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Brother in law acts strange around me

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SugarAndSpice24 · 18/10/2019 17:52

Ok so I was wondering if anyone can help me.My brother in law(Hubbys brother) came round to our house last night and he didn't even say hello to me.He sat down and got his phone out!He did talk after but I have noticed everytime he is around me he fiddles about his phone and seems so interested in that.I find it very strange.We have not had any arguments so there are no bad feelings between us.Can anyone shed any light?

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NoSauce · 18/10/2019 18:02

Not enough info.

How old is he?
How long have you known him?
Has he been like this before?
Does he have something big going on his life?

SmileEachDay · 18/10/2019 18:04

Unless he is on Mumsnet it’s unlikely light will be shed.

Yeahnahyeah1 · 18/10/2019 18:06

Eh. Sounds like my BIL. He’s 29 and still acts like a teenager on his phone. I couldn’t get worked up about this

Clangus00 · 18/10/2019 18:14

Maybe he just doesn’t like you but visits his brother to be sociable?

dottiedodah · 18/10/2019 18:15

If hes younger than your DH could be he feels shy with you ?.Maybe he doesnt really know what to say to you ,When DH back in room feels relaxed again and will chat more freely.If you have nor had any argument with him then nothing to worry about!

isitxmasyet · 18/10/2019 18:15

Are you essentially waiting for everyone to say ooh OP he so fancies you?

He is just as likely to simply be rude and have shot social manners.

PumpkinP · 18/10/2019 18:17

Maybe he hates you?

littlepaddypaws · 18/10/2019 18:18

anymore info op ? it might help us

formerbabe · 18/10/2019 18:28

"Are you essentially waiting for everyone to say ooh OP he so fancies you?*

. It's the only explanation!

WorraLiberty · 18/10/2019 18:30

Maybe he's got a new love interest?

On the other end of the phone I mean, not the OP

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SugarAndSpice24 · 18/10/2019 18:31

@isitxmasyet I know he doesn't fancy me

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NoSauce · 18/10/2019 18:34

Without any more info it’s anyone’s guess OP.

SunshineAngel · 18/10/2019 18:35

My partner's brother comes round to do things around the house sometimes (he's a plumber/electrician/joiner/plasterer .. he can do everything) and if my partner is home it's all jokey with banter (including me), but if he's not home and it's just me, he'll make it clear he doesn't want to be disturbed, and just says he'll give me a shout when he's done. I always find him a bit standoffish when he's on his own.

Patroclus · 18/10/2019 18:39

Ohhh its one of these

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SugarAndSpice24 · 18/10/2019 18:42

He doesn't hate me because he shared his cake with me last week.We ate from the same plate as there were none left and he was sat next to me.I just find it all weired to avoid me then.

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MissMudskipper · 18/10/2019 18:43

Hard to say given lack of info....it would help to know how long you've known him. My guess is maybe he feels awkward if left on his own with you. The phone is a good way of avoiding having to make conversation I suppose? But who knows!

NoSauce · 18/10/2019 18:44

How old is he? it’s like pulling teeth

rainingallday · 18/10/2019 18:44

Oddest thread of the day.