Dating new man.. Sex talk

[Pheebs990]

Recently dating someone new (around 4 months in). We've slept together once and it was unprotected but he did pull out. After this I was late for my cycle and was extremely paranoid I may be pregnant (he was aware I was stressed) but I eventually came on and was just late.

After I made a point of saying I would never be so stupid again as I already have a little one and am in no position to have any other one.

He then mentioned to me about going on the pill and I said I hadn't wanted too for personal reasons and that also rules out a fair few other contraceptive methods. I mentioned using condoms and he said he didn't want too as its never worked in the past (he can't keep it up, sorry tmi).

But, after saying that I didn't want to use the pill, he replied with 'it can't be that bad' to which I spelled the reasons out again. It came up in another conversation which he asked if I'd started taking it yet and oviovusly I told him I hadn't. Then today he's messaged (not randomly but again in the topic of the convo) that 'pulling out seems best then as the chances are slim, but knowing our luck you'll get pregnant' I replied with an off message as I didn't find it funny bearing in mind I was very stressed before and he replied with a blunt message back.

Am I blowing it out of proportion or am I right to be somewhat annoyed by this?

Even if he said he’s been tested I would take his word on that. I hope he had something to back that up.

There are female condoms, but the fact he is pressurizing you is not nice, I would end it.

Just bin him and wait for someone normal to come along.

Honestly I'd be very worried about him refusing to wear a condom. It sounds as if he never does so you have no idea what sti's he could have.
Also when he said to u about it cant be that bad I'd have said the same thing about him wearing a condom

I would be breaking up with him, tbh. He sounds extremely selfish

He's really uneducated in terms of contraception isn't he?

To be honest I'd end it because he has no respect for you, at all.

But, if you're not going to, I'd suggest trying a few types of condom (he hasn't said he won't use them, just that he can't perform with them on). How old is he?

He’ll get you pregnant and blame you for it. Society will validate him by saying he made it clear he didn’t want children so shouldn’t have to pay for it. A vasectomy is his only choice to not make a baby.

OP before you consider having sex with anyone again, or even getting intimate, educate yourself about sexual health as well as effective contraception.

You’re planning Russian Roulette on both counts.

Why are you giving an oik with this attitude the time of day?

I will say that there is most certainly a psychological glitch for some guys whereby they can loose their erection as soon as an attempt is made to slip a glove on. However this needs to be worked on and not used as an excuse for irresponsible sexual behaviour.

Not read replies, but if he’s reluctant to use condoms I would be wanting to have a
STD test at the clinic. How many other people has he slept with unprotected?

You’re putting yourself at risk not only of unplanned pregnancy, but a whole host of sexually transmitted diseases.

Screw copper coil. My cycles were SUPER short, periods heavy and I was anaemic was years.

He sounds pushy. You seem nice, OP but you can do better. He keeps bringing it up and trying to force you into doing something you have told him you're not interested in (pill).

He’ll get you pregnant and blame you for it. Society will validate him by saying he made it clear he didn’t want children so shouldn’t have to pay for it. A vasectomy is his only choice to not make a baby.

That's a very valid point.

some thicko syphilis ridden numpty

and that's just funny. LOL.

Just dont have sex with him again.

There are plenty of men out there who can keep it up in a condom, ditch this CF and find yourself one of those.