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AIBU?

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Is this CF or AIBU

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 14:26

Posting here as everyone I've told finds this hilarious ( except me)

Every 8 weeks i go out with my DH DB and SIL. It is this weekend every 8 weeks that i don't have DSS's so i do look forward to this particular weekend a lot.

So Saturday night we all went out to an Indian restaurant which is lovely and you take your own alcohol. Last time we went out i took the alcohol (prosecco) this time SIL said she'd get it so all good.

We were having a nice night but something was missing i don't drink very often but when i do i enjoy the tipsy feeling but this night it just wasn't happening. There weren't as many laughs or funny conversations i thought maybe it was me. It was still a nice night just not as fun as normal.

Anyway as we were parting ways SIL said did you enjoy the prosecco i said yes thanks it was nice she then said it was alcohol free and said that i could thank her in the morning winked and walked off!!

Thing is I'd planned the Sunday to be a lazy day with Netflix and a thick head so i didn't want to thank her.

I told a few of my friends in group chat they think it was extremely funny as they know how much i look forward to this particular night out and enjoy my rare chance to drink.

I never drink at home or out with DSS's as DSS's DM is alcoholic, they don't like alcohol infact can't stand it so we never drink around them hence why i look forward to the weekend every 2 months the boys stay with their nana.

To be honestly part of me finds it bloody hilarious to but the other part of me thinks what a cow doing that 😂

P.S i didn't thank her the next morning

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HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 14:48

I think you should ask her wtf then? Lol

Did she find this prosecco recently and just wanted you to try it unbiased? Because if she told you first, you may shut it down before trying it. I know I do that when I want someone to try something I KNOW THEY WOULD LIKE but will be too biased to give it a fair try if they knew what it was beforehand. It always works.

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 14:51

@ohyesiam extremely doubtful she's 42 almost 43 and had IVF to conceive my beautiful DN after 9 painstaking years of trying. We are really close and if this was the case I'm sure I'd know.

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kitk · 15/10/2019 14:51

@Auntmnrain thank you so much- I'll give it a try! Sorry to not have anything meaningful to comment on your post and hope you get some alcoholic Prosecco soon x

mankyfourthtoe · 15/10/2019 14:51

Take a bottle of both next time and give her the free version! And say your welcome quite loudly.

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 14:53

@HEMammajamma I'm seeing her tomorrow so will definitely ask her i just don't want to upset her and her to think she ruined my night (even though she did )

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 14:53

@kitk no problem. Hope you enjoy it x

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Auntmnrain · 15/10/2019 14:55

@mankyfourthtoe she's never being trusted again I'm always going to take my own from now on 😂

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HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 14:55

You can still do so casually and in a lighthearted way. She may even bring it up again to chat about the new prosecco she found, one you both could indulge in forever

HollowTalk · 15/10/2019 14:55

Were the guys drinking this, too, or did they have alcohol?

LenoVintura · 15/10/2019 14:56

She thinks you drink too much.

Crunchymum · 15/10/2019 14:57

Surely you know the difference between being sober and tipsy OP?

You didn't figure it out?

timshelthechoice · 15/10/2019 15:02

I don't drink alcohol at all and this would piss me right off if I did. It's controlling AF. I would do as GPatz said. Just bring your own no more 'I'll get it this time'. 'I'm an adult. I really don't appreciate being lied to or fooled under the pretext of your doing me a favour. I won't ever thank someone for that. I'm quite capable of deciding what to eat and drink.'

Chocolatemouse84 · 15/10/2019 15:05

Yanbu. She should have told you that the bottle she was bringing was non alcoholic so you could make a decision before the night as to whether you wanted to drink that or grab your own on the way there.
Strange behaviour on her part to keep it from you!

timshelthechoice · 15/10/2019 15:06

She didn't think anything about lying to you and controlling you and you are worried about upsetting her? She thinks you drink too much, but instead of having the fucking balls to be mature enough to say that she does this. I'd be fucking livid. Wouldn't mention it again but that would be the last time we did alcohol shares or you get one and I get next time. I'd just stick to, 'Prefer to bring my own' and say nothing about it ever again if you don't want to rock the boat.

gamerchick · 15/10/2019 15:06

She thinks you drink too much

Yeah, once every 8 weeks is just insane drinking.

timshelthechoice · 15/10/2019 15:09

Yeah, once every 8 weeks is just insane drinking.

On MN, everything over a sniff of sherry at Xmas is too much and binge drinking and I say that as a non-drinker. There will soon be posts about how she has had over 3 units so is bingeing, needs to see the GP for liver function test, go to AA, see a therapist to examine why she wants to drink alcohol with a curry, you don't need alcohol to have fun, what her weight is and how if she didn't drink at all she'd be 6st (this one always makes me laugh, I stopped drinking years ago never lost an ounce from it), blah blah blah.

AthollPlace · 15/10/2019 15:09

It’s rude and controlling of her to limit YOUR alcohol consumption. You’re an adult and can decide for yourself. Most likely she was just being stingy because the alcohol free stuff is at least a fiver cheaper than the normal stuff!

HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 15:13

Omg I think ppl should just calm tf down. The drama, ffs! No one knows yet why she did it and OP, you know her well as you said you're close.
I would have a general idea what my close friend's intentions are (is she usually a CF or is this an innocent misunderstanding or is she a controlling bitch) but whether I do or I don't, I would simply ask her first before slagging her off.

Cuckoobananas · 15/10/2019 15:15

Very strange of her to do that but how could you not tell. I had some of that nosecco when i was pregnant one sip and it all went in the bin,It tasted like perfume!

timshelthechoice · 15/10/2019 15:16

Or just take your own from now on. But I wouldn't be pleased. It's controlling and lying to do that to someone. Would you put meat in a dish you knew a vegetarian would eat and then say, 'Thank me for providing you with iron'?

JenniR29 · 15/10/2019 15:17

I’d be more annoyed that my choice to drink had been taken away more than anything. Nobody else gets to police how much I have, especially if it’s an infrequent night out where I’d planned to be drinking.

It’s not worth a serious argument over but I’d maybe request that next time she should let you know if she’s not planning on bringing alcohol like had been previously agreed. That way you can choose to bring your own if you want.

I am surprised you couldn’t taste the difference though, I find all non alcoholic wine to be disgustingly sweet.

AryaStarkWolf · 15/10/2019 15:18

Omg I think ppl should just calm tf down. The drama, ffs!

Umm are you reading the same thread as me? Where's all these crazy dramatic posts?

redcarbluecar · 15/10/2019 15:18

Seems legit that she might be pregnant. Or maybe a bit tight - she had the nosecco at home and decided to bring it rather than shelling out for something else. It is a bit odd but not the end of the world - have back up alcohol next time!

Witchinaditch · 15/10/2019 15:22

I’d be annoyed that she chose that the night would be alcohol free. How did you not notice it was non alcoholic? I can’t stand non alcoholic wine it’s so sweet!

HEMammajamma · 15/10/2019 15:23

Umm are you reading the same thread as me? Where's all these crazy dramatic posts?

Off you go then, you've had you 1 sec of input. Don't forget to close the door on your way out

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