuns?

I always hold the door open for people if they're only a reasonably short distance behind me - if they start to speed up, I always say 'no rush' and mean it.

Not to mention that you then have to say thank you

If it's so hard to say thank you, just smile or something. Everyone and their 'social anxiety' these days, crikey....

If it happens so often for you, i’m Surprised you haven’t come up with a coping strategy yet.

@HuntingCuns there's no need for that.

I’d rather people carry on with generally accepted standards of manners and politeness.

I don't like talking to strangers. I have social communication issues

Saying 'thank you' is hardly talking to strangers in the accepted sense. It's just polite.

I couldn't agree more Op. It is v annoying.

It's hardly a conversation is it -"thank you". I mean, if you're affronted with having to say "thank you" I think you fall into the definition of arsehole personally

Huntincuns, I am dyslexic, so you may have to excuse my spelling.

You only have to call ahead a bit and say "Don't worry, thanks", to whoever is holding the door.

june2007 just ignore.

You don't have to explain your spelling to anyone, especially someone so rude as to pull you up on it, on a chat forum.