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Is this CF or AIBU

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 14:26

Posting here as everyone I've told finds this hilarious ( except me)

Every 8 weeks i go out with my DH DB and SIL. It is this weekend every 8 weeks that i don't have DSS's so i do look forward to this particular weekend a lot.

So Saturday night we all went out to an Indian restaurant which is lovely and you take your own alcohol. Last time we went out i took the alcohol (prosecco) this time SIL said she'd get it so all good.

We were having a nice night but something was missing i don't drink very often but when i do i enjoy the tipsy feeling but this night it just wasn't happening. There weren't as many laughs or funny conversations i thought maybe it was me. It was still a nice night just not as fun as normal.

Anyway as we were parting ways SIL said did you enjoy the prosecco i said yes thanks it was nice she then said it was alcohol free and said that i could thank her in the morning winked and walked off!!

Thing is I'd planned the Sunday to be a lazy day with Netflix and a thick head so i didn't want to thank her.

I told a few of my friends in group chat they think it was extremely funny as they know how much i look forward to this particular night out and enjoy my rare chance to drink.

I never drink at home or out with DSS's as DSS's DM is alcoholic, they don't like alcohol infact can't stand it so we never drink around them hence why i look forward to the weekend every 2 months the boys stay with their nana.

To be honestly part of me finds it bloody hilarious to but the other part of me thinks what a cow doing that 😂

P.S i didn't thank her the next morning

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PatriciaHolm · 15/10/2019 15:23

Was she hiding the bottle? I can't conceive of how you wouldn't notice.

INeedNewShoes · 15/10/2019 15:24

I am wondering whether, because this rare night out for you is always with them, that SIL thinks you generally drink too much as she doesn't realise you don't normally drink the amount you do on these dinners.

My other thought is that maybe she finds your drunk persona irritating. Are you getting a little tipsy or are you getting loud and annoying?

Then my third thought is that pps are into something and she could be pregnant.

It isn't THAT rare for a couple who've had fertility treatment for DC1 to then get pregnant naturally with DC2.

INeedNewShoes · 15/10/2019 15:25

PPs are ONTO something, not INTO Hmm

frumpety · 15/10/2019 15:25

Is she doing going sober in October ?

Oodlesandpoodles · 15/10/2019 15:27

I’d be a bit ... weirded out.

She may just be trying to be funny but it failed.

Or she’s being passive aggressive.

I’d give her NA booze from now on

AryaStarkWolf · 15/10/2019 15:28

Off you go then, you've had you 1 sec of input. Don't forget to close the door on your way out

uhh? Are you trying to kick me out of the thread? bahaha. Crazy lady

flowery · 15/10/2019 15:30

” Thing is I'd planned the Sunday to be a lazy day with Netflix and a thick head”

Presumably the fact you didn’t drink alcohol didn’t mean you had to cancel the lazy day and the Netflix, just the “thick head” bit of your plans got stymied?

bringincrazyback · 15/10/2019 15:33

YANBU, that was quite judgey of her imho.

midnightmisssuki · 15/10/2019 15:37

How irritating. Does she think you have an alcoholic issue if you got a bit tipsy last time? She sounds controlling.

diddl · 15/10/2019 15:37

I think it's quite funny tbh.

You know your SIL & whether or not it's some control freakery, or she just fancied imbibing less alcohol herself & didn't think that others would mind.

HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 15:37

uhh? Are you trying to kick me out of the thread? bahaha. Crazy lady

Kick you out?! Whatever for? Seems we have a perception problem here. (Just incase you don't understand, I mean you seem to read things differently than I do).

Bugger off now and howl somewhere else, Wolf (Incase you didn't get it, 'wolf' is in your name and wolves howl and I meant 'Leave me alone'). Good lady.

AryaStarkWolf · 15/10/2019 15:38

How irritating. Does she think you have an alcoholic issue if you got a bit tipsy last time? She sounds controlling.

OP said that she usually gets more sozzled than she does, so it must not be that

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timshelthechoice · 15/10/2019 15:47

I agree about not noticing non alcoholic drinks, though. I notice and find them too sweet as well. I stick to lime and soda or sparkling water and lemon. I tried the non-alcoholic gin and it was boggin' - tasted like sucking on a juniper berry to me, blech!

seaweedandmarchingbands · 15/10/2019 15:48

There’s no way I wouldn’t notice I was drinking NA wine. I might not realise it was NA but I would think it was off or something.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 15/10/2019 15:53

Arya I would just ignore that poster- they’re doing the same weird behaviour on other threads.

HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 15:58

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart I'm sorry what weird behaviour am I doing on other threads?
If someone addresses me in what I feel is a silly way and I ask them to "be on their way" and leave me alone because I would rather not engage with them, how is it weird or do you have a perception problem too? Or are you also AryaStarkWolf by any chance?

I wasn't even going to reply further because it seems you/AryaStarkWolf want a back and forth I can't give but thought to make it a bit more plain.

Jaxhog · 15/10/2019 15:59

Maybe she doesn't like you when you're tipsy!

Honestly, what does it matter? If you didn't notice at the time, why get upset now?

HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 16:00

I recognise your name on the ONLY other thread I did the same thing. What other threads am I doing it?

Could you please not derail OP's posts with inaccurate and silly comments, thank you.

Curlyeyelash · 15/10/2019 16:01

I would have thought you would need 2 bottles between 4 adults (or was it 3 adults?). Then again both my family and my partners family enjoy a drink so perhaps that's an over estimate aha.

So yes I would have been miffed too but I can see the funny side as well! Next time bring your own aha!

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 15/10/2019 16:02

Non alcoholic prosecco isn't that cheap, so I don't think that was it.

It sounds to me like she genuinely thought you might appreciate having a nice night out without the hangover the following morning. Maybe she asked if you liked it because she was hoping you hadn't been able to tell it was non alcoholic and might be converted.

It's just possible you aren't as much fun tipsy as you think you are and this was a gentle way of encouraging you to stay off the booze on your nights out with them.

I don't think she was being mean.

Derbee · 15/10/2019 16:03

Next time, take booze for you, and alcohol free for her, as you assume that’s what she drinks now

AryaStarkWolf · 15/10/2019 16:05

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart will do, thanks for the heads up

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 16:06

Honestly the only reason i can think of is because in the last year I've lost over 3 stone and alcohol is fattening. I had a gain on the scales last week but nothing major only 0.5lb so I'm thinking maybe she brought it thinking the alcohol free is less fattening and at weigh in this week I'd not have another gain.

She definitely doesn't think i drink to much she drinks more than me.

I really do know the difference between sober and tipsy but because I've been unwell with a virus and wasn't quite 100% Saturday so i put it down that never for a second thinking i wasn't getting tipsy because i was drinking alcohol free

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