For being gutted

[Freakedrt]

My sibling has had a problem with one of her kids it’s hard for her to manage .

She has another who is fine .

She had kids young .. in her twenties , I’m having them a bit later .. mid 30s.

She has never gotten over what’s happened to her child and wanted more , but she hasn’t had any more kids ( her OH doesn’t want more ) She told me she finds it hard seeing other people have babies .

I’m expecting my fourth , AIBU to feel gutted that every time I give birth , she goes on holiday roughly around that time and gets a bit distant .

She has so much going for herself , has a fabulous life (that I don’t have ) in many other ways .

YABVU, immature and selfish and not empathetic, either. It's sad that the one good thing that's happened to you is having sex and reproducing.

I think you need to be more empathetic

But I think a lot of posters here have dysfunctional relationships with familia so probably would’nt understand.

Given your lack of empathy for your sister, I'd say yours is also a dysfunctional family.

My family would have screamed their closeness from the rooftops, but that didn't stop them being dysfunctional. The two conditions aren't mutually exclusive.